Who do you think is in The Clique?

[maxxi]

Otta neatly ousting himself from the 100s clique - fine work.

[Blah Blah]

Point taken minder. I just think it's better not to add fuel to the fire, and rise to it when that happens. It's clearly opened a few raw wounds.

[El Pibe]

. aaah fuck it

[Dulwich Born And Bred]

What what what?

Re the clique , I joined back in the day and everyone was really lovely then some of us had kids and became grumpy impatient sods which reflected in our short tempered posts.

I know quite a few people on here personally know each other but I have more of an issue with the posters who are so rude in their replies and like to belittle others , there is just no need for it but generally I just kick my door in frustration and let it go when I come across the likes . It's just a forum at the end of the day with your usual mixture of people .

StraferJack Wrote:

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> whihc thread gone? Edited to Add - ah teh McCann

> one

>

>

> when Dulwich B&B came in on the SMBS thread I had

> given up and heeded the advice several people gave

> me to stop

>

> DB&B sounded confused more than accusatory and had

> I engaged with her (as Sue did) it would have

> been prolonging the thing

[Dulwich Born And Bred]

SJ,

I have to say without being able to see your expression and hear your tone I did take your message below to be a bit of a dig . You could have just left it at the first line .

StraferJack Wrote:

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> Is that McCann forum still going sue?

>

> Do you still spend hours on it? Or even visit for

> a peek?

[StraferJack]

DB&B: " everyone was really lovely then some of us had kids and became grumpy impatient sods which reflected in our short tempered posts. "

There speaketh the truth!

"I have to say without being able to see your expression and hear your tone I did take your message below to be a bit of a dig . You could have just left it at the first line .

"

It was a bit of dig in truth - I find the Sue's sometimes combination of dog/bone intransigence coupled with "who me?" stance grating - especially when playing the wounded party. She had asked el pibe to repost his words so I didn't think I was forcing an issue

But as i've said before, I might give her a hard time on here, but I've met her on many occasions and face to face we seem to get on ok.

[Louisa]

And you wonder why I didn't turn up for forum drinks? If you have a little dig at Sue like that god only knows what sort of time I'd be in for!

Louisa.

[StraferJack]

you mean it could be WORSE between us Lou?

Don't think I've met Sue at forum drinks tho (then again..) - the odd Goose gig, and then out and about. Last time I saw here was (I Think) at Ivy House where she was playing with daughter #1

[Alan Medic]

If there is such a thing as a clique on the forum I am sure it is because certain posters know each other personally and sometimes use their own 'in jokes' which no one else can understand. That comes across as childish more than anything else given it's a public forum.

Here are the lads on a night out.

[red devil]

Alan Medic Wrote:

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> If there is such a thing as a clique on the forum

> I am sure it is because certain posters know each

> other personally and sometimes use their own 'in

> jokes' which no one else can understand. That

> comes across as childish more than anything else

> given it's a public forum.

Ergo, you have to be in the gang to understand it's an 'in joke'. Which begs the question Meds, how do you know an 'in joke' has been made?...

[Alan Medic]

An 'in joke' is one I don't get.

[red devil]

So how do you know there are 'in jokes' then?...

[Alan Medic]

Cause I don't get them. What else could they be? I'm excluded from them so it's got to be the work of the clique. Are you a member RD?

[red devil]

My point is, how do you know it's a joke in the first place? If only 'the clique' understand them, then only 'the clique' will know a joke has been said...

[Alan Medic]

Jeez RD, you are more pedantic than I am and that's saying something. It's the white pointy hats they are wearing that gives them away.

[red devil]

So basically your summarisation of the clique is a load of white pointed hatted bollox...

[Alan Medic]

Probably......but I'd argue it's as good as anyone's........

[Atticus]

A delicious irony was observed earlier on this thread. Surely non more saliva inducing though, than that of the sight of the said clique regrouping, shooting from the hip once again, in utter denial.

[El Pibe]

Saliva inducing denial hip shoot.

That's actually in the OED under clique.

[kristen]

I?ve been using the forum for a few years and think it's a fantastic resource and I?m really grateful for it ? it?s also satisfies my need for local gossip and helps me feel connected to East Dulwich as a community (although I know it?s not the whole picture).

But during this time think it?s got more and more ?cliquey? I think it?s harder for newcomers to join in debates/discussions and that a lot of people ? except the ?old-time? (sorry!) regulars - just use it for local information purposes ? buy/sell, find out about businesses etc.

As groups/online communities develops the shared connects deepen and this can create something that becomes difficult for newcomers to participate in. Again ? this isn't a bad thing ? online communities are all to a certain extent cliques.

But I think that there is a loss ? particularly if something is a place of local connection - if it?s hard for people to join in. There is also the potential that things will start to wither and become just a series of self-replicating thoughts/debate/discussions.

Otta Wrote:

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> Clique is a word that gets used a fair bit on this

> forum,but I'm never sure who's meant to be in it,

> or indeed if there is more than one. Sometimes I

> think "they're including me in that", other times

> I think "there's no way I'm in with that lot".

>

> So who is the clique? Is there more than one

> clique? Or do people just throw "clique" about

> because they're talking shit and everyone is

> telling them so?

[Blah Blah]

'There is also the potential that things will start to wither and become just a series of self-replicating thoughts/debate/discussions.'

That is an extremely goood point, and something I've seen on other forums. Debate does get locked down to the same predictable range of of views and responses. Debate is about expressing a view, listening to the antithesis, and being prepared to change your view if the antithesis has merit. What often happens I think is that debate in forums is not debate at all, but a sounding box for people with strong and unmovable opinions.

[numbers]

never understood people complaining about cliques, they are still posting though so it can't be that bad... When I first joined the forum, I read a little bit at first and liked the banter so that drew me in. That was when Honaloochie and Ted were prolific posters so lots of hilarity and intelligent conversation. There were some natural forum 'double acts' that made me laugh out loud.

It was obvious that people had met IRL through forum drinks/hobbies or knew each other from before it was set up but to me that was what made it quite intriguing. When I plucked up courage to meet people in the area, I found that esp at the forum drinks people tended to talk about other stuff rather than the forum all night (thankfully). Would never have put the same faces to posting names in some cases!

I think there will always be people in life who find it easier to join in/mingle/take part/whatever you want to call it and the same goes for their online activity as that in the 'real' world, sometimes the opposite. If that makes sense. I was a bit apprehensive at dipping my toe in the water for the first time. Esp as I got pounced on by one of the moderators for my comment (heheh). Some people are more prone to flouncing than others.

[numbers]

Alan Medic Wrote:

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> An 'in joke' is one I don't get.

the 100s game could be perceived by some to be an 'in-joke'. You 'get' that one I'm sure.

[numbers]

"It was a bit of dig in truth - I find the Sue's sometimes combination of dog/bone intransigence coupled with "who me?" stance grating - especially when playing the wounded party. She had asked el pibe to repost his words so I didn't think I was forcing an issue"

no wonder the 'dog/bone intransigence' when people add unnecessary digs upthread (downthread?) which perpetuate matters even more. I think your question was quite unkind to Sue really when you asked how often looked at other forums on THAT subject. anyway I realise I have come to the thread late.

[Alan Medic]

numbers Wrote:

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> Alan Medic Wrote:

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> > An 'in joke' is one I don't get.

>

> the 100s game could be perceived by some to be an

> 'in-joke'. You 'get' that one I'm sure.

It's a game and anyone who thinks it's a joke should try playing it. Hours sometimes of sitting there, waiting for someone to post number 399 and then strike like a cobra. Meanwhile on another thread while I'm distracted some idiot posts an inane comment number 800 and doesn't even realise it. This is what the highs and lows of hundreds is all about. Joke me you know what. I'm thinking of turning professional.