Three biggest regrets in life

[Ant]

1. Choosing German over Art at GCSE. What was I thinking?

I'll get back to you on the other two...

[buggie]

Wish I'd chosen Spainish instead of French at GCSE level... would use it a lot and would have hopefully got more than an E, other than that, think fate has brought me to where I am now so can't look back with regrets.

[Hannah6_6]

Moos Wrote:

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> david_carnell Wrote:

>

> ...Never been happier though.

> >

> > Edit: In retrospect it's probably not the 3rd

> > biggest regret of my life EVER but I was stuck

> on

> > two and three seemed "sweet". My new three is

> not

> > having slept with hundreds of woman, just to

> > redress the balance, like. ;-) Christ I hope

> 'er

> > indoors isn't reading this!

>

> Takes a real man to be open about his feelings

> (one of the reasons I fell in love with Mr. Moos).

> That said, of course 'er indoors will read this

> and you are in fact toast. But as you yourself

> said happy toast.

Well I am reading it now and yes david_carnell (better known as Mister Hannah6_6) you are nearly toast!

I'm not sure not meeting d_c as a teenager is one of my biggest regrets, perhaps that now means I will be happy toast when i arrive home!

I really cannot think of any regrets except maybe

1. Doing a law degree rather than history or english

2. Not taking a gap year to travel

Both of which are completely possible to accomplish if I had the notion to, rendering them wishes rather than regrets.

[Ant]

Ah, here's a good one!

2. Giving up on playing a musical instrument.

It also includes sub-regrets:

a) allowing myself to talked into switching from the violin to the viola

b) not making use of the excellent girl-meeting opportunities provided by playing in the school orchestra*

c) not speaking up and asking to play something different when I started to get bored of all the classical stuff they flung at us

* At an all-boy school and playing in a joint orchestra with a nearby all-girl school. I was too shy to make the most of it. Although perhaps I shouldn't be too hard on myself; the girls were the same. Cool kids we were not.

[Jah Lush]

Just remembered a couple more.

2. Never seeing The Faces live.

3. Not buying a five-bedroomed semi-detached house that I was offered in Lacon Road for ?42 grand back in '86 and which at the time I could easily have afforded. I'd be sitting on a little goldmine now, instead I'm skint and always bloody will be.

[Peckhamgatecrasher]

I think I will just weep and top myself.

[Brendan]

On what Bob said earlier. Have you ever been dumped? It hits you like a freight train. The world of certainties you have fabricated is ripped apart around you like a paper raft in a violent maelstrom. And as you feel yourself being pulled inevitably down amongst your life's wreckage all you can think is, ?I should have bloody well slept with her cousin when I had the chance!?

[Jah Lush]

Or her sister.

[Brendan]

You obviously dont know her sister.

[????]

I only have one and it is....

.....taking too long in life to realise that it is far, far better to regret things that you have done than regret things you haven't done.

[LizzygotDizzy]

> I regret that I act without thinking and on

> impulse and that that sometimes makes me abrupt or

> unkind or just stupid.

> I regret that I am a bit lazy and often fail to

> seize the day.

> I regret that I know these things about myself and

> have done for years, and yet do not change...

Moos, how sweetly honest and frank you are, I have to say, a lot of what you say rings true with me too.

[SteveT]

My first live together greatest love having congenital heart disease, which ended our life together after less than five years. I went into serial promiscuity for the next four years, it was the only thing that would put the misery and loss far enough away so as not to dwell on it.

Marrying a woman who I got along with whilst living together, but didn't love.

We married and then it changed overnight, no sex for the first six weeks of marriage, which lead to a crap honeymoon she somehow believed she didn't have to anymore as we were married.

Now, surprise surprise, I am a divorce statistic, who would have thought it.

The next regret after 20 years still makes me colour up.

The ex-wife said 5 years later, she was pregnant, we had previously discussed that we wouldn't have children as I was 40 and too old for breeding.

When she made her announcement I said well get rid of it and anyway how the hell could you be pregnant the amount of times you perform? you should change your name to Mary.

I said do not expect any help from me, if you intend to keep it you are on your own, do not expect any help from me.

Later on the baby arrived and she did not want anymore children, but I insisted that one is not ideal because all the singletons, when I was at school, were different to the rest of us who had brothers and sisters. They couldn't seem to play with other kids, they always stood next to the teacher on playground duty.

When we were dead and gone she would be left on her own, so we had a second and I am most grateful for them both to be around. She was right about the first baby and I felt it was right to have a second.

So two things that I do not regret, my children.

[lozzyloz]

Not asking Mrs LL to marry me ten years earlier than I did. There were complications but eventually I did.

Not making up with my cousin before she topped herself. We were extremely close. Her mother rejected her when she was 12 and she grew up with my family. Unfortunately we stopped talking after a big argument 6 months before she OD'd.

Becoming a tobacco junkie at 13 and stopping 34 years too late. But better late than never.

[louisiana]

Non, je ne regrette rien

and stuff

like ever

[celineblondon]

As some of you said before I don?t regret anything in my life. I have made big mistakes but learned from them all. And I am who I am now because of this, and in a way I am grateful.

If I had not left my home and my family after a silly argument and left for England at just 18 years old, I would probably have done a ?great? school surrounded by arrogant idiots who think they know everything in life but actually know nothing since everything they think they know, they learned it from books. Everything would be sickeningly (? :) ) perfect.

If I had not ended up in Shrewsbury and stayed 5 years working in bars and restaurants I would never have met the love of my life and I would not be in London now, loving every minute of it. I would not appreciate either what it is to have a week-end off. To have the evening off. This is something I came to love so much now.Little things...

If I had not hated my father so much when I was younger I wouldn?t love him so much now.

This thread feels like confession time! :)

Can?t thing of anything else right now.

Actually, one big silly thing that I DO regret is the first cigarette I smoked 10 years ago. And the hundred thousands that followed...

[Guest]

1. Ever eating chocolate.

2. Not knowing my own mind enough when I was younger and going along with what other people wanted in the hope it would make them happy when I should have said bollocks.

3. Not having children - just didn't work out that way. Suppose off the shelf is still an option though.

[dulwichmum]

OHMYGOD! Seany baby has been married before!!!

Was Swindon really that bad sweet heart? But they have a huge outlet shopping mall there with an enormous LK Bennett and Hobbs and - gosh I could lose a week there!

Biggest regrets... mmm,

1. Not insisting on a much larger engagement ring. Well I had no idea how very rich James would become and now because of all of that sentimental rubbish, I have to keep that damn splinter of a 1.5ct stone he gave me (although it is internally flawless).

[SteveT]

Dulwichmum wrote: I have to keep that damn splinter of a 1.5ct stone he gave me (although it is internally flawless).

Internally flawless heh, unlike its present owner, hehehehehe.................

[dulwichmum]

OHMYGOD Mr SteveT!

What are you saying?

You don't mean to imply that despite the fact that I look completely fabulous, underneath - I am a bit of a complete and utter minx do you?

Oh dear, you have me all worked out...(sigh).

[Michael Palaeologus]

I regret that night of passion with Dulwichmum ...

Dammit, I thought I was special ...

[dulwichmum]

OHMYGOD! Michael - that was meant to be a secret - what a cad!

You should never have claimed that you were Lord Michael of Palaeologus - I felt used and dirty when I found out...

[LizzygotDizzy]

lozzyloz Wrote:

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> Not asking Mrs LL to marry me ten years earlier

> than I did. There were complications but

> eventually I did.

>

Wow Lozz, all this time I thought you were a lady Just goes to show eh! Mite start a thread up just to find out the gender of posters on this forum!

[LostThePlot]

1. Not having time to get to know my father (He died when I was 7)

2. Selling My MK1 Mini Rally Car...

3. Not applying myself more. I'm not stupid (IQ is 142) but I have a huge fear of failure, which really holds me back.

All depressed now.... :-(

[Brendan]

Stuff that! Don?t get depressed. I have a stupidly high IQ* and I?ve done nothing significant with my life so far. I have had a great time not doing it though.

I don?t have much truck with this IQ business anyway. I think it is just another way that the world is conspiring against my attempts to blame other people for my mediocrity.

*Well according to some shrink but how far can you really trust someone who is surrounded by that much loonyness on a daily basis.

[Keef]

IQ changes every time you do a test anyway.

Mine is high though ;-)