what do single approaching 40's do in East Dulwich

[miffy]

Okay I am a huge supporter of East Dulwich, because after all it is the centre of the universe, but even I am struggling as a single approaching 40 female, to meet and socialise with other single friends. Is it age, or area as everyone in East Dulwich seems to be a young family, or maybe that is my perception. I dont think i am ready for the womens institute just yet!!! If I am missing the action, let me know quickly.

[FrustratedLawyer]

The WI is a venerable institution, you shouldn't dismiss it out of hand. However if all else fails try match.com

Come to think of it what do single 20 somethings do in ED? In nearly 2 years I've yet to come across anyone single under the age of 30!

[Amelie]

I'm with Miffy, my 40th is rapidly approaching and everyone in ED seems to be married.

[dulwichmum]

No, the WI is not for everyone. In my mind, it will forever be associated with big knickered ladies and lemons in socks cleavage like my monster-in-law. A bunch of new members with Orla Kiely wipe clean vinyl handbags do not make it trendy. I know that people are calling it the Trendy WI, but will they be referring to Saga as trendy soon just because they move on to the next stage in their lives?

The summer is coming Mifi, plug in your GHD, get your high heels on and get into town. Some things are worth travelling into town for!

[Cassius]

Miffy - I met a lot of other women through the gym - people who were at first someone just to smile at and occasionally say Hi became friends. I guess you have to be confident enough to suggest going for a cup of coffee after a class and see if that leads to a more friendly footing. It worked for me.

[Spartacus]

Miffy and Amelie

Sadly the truth is that you do what single over 30's 40's and any age does, smile a lot at members of the opposite and same sex, look as glamerous as you are, slip into a glamerous skirt / dress / outfit, best Jimmy-choo's forward and talk to strangers with confidence.

(The last option works for me, although everyone in the maudsley is a stranger to me...)

If you want to know where single men go, that is the same question us men havce been asking for years, where do single women go... I think if we can both solve that question then job done and everyone happy...

Maybe the pair of you should get together and 'go shopping' in the bars around East Dulwich for good male-totty (if you do please warn mothers of single men in east dulwich so that they can lock their innocent sons up for the night !!)

[Mikecg]

Where have you been hiding? go to Crystals night club at Selhurst Park, it's an over 25's club.

[Jah Lush]

You could always come along to the EDF drinks Miffy. First Friday of every month.

[LuvPeckham]

Maybe we can have an over 21's section in the bar...which would be fuller then a sailors stern after months at sea !!!

[miffy]

I am really going for the over 21's section in the bar and even better if it was full of sailors. Amelie, if you are up for shopping and drinks in east dulwich let me know. I am all up for meeting new people, but remind me not to go the adventure bar wearing my hoodie!!!!

[CW1]

Miffy and Amelie

I am 34, single and female and am also finding it rather hard to hook up with fellow females, let alone men! I go to the gym before work and so not the best time to suggest a coffee as everyone is intent on getting to work. I am certainly up for shopping and drinks in ED - just name the date!

[louisiana]

miffy Wrote:

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> Okay I am a huge supporter of East Dulwich,

> because after all it is the centre of the

> universe, but even I am struggling as a single

> approaching 40 female,

If you think it's bad, wait until you are approaching 50s :)

[Amelie]

Right

I have emailed Miffy and CW1 directly; anyone else for shopping and drinks?

:)-D

[Applespider]

Yeah, I'd be up for some drinks with some like-minded women

[LuvPeckham]

I have warned my mother, and she has consented to lock me up THAT night and give you girls some very stern looks if you approach my house (although she may also join you for a bottle of wine or two if asked)

[crispy]

Hello, i would like to join this club! ( single and approaching 40, thought i was the only one).Still would love to go out in east dulwich, but all my friends are at home these days with their children / husbands, let me know if anything is arranged?!

[giggirl]

Hello, can I come too. I've got nice shoes.

Px

[Amelie]

Clazza would also like to come. When is a convenient date for everyone?

[sujay]

Hi Im 51 in 2 weeks time, am i too old to come along, you could always sit me in the corner if you felt i was cramping your style....

[Louisa]

I find coming onto an internet forum and venting my anger a good thing to do for an over 40 in ED.

Louisa.

[miffy]

Okay I am taking control, how about Friday evening in The Black Cherry at 8pm, that way we can have coffee whilst nursing our hangovers on Saturday morning.

[Amelie]

Sounds good to me, see you there.

[miffy]

is it too camp to suggest we wear a small flash of red?

[Clazza]

sounds good to me as well. Shall we exchange numbers via PM?

[Applespider]

Argh! I'm in Scotland this weekend and flying up on Friday night. I shall hope though that this is a wild success so I can come to event number 2!