Monkey Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 My poor husband is having a mental breakdown due to work related stress. He's in a state - It's pretty bad. Can Seldoc sign off for stress? I am worried about not getting an appointment with GP on Monday. I would call Seldoc but he's finally fallen asleep so i dare not move. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluesuperted Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 How awful, so sorry. Call Seldoc as soon as you wake up in the morning (or if he wakes up and needs to be seen earlier in the night) and get the first appointment of the day - I've done this with my children when they are poorly and have needed to be checked but have been peacefully sleeping at this time of night. Hope he gets help very soon, sounds terrible and if in doubt there is always A&E, don't struggle on your own. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803167 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monkey Posted November 29, 2014 Author Share Posted November 29, 2014 Thank you so much. Here's to a quiet night. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803168 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs TP Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 How sad for you both. If Monday is to be his first day off work then you can phone in sick for him. You don't need a sick form from the first day. Not sure but it is something like after 5 / 7 days. Make an appt for the GP within the week and if necessary they will back date an official certificate but certainly do speak to Seldoc in the meantime to get immediate help. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803193 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mustard Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Yes, pretty sure you can self-certificate for a week, unless it has changed. This was the case when I worked in an office. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803262 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Convex Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Yes, you definitely can. It's actually something like 8 days to include amy weekend days in the middle of the absence. But if the absence is starting tomorrow then that would be day 1. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803289 Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowboarder Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Monkey how are things today? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803307 Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluesuperted Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Was just coming on to ask the same, hope things are a little better today. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803308 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monkey Posted November 30, 2014 Author Share Posted November 30, 2014 Hi guys,Much, much better, thank you all for being so caring. He's still stressed but he's not paralysed by it any more. He refused to see the doc this morning, preferring to rest. Dd and I gave him space and he seems to now be looking at his workload and dealing with it.We will see what tomorrow brings.Thank you again! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803314 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mustard Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Convex Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> Yes, you definitely can. It's actually something> like 8 days to include amy weekend days in the> middle of the absence. But if the absence is> starting tomorrow then that would be day 1.Yes, I looked it up. 7 days to include weekends can be self certificated. They are now called Fit notes, not sick notes. So in theory he could take 7 days off, starting tomorrow, and go back the following Monday without having to see a doctor. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803315 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monkey Posted November 30, 2014 Author Share Posted November 30, 2014 Thank you for the advice on sick notes too, which I did not mention above. That's really helpful. I am hoping that he'll cope at work but if not, of course he can self certify. For some reasons, I thought stress might not fall within the scope.I am going to book him an appointment tomorrow with our usual GP, who's excellent, for him to have a proper assessment and be all looked after, my little hubby.Thanks all. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803318 Share on other sites More sharing options...
midivydale Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Hi Monkey,Glad to hear things seem better today. Just a note to say that if your husband is self certifying he does not need to say what that reason is. Also does his firm have an employee assistance programme? I have looked into alot of resources for stress recently and would be happy to share some of the info I have found, please pm me if so.On the same note, make sure you look after yourself too, healthy eating, vitamin D from the sun and early nights. Sending a cyberhug Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803332 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belle Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Really sorry to hear this, it's very hard to watch someone you love go through this. I would add to the excellent advice above 1) you can certainly push for an urgent appointment with your GP in those circumstances, i.e. don't feel you have to wait for a routine appt to come up, which may take a while. 2) It's great things seem brighter, and they often do the morning after, but I think you're right to still seek an appointment, because these things come in waves. It's worth tackling straight away. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803333 Share on other sites More sharing options...
hpsaucey Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 HI there Monkey. I"m a Union Health and Safety rep so get a lot of stress cases at work. If your husband is in a Union then they will be another avenue of resources/ advice as well. I also have some links to some excellent resources - many of them actually via the MIND website on dealing with stress at work, ALso to help others look out for and identify the possible signs. PM me if you need links, and please, whilst helping your husband, find the time to take care of yourself as well (easier said than done I know)! HP Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803339 Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellosailor Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Hi Monkey, How is he today? Hope he got to see your usual GP, sending hugs xx Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803567 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monkey Posted December 1, 2014 Author Share Posted December 1, 2014 Hi all,Thank you again for everything, all the support and the advice. Now much, much better. I think it was one big, impressive and scary stress/panic attack. We're still seeing the doc later on this week as this could happen again. And yes totally looking after myself too. Got a morning nanny. Lots of ready meals. Etc....Thanks again! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803574 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pickle Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 So pleased to hear this, and in awe of the cool headed way you have dealt with the situation. Here's hoping you all get a chance to relax and unwind over the festive season x Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/52026-mental-breakdown/#findComment-803582 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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