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Services offered,required and something called Respect


JoanaP

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Hello,


I'm going to relate something what recently happened to me: after I was replying to a post from this section requiring help with a bichon who has anxiety problems, the lady was answering the phone and we decided to meet up in Peckam Rye park on Friday morning at 10:30am, after 10 mins of waiting I've texted the lady to ask if she is ok then again in 20 mins I thought to give her a call to see if everything is ok with her, but no one answered so I decided to leave from the park and if she was going to contact me, I was nearby so it wasn't going to be a problem to go back and meet her but as I did not get a call from her I finished my remaining jobs in the area and left;later on in the evening I called the lady again as I was confused about the morning meeting but l've contacted her from a different number as I had a funny feeling about her,she answered and when I told her about the meeting;she said something came up and she was sorry and busy at that moment but promised she will call me at 7:30pm.I'm going to let you make a guess?Well obviously I haven't heard from her again and I needed to discuss in here about how the Respect can be shown or not to someone and the result is making someone to pay a price because of others who don't care. I'm talking about required or offered services, for both ways to work the same. The username of the mentioned person above is Safa,opinions from other members are very welcomed as there are two sides on this situation: to let it go or to let the others be aware.


Thank you

I'm sorry all that happened to you, I really am. A few similar things happened to me recently as a result of the forum. I posted about a guy who I stupidly waited for twice to come and collect an item offered. Like you, communication was appalling and no effort made to say he wasn't coming. I had another couple of instances with tradesmen, not turning up etc and that totally threw certain things and leave I'd planned from work. But hey ho, what can you do? You must have been so frustrated - the thing is, people cry wolf and when they will need help, it won't be there! What probably worries me more, is that the way society can be now, when we do get let down trying to help another - does it come to a stage where once bitten, twice shy!


For me, I think now there is always going to be a few bad eggs and I don't want to stop being who I am, because of others, so I will continue to act in good faith and hope that it will be met with respect like you say.

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