giggirl Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 Over the years I've found the Forum a valuable resource for all-things local. A lot of people do. I'm sure that most Forum users are decent people who add value with their own posts, but unfortunately that's not the whole story. In quick succession I've had two local service-providers tell me that they've been threatened with bad reviews as a bargaining tool.Today I bumped into a local trader who was upset as he'd just had such a conversation. His company does excellent work and if you were to run a search on here you'd find lots of glowing reviews. He is passionate about his work and wants happy clients. I think the gist of his current dilemma is that if he doesn't throw in some extra work for free, he's going to get a mauling. The client isn't prepared to pay for materials or labour. They know how powerful the Forum is, and are gambling that his reputation is worth more to him than his profit margin.My advice was to give them a very firm "no". Easy for me to say though isn't it? Not sure how I'd respond if I'd spent years building up a successful company and someone was threatening to take my good reputation away. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
damzel Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 This is what happens on Trip Advisor too - my friend built a Riad in Marrakesh and is frequently threatened with bad reviews unless they throw in freebies and discounts. It's disgusting. I'm not sure what the answer is but agree with you as once you give in to blackmail, it won't stop. If it was me, I'd turn down the business (assuming I wasn't desperate for it). Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780065 Share on other sites More sharing options...
StraferJack Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 I would engage with the forum and give the traders own side of the conversation. Reverse the tactic and user-shame Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780069 Share on other sites More sharing options...
speedbird Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 Isn't that just plain old blackmail? If so, report to the Police and the forum and have the posts removed. I don't own a business in this area, but live here. There is no power of the forum if people go to the right authority. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780071 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruffler Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 Hopefully one rogue review won't make too much different as it will be outnumbered by the positive experiences of happy customers. A bad review can also spectacularly backfire on the OP as in the recent case of "sweetgirl" and Cafe Noodle. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780072 Share on other sites More sharing options...
MelonSmasher Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 Very true post, discussed exactly the same thing with a business owner about six months ago when I was working on Lordship Lane. Props for raising the issue, which although might not be frequently occurring, is a very lowly and malicious way to get what you want. Threatening a business's reputation is threatening that person's bread and butter. I know for a fact that a certain shop on LL which, although a little bit expensive to the consumer, hasn't made a pounds profit for the owner in about two years. Staff pay, rent, rates bills, cash in stock etc all add up, the owners are not always rolling about in money despite how it may seem. But yeah, seems to be either the same person flexing their online prowess or another clown. I'm sure that all businesses aspire to deliver great customer service, there are very few things that can't be talked out and reasoned in a retail situation so these clowns must really be something special that's all I can say Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780110 Share on other sites More sharing options...
muffins78 Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 It's seriously wrong and mistakes can happen anywhere or at any time - even if we look at our own jobs for instance, I'm sure we are not always perfect!I should hope that people see beyond negative reviews if they do appear to be "off". Some people really don't understand the expense involved in running a business, it's definitely not 9 to 5 either!After reading Rufflers post about sweetgirl, I had a look - I've never tried Cafe Noodle before, I will this week!! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780121 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seabag Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 First say no, then out them if they do. The OP alone gives the builder some foundation. God some people are slime balls thoI USED to work in the design business, weird things happen to peoples egos and aspirations, specially when they can't afford what they want. I've seen adults in their own homes act appallingly, they turn into power/money crazed egomaniacsI trusted my gut instinct with customers, it was rarely wrong. Didn't stop me taking on/regretting some clientsBut the funniest was a Jewish Lady, originally from New York, I really didn't want the job, so I doubled our quote, it was ridiculous. When I told her she wailed "How much, oh my God, hand me the Prozac" shortly followed by "When can you start" Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780125 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pugwash Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 We recently stayed a couple of nights at a Sussex Hotel which is about a 10 minute drive away from our daughter's home. This was the 3rd time we stayed. In the evening of the first night our bathroom was covered with tiny flies, dropping down dead everywhere and we had to rinse out the bath to have a shower in the morning. My husband mentioned this to the staff and suggested that there was something wrong with the ventaxia in the bathroom. Got back that evening, clear from the smell and cleanliness of the bathroom that someone had tried to sort out the problem. Same thing happened overnight. We were leaving the next day anyway so hubby mentioned the problem again and suggested that it was fixed properly before the next guest. Hotel said that they would like to give us a small refund for our trouble, which hubby accepted. He was astonished that they returned the cost of one night's stay ?72 - had only expected ?20 or so. We will be using the hotel again but had we made a big fuss and public outcry about the flies, I would have been too embarrassed to show my face there again. Sometimes you have to complain, but if done correctly, i8t does not ruin a business.No way would I have demanded a refund or freebee Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780154 Share on other sites More sharing options...
JohnL Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 Most people can tell a lie even if they don't fully recognise it.And a liar only has to be caught once to lose credibility.Then again some people genuinely expect higher standards (you might call them fussy :)) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780195 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrator Administrator Posted September 9, 2014 Administrator Share Posted September 9, 2014 Trip Advisor has a team of 300 people and an algorithm which track fake posts,complaints, blackmailing etc and we don't have that manpower.Tell the trader to send me a PM, I'll ban the user, remove all their posts, shame them and help the trader if they need to push charges. The forum is not to be used as a blackmailing negotiation tool. It's the odd 1 or 2 people (out of the 52,000 registered users) who try it on and threatening local businesses with derogatory forum posts to get freebies is not on. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780223 Share on other sites More sharing options...
intexasatthe moment Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 That's a great response from Admin . Well done . Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780232 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rolo Tomasi Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 Good stuff Admin. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780248 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 Seabag Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> But the funniest was a Jewish Lady, originally> from New York, I really didn't want the job, so I> doubled our quote, it was ridiculous. When I told> her she wailed "How much, oh my God, hand me the> Prozac" shortly followed by "When can you start"xxxxxxWhat's the fact that she was Jewish got to do with anything? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780259 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seabag Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 Sue Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> Seabag Wrote:> --------------------------------------------------> -----> > > But the funniest was a Jewish Lady, originally> > from New York, I really didn't want the job, so> I> > doubled our quote, it was ridiculous. When I> told> > her she wailed "How much, oh my God, hand me> the> > Prozac" shortly followed by "When can you> start"> > xxxxxx> > What's the fact that she was Jewish got to do with> anything?She played on it Sue, she was very proud of her heritage and comic wit. And she was dead pan funny indeedWhy, what's your point ? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780281 Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidKruger Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 What's the fact that she was from NY got to do with it ? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780335 Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidKruger Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 What's her gender got to do with it ? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780336 Share on other sites More sharing options...
spider69 Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 If you have lived in Manhattan you would appreciate this gemOyev Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780338 Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimbo1964 Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 Or watched any Woody Allen film. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780343 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 Seabag Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> Sue Wrote:> --------------------------------------------------> -----> > Seabag Wrote:> >> --------------------------------------------------> > > -----> > > > > But the funniest was a Jewish Lady,> originally> > > from New York, I really didn't want the job,> so> > I> > > doubled our quote, it was ridiculous. When I> > told> > > her she wailed "How much, oh my God, hand me> > the> > > Prozac" shortly followed by "When can you> > start"> > > > xxxxxx> > > > What's the fact that she was Jewish got to do> with> > anything?> She played on it Sue, she was very proud of her> heritage and comic wit. And she was dead pan funny> indeed> > Why, what's your point ?xxxxxxxFrom your post it wasn't clear (to me) that she was indicating pride in her heritage and comic wit.I thought you were stereotyping Jewish people. If you weren't, then I apologise. Please forgive me, I'm currently quite unwell and my brain is mush, so quite likely I missed the subtleties. It's a long time since I've seen a Woody Allen movie, and I've never been to Manhattan, though not sure how either of those things are particularly relevant. But maybe that's due to the brain mush too :(Oh, and for those who constantly have a go at me for putting in little crosses to distinguish whose post is whose, the part in bold above is why :)) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780351 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Salsaboy Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 Oh for goodness sake, lighten up everyone. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780369 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seabag Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 Don't be harsh on yourself SueGet some rest and some Chicken SoupIt's the miracle cure for being out of sortshttp://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/wordofmouth/2011/jan/13/how-make-perfect-chicken-soup Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780429 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrator Administrator Posted September 9, 2014 Administrator Share Posted September 9, 2014 Please stay on topic Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780445 Share on other sites More sharing options...
maxxi Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 Administrator Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> Please stay on topicalready Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780463 Share on other sites More sharing options...
lily323zj Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 Your very helpful to me these words, I hope you like me, thank you!http://www.cloth4mine.com/ Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/48859-blackmailing-local-traders-give-me-free-stuff-or-ill-put-a-bad-review-on-the-edfl/#findComment-780475 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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