Borderline Personality Disorder

[HellNoHellYeah]

Anyone had to deal with someone who suffers from this? I'm being....not sure how to describe it....stalked/pursued/targetted/befriended by an individual who has this affliction. She comes across like Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction...

[Huggers]

Ive got a close female relative with narcissistic personality disorder. It's impossible to change their scripts through reason, intervention, anger, kindness...you are who you are in their script and you cannot change it. Prettty scarey if they are stalking you though..

[bigbadwolf]

HellNoHellYeah Wrote:

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> Anyone had to deal with someone who suffers from

> this?

Yeah, we have to deal with Woof and Sean on a daily basis.

[woofmarkthedog]

Tee hee

One false move.....oh yes....& one of us will get you

W**F

[woofmarkthedog]

Huggers Wrote:

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> Ive got a close female relative with narcissistic

> personality disorder. It's impossible to change

> their scripts through reason, intervention, anger,

> kindness...you are who you are in their script and

> you cannot change it. Prettty scarey if they are

> stalking you though..

Does your wife know how you talk about her on here ?

[Strawbs]

woofmarkthedog Wrote:

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> Huggers Wrote:

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> > Ive got a close female relative with

> narcissistic

> > personality disorder. It's impossible to change

> > their scripts through reason, intervention,

> anger,

> > kindness...you are who you are in their script

> and

> > you cannot change it. Prettty scarey if they

> are

> > stalking you though..

>

>

> Does your wife know how you talk about her on here

> ?

*huge laughter*..

[PeckhamRose]

Huggers is female, fool.

Anyway, this is a difficult one.

I wish you well, HNYN and would merely advise to offload on your good friends.

And - Huggers - that was a great description.

[HellNoHellYeah]

@PeckhamRose, I am really really scared. She has a fairly serious criminal history too, I've just discovered.

[woofmarkthedog]

HellNoHellYeah Wrote:

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> @PeckhamRose, I am really really scared. She has

> a fairly serious criminal history too, I've just

> discovered.

Ok how many times have you sh*gged her?

None

One

Two

Many

&

What crime ?

W**F

*you are on the job now are you...ohh..k *

[HellNoHellYeah]

woofmarkthedog Wrote:

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> HellNoHellYeah Wrote:

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> > @PeckhamRose, I am really really scared. She

> has

> > a fairly serious criminal history too, I've

> just

> > discovered.

>

>

> Ok how many times have you sh*gged her?

>

> None

>

> One

>

> Two

>

> Many

>

> &

>

> What crime ?

>

> W**F

>

> *you are on the job now are you...ohh..k *

I have not shagged her. As a heterosexual woman, I tend not to shag other women. She went down for four years for high-level fraud and on another occasion did a year for perverting the course of justice.

[Huguenot]

And yet still no shag?

[woofmarkthedog]

HellNoHellYeah Wrote:

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> woofmarkthedog Wrote:

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> > HellNoHellYeah Wrote:

> >

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> > -----

> > > @PeckhamRose, I am really really scared. She

> > has

> > > a fairly serious criminal history too, I've

> > just

> > > discovered.

> >

> >

> > Ok how many times have you sh*gged her?

> >

> > None

> >

> > One

> >

> > Two

> >

> > Many

> >

> > &

> >

> > What crime ?

> >

> > W**F

> >

> > *you are on the job now are you...ohh..k *

>

>

> I have not shagged her. As a heterosexual woman,

> I tend not to shag other women. She went down for

> four years for high-level fraud and on another

> occasion did a year for perverting the course of

> justice.

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Oh......OKAY

Soz ooops...miss read the whole situation

So hard to see who are the boys/girls & as you alluded to the Glen close in Fatal attraction ( see he did S*ag her )

I wrongly assumed (can you see me rapidly back pedaling here)your gender/orientation.....

Phew...

However she "your friend" is a hardcore crim. She hasn't asked you to cash any cheques/help look after Aunties money has she?

I know two people ( though a barge pole away now) who have done similar things.

Have they been caught & imprisoned ? Yes.

Have they learnt their lesson ? No.

How many prison terms ? 3/4 a peice

Will they ever? No

Do you want a mortgage/ car disappeared ? See above.

Can I go now?

W**F

* Thank f*ck for that......two fingers of whisky.....ahhh*

[annaj]

Personality is said to be made up of various characteristics, behaviours and emotional qualities and a personality disorder is a behaviour pattern or characteristics that fall outside what is accepted as normal.

All of us sit somewhere along a scale for any given characteristic, for example empathy or neuroticism, but most of us are within a normal range. Someone with personality disorder is outside of that range for certain characteristics to the point where the imbalance causes problems for themselves or others.

There are ten main types of personality disorder each with its own set of characteristics. People with borderline personality disorder tend to be intense and unstable in relationships, impulsive and have low self-esteem. They can be prone to self harm and alcohol and drug use. They often idealise people and become very attached and them become frustrated and disappointed when people fail to live up to their idealised expectations.

Without knowing a lot more about the situation it's impossible to advise exactly what you should do, but it's a good idea to decide what your boundaries are, in other words how involved you want to be with this person, and stick to them.

Personality disorders are not illnesses and cannot be cured as such. Some psychiatrists argue that diagnosing them is not helpful to the individual as it results in labelling and a sense of passivity (I can't help it it's my personality disorder) whilst others believe it helps people to understand their behaviour and any problems they may face.

Hope that helps a bit, or at least gives you some context.

[Peckhamgatecrasher]

Bloody hell, Anna. I didn't know I had a borderline personality disorder until your post!

[bigbadwolf]

annaj Wrote:

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>

> There are ten main types of personality disorder

> each with its own set of characteristics. People

> with borderline personality disorder tend to be

> intense and unstable in relationships, impulsive

> and have low self-esteem. They can be prone

to alcohol and drug use. They often

> idealise people and become very attached and them

> become frustrated and disappointed when people

> fail to live up to their idealised expectations.

Women eh.

[LuLu Too]

HellNoHellYeah Wrote:

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> Anyone had to deal with someone who suffers from

> this? I'm being....not sure how to describe

> it....stalked/pursued/targetted/befriended by an

> individual who has this affliction. She comes

> across like Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction...

I'm curious as to whether this person you mention has received a definitive diagnosis of BPD. Have she told you this or is this your interpretation based on their behaviour and history?

Given her offending history, some degree of PD would not be uncommon.

As Annaj said - decide your boundaries and stick to them.

Do not be manipulated - she is responsible for her own behaviour, actions and the consequences thereof.

Be explicit and clear about what you will and will not accept - Maybe tell her if you do not wish to be her friend or even acquaintance.

Alternatively disattend to her - ignore her. Do not respond to emails/calls/texts if you do not want to be involved in anyway with her.

And if you really are frightened of or feel threatened by this woman, then you must report this to the Police.

If she is known to Mental Health or Probabtion Services then this information is helpful to them.

Even if she isn't known to such services, a Police Caution (if grounds for such) will serve as some degree of feedback to her on the unacceptability of her behaviour and be noted on her Police record.

[dulwichdreadlocks]

LuLu Too Wrote:

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> HellNoHellYeah Wrote:

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> > Anyone had to deal with someone who suffers

> from

> > this? I'm being....not sure how to describe

> > it....stalked/pursued/targetted/befriended by

> an

> > individual who has this affliction. She comes

> > across like Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction...

>

>

> I'm curious as to whether this person you mention

> has received a definitive diagnosis of BPD. Have

> she told you this or is this your interpretation

> based on their behaviour and history?

> Given her offending history, some degree of PD

> would not be uncommon.

>

> As Annaj said - decide your boundaries and stick

> to them.

> Do not be manipulated - she is responsible for her

> own behaviour, actions and the consequences

> thereof.

> Be explicit and clear about what you will and will

> not accept - Maybe tell her if you do not wish to

> be her friend or even acquaintance.

> Alternatively disattend to her - ignore her. Do

> not respond to emails/calls/texts if you do not

> want to be involved in anyway with her.

>

> And if you really are frightened of or feel

> threatened by this woman, then you must report

> this to the Police.

> If she is known to Mental Health or Probabtion

> Services then this information is helpful to

> them.

> Even if she isn't known to such services, a Police

> Caution (if grounds for such) will serve as some

> degree of feedback to her on the unacceptability

> of her behaviour and be noted on her Police

> record.

terrorizing people.

[annaj]

Who is, dulwichdreadlocks?

[cate]

Could you see a solicitor and see if you can get an injunction to get her to stay away from you? Does she have a probation officer?