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We do seem to be talking about lots of different things here.


There are some people who are contrarian ? they will look for an argument within a thread ? and frequently (but not inevitably) are readable when they do so. They are prepared to ?take-on? other feisty posters and tend neither to use dismissive or ?threatening? language when they do. One at least, who has been quite silent recently, is missed, at least by me, although we were frequently on opposite sides of any debate.


There are some people who take a clear and consistent stance (perhaps over wild-life, over dogs and dog-poo, over cars, over cyclists, over CPZs (my pseudonym might be seen there), over the social changes seen in ED) and will weigh-in whenever they can, often quite stridently, and repetitively. These are far more monomaniacs than bullies.


Indeed neither of these groups are cyber-bullies ? although I am sure those on the other end of their posts may feel either discomforted or annoyed.


Then there are those who will hi-jack any thread (or start one) with an outrageous statement, not infrequently insulting, hoping to create an argument or cause discomfort. Although outwardly not dissimilar to the first group these are much more close to the standard forum troll. Normally these are the ones found-out and banned (at least in the persona they have chosen) by the Administrators.


As someone quite active over the last few years, I have rarely seen the form of cyber-bullying on the EDF which has been the subject of recent reports. (James Barber has probably been the most bullied, or at least attacked, individual ? as a politician I suspect he can handle this ? he certainly seems admirably robust on the forum).


Entirely different is the OP?s initial complaint, which is about real (not cyber) bullies using the forum as a threat, rather than being threatening within the forum. In my experience any such threatened unwarranted attack made on the forum is immediately and robustly countered (a warranted complaint may be supported however) ? the forum is not somewhere where reputations can be unreasonably ruined.


I do not see this forum as a hot-bed of bullying or aggression (arguments can get heated) and rarely is language used which is personally directed (rarely but on occasion ? often these are late night posts when alcohol might have been taken). It is generally good natured and often supportive. The one thing which I think will not help is to search for lists of names (or hints) at posters who have not been consistently emolient, and who have been combatative and argumentative. These traits are not necessarily or at all markers of cyber-bullies.

StraferJack Wrote:

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> Sheemy has been her before. Many times


well with a user name like that...


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> And that's the truth. You can dispute it if you

> like...


The undiluted facts?



ETA: EP - it is Cerise you pipsqueak!

Never seen any bullying on this forum, youtube is where it's at. Here at least people form constructive opinions, thoughts, counter arguments etc...


youtube is like a mental institution for cyber nuts.


One thing I will say about this forum is that it has an astounding ability to go completely off topic without mod intervention - it's great

Sheemy, you said


"I have not named H, but others on the thread have. I cannot think of any bullying I have witnessed from Huge in particular. "


4 hours after saying


sheemy Wrote:

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> H has already been named but I think the others

> are

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> O

> S

> E

> K

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> .....they have been known to operate as a pack.



This isn't bullying Sheemy, this is just pointing something out.

Is Sheemy the person who (under another EDF username) was complaining about a handyman's skills / reliability a few weeks ago ?

If so, then I may be the 'K', for pointing out (albeit bluntly) that it's not cool to slag a tradesman right off over what was more probably a communication/specification issue.


If I AM the 'K' I claim my prize now please. Or Else.

p256, it's not so much that there's no moderation, it's just offtopication seems to have reduced significantly as a concern over the years, and is pretty much accepted practice everywhere but the main thread.


In the main thread these days it just needs to vaguely stay on local issues rather than on topic per se, depending on the seriousness of the thread (ie there'll be a lower tolerance threshold on, say, the local councillor thread than on one about, say, blue bins in general turning into all bin/council/fox related gripes.

Echoing what penguin68 says above, this forum has a way of sniffing out unreasonable accusations against businesses so my suggestion to the OP if this happens again, would be to say - go ahead and post on the forum if you have a genuine grievance. In all likelihood they would never have the bottle to do so.


Oh and Hugeknob was just a tedious willy waver from what I could see.

Alan Medic Wrote:

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> edcam Wrote:

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> > Oh and Hugeknob was just a tedious willy waver

> > from what I could see.

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> I think that post says more about you TBH.



Ah - one of his minions!

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