Robert Poste's Child Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 What does this have to do with ED issues? Other than the Guardian-Daily Mail kneejerk responses which do seem to be a local characteristic, often within the same person. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758310 Share on other sites More sharing options...
newboots Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 Loz, if you want a debate about feminist writers and The Guardian then you need to start your own thread in the Lounge. Op has nothing to do with The Guardian. You have gone off on a baffling tangent. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758311 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loz Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 This is a tangent, and I'll stop now, but just a response to SJ...I agree that it is a different sexism to the DM, but there is definitely a 'two sides of the same coin' to them. DM's tabloid-style 'phoar' style versus the Gruin's faux-academic approach. (Though it is always interesting to note that the DM's has the most female readers in the UK. Not sure what that says, though).But, Tanya Gold and Julie Bindel are pretty compelling evidence on their own. As is just about every article in the short, dreadful history of Jessica Valetti as well - her 'mansplaining' article was pretty dire. And Suzanne Moore just seems to hate everyone. The Gruin's general movement away from the whole concept that 'feminism is about choice' for women is pretty bad. Their hounding of certain women like Louise Mensch when she declared herself a feminist can be pretty unpleasant. Their general ignoring of male and gay/lesbian domestic violence victims is pretty bad.Do you really think there isn't a thick streak of sexism and hypocrisy in the Guardian op-eds? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758314 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Otta Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 I took the first post as written by someone who thinks the YM label is silly, not as someone who would earnestly use it, hence my silly response to it.Maybe I got it wrong, but didn't think it was the usual YM type post.Clearly I'm naive today. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758335 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saffron Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 I liked your silly response. ;-) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758347 Share on other sites More sharing options...
jamespetts Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 Saila Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> .. another dismissive, derogatory phrase for a> woman, with no equivalent for a man. yawn. boring> sexism at its best.May I suggest the male equivalent of "dishy daddy"? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758348 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saila Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 this is actually turning into a fascinating and amusingly blatant thread.Mother - edf's version "yummy mummy"Whore - edf's version "tart"Bitch - edf's version "guardian-reading-feminist"which box is it to be 'girls'?:) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758357 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeremy Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 uncleglen Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> And...the ridiculous footwear that women are> expected to wear in order to look 'fashionable' is> the modern day equivalent of foot-binding!Are men really to blame for that? People can wear whatever they want.. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758359 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sophron Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 So did I :-) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758364 Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyDeliah Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 The high shoes thing is supposed to be something to do with making our bum look higher and perkier, which apparently triggers the primal sex centre in most guys' brains.So yeh, guys, it's totally your fault! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758372 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loz Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Saila Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> this is actually turning into a fascinating and amusingly blatant thread.> > Bitch - edf's version "guardian-reading-feminist"You are putting words into my mouth that I did not - and would not - use. So, I would change that to:Sexist idiot - edf's version "guardian-reading-feminist" Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758410 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeremy Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 I have to say Loz... not really quite sure what you're getting at here... don't know why you thought the conversation had "moved to the depths of the Guardian-style-feminist opinion writer".The term - taken at face value - wouldn't be so bad, but when it's used as a criticism I think that says a lot about a person's views. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758415 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loz Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Jeremy Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> I have to say Loz... not really quite sure what> you're getting at here... don't know why you> thought the conversation had "moved to the depths> of the Guardian-style-feminist opinion writer".> > The term - taken at face value - wouldn't be so> bad, but when it's used as a criticism I think> that says a lot about a person's views.Really going onto a tangent here.I believe in equality for everyone, and hate racism and sexism - and I'll not apologise for that. If that says a lot about me then, well, excellent, really. And some of that is at odds with the Guardian's iffy viewpoint. Why do you have a problem with that? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758427 Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyDeliah Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Julie Bindell is an asexual arsehole who hates women who enjoy (mostly heterosexual) sex as she seems to believe the post-modern feminist shit that all heterosexual sex is rape.And don't get me started on her infantilisation of sex workers, who can never be anything other than a victim in her eyes, despite many sex workers making intelligent choices about their chosen profession and controlling their working environment more than most female workers in mainstream jobs are able to. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758432 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loz Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Well, LD, I have to say I didn't see that coming! Not only all you say, but her views on transsexuals are particularly repugnant. But Bindel is far from the only one at the Gruin with entirely patronising views of sex workers. I'm glad someone sees through the Guardian's shiny 'it's OK, my bigotry is so right on' status. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758439 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeremy Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Loz, I was really referring to your first post on this thread. People were expressing disdain for the term "yummy mummy", and you responded by suggesting the thread had taken some sort of extreme-feminist turn. And I can't figure out why you thought that.Didn't mean to drag out the Guardian argument at all.. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758453 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loz Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Ah, sorry Jeremy - I misunderstood. Your post came straight under a different post of mine, so I assumed it was referring to that.Actually, it was Saila's post that made me think 'that's so Guardian'. His/her later attempt to maliciously misrepresent my comment for effect only reinforced that feeling. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758468 Share on other sites More sharing options...
KalamityKel Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 I often find those that use terms such as being discussed (Yummy Mummy/Tart) don't use it necessarily in the context it is interpreted and many don't truly know (as with the many many many phrases used today whether on the "sexist" or "racist" spectrum) the proper definitions. Agree with me or (most probably) not it becomes slang with not much thought behind it - something casually used as a description of something where by most can understand without much discussion. Are we offended by the use of "chav"? On the surface "chav" is used so loosely yet is offensive below the surface. Those that tend to be offended by such words then in return make judgments on the individual using it which can be just as inaccurate. A circle difficult to break. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758485 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alan Medic Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 I wonder what the user called Yummy Mummy will think if she ever reads this thread? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758488 Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyDeliah Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 I'd be insulted to be called a yummy mummy, with all of the connotations associated with the term. I'd much rather be a tart. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758508 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Otta Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Good post from KalamityKel, I think you're spot on. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758511 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loz Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Agree with KK also. It's a interesting line to tread - do you allow those words to fall into casual usage and lose their 'power' or do you maintain them as 'bad' words with power to hurt? The gay community seems quite adept at adopting abusive words aimed at them and taming them.But it's worth noting that there is a big difference between 'Yummy Mummy' and 'tart', in that the former, I believe, was actually coined by those 'aspiring' to such status, but is now used disparagingly. Bit like 'macho', perhaps. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758523 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeremy Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Context is everything. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758539 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Otta Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 And geography. "Tart" is very commonly used in Liverpool especially by the older generation. "How's your tart?" (meaning your wife or girlfriend) wouldn't raise an eyebrow from said woman.An older bloke in my then local once said it to me, and then explained it to me when he saw my jaw drop. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758543 Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Bob* Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 I've been monitoring jackangel's contributions carefully over the last few months - and have now come to my conclusion.Bell-end. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/45945-yummy-mummy-vs-tart/page/2/#findComment-758554 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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