parent support group

[BARA]

I am putting this information on EDF on behalf of the East Dulwich Community Centre in Darrell Road. SE 22.

Some time ago, the centre's committee were approached to run a pilot Parent Support Group. Some parents had expressed a wish to know how to manage their children's behaviour. They wanted to get ideas from other parents as the best way to approach their youngster, without inflaming the situation. This ranged from simple tactics as geting the children to go to bed by a certain time, to a 'mouthy' teenager.

The centre's project worker has enlisted the help of a professional adviser and will be running a session at the Community centre on Monday 3rd March 6.30 - 8.30 pm. if there is sufficient need for a self help parent support group or for a group facilitated by the adviser, further sessions will be arranged.

Whether you are worried about your child's behaviour, or want to know more about parenting skills, or just want reassurance that you are on 'the right track'. It might be that you feel that your child has special needs which the school are not taking seriously. Both people running the event are professional in child health/educational fields with 20 plus years experience each in working with children and young people. Please PM me if you need more information

[macroban]

Is this a commericial venture presented as a community initiative?

As I remember it, the initial BARA posting about the 100-hour pharmacy was not exactly reliable.

[KalamityKel]

How does one define "sufficent need for a self help parent support group"?

[snorky]

macroban Wrote:

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> Is this a commericial venture presented as a

> community initiative?

>

> As I remember it, the initial BARA posting about

> the 100-hour pharmacy was not exactly reliable.

I think you are being remarkably restrained with your summary of the Pharm issue

Whats the cost BARA ? tell us more

[Administrator]

Please keep this on topic of "parent support group".

BARA has stated that they are putting this information on forum on behalf of the East Dulwich Community Centre.

[Ko]

macroban Wrote:

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> Is this a commericial venture presented as a

> community initiative?

Macroban, have you really got nothing better to do than constantly slag off the efforts of others?

Anyone who starts accusing the work of East Dulwich Community Centre as being a "commericial venture presented as a community initiative" is really low.

Why not trying finding out the facts for yourself, rather than starting many of your posts with unpleasant accusations? Why should anyone have to come on here and defend themeselves? You leave a trail of accusations on this forum - because you can't help yourself, and then the people accused don't want to sink down to the level of arguing with someone as unpleasant as you.

Instead of whinging and accusing people, how about doing something positive for the community. If you channelled all that negative energy into doing something positive, it might make you feel better so you don't have to spend much of your time slagging off the efforts of others.

People who work with the East Dulwich Community Centre work very hard and many give up much of their free time for no payment whatsoever. They don't look for pats on the back, but they shouldn't have to come onto things onto this forum and face unpleasant comments.

Macroban - stop being so downright nasty.

(Admin - if I have over-stepped the mark and been too personal, then too bad I guess. She needs telling. She really is unpleasant and has no basis for most of the accusations she makes)

[KalamityKel]

Ko I fail to see your point in regards to this post. Surely, Macro is simply asking qs that other ppl mayb thinking already - strangely not everyone has time in their lives to investigate the ins and out of something, especially those who may not be as computer literate than others

Maybe BARA could expand a little more here or provide a link rather than just point them in the direction of a PM?

[Ko]

Macroban 'asks' a lot of questions like this, implying that people could be deliberately misleading others. That's not nice.

She says "Is this a commericial venture presented as a community initiative?"

Why should people have to keep defending themselves? Its easy enough to ask a question, without having to imply that people are 'presenting' things in a more favourable light simply to make money.

Why imply or accuse such things if there is no basis for it?

Why should Bara or ED Community Centre have to answer such questions? If they have to justify themselves and answer questions, why doesn't Macroban turn up in person at an EDCC or Bara meeting and ask them in person and repeat some of the language she's used, rather than taking any opportunity on this forum to pick on certain people.

[BARA]

In relation to the posting put by myself on behalf of the Community Centre.

1. The centre is run by a volunteer management committee.

2. It is a registered charity and therefore has certain restrictions.

3. Money to run the centre is raised by hiring out the premises to local groups i.e. after school and holiday clubs,

weight watchers, an Afro Caribbean elders club, Youth Club, and recently Southwark Community Games have commenced sessions.

4. All money raised from hire fees go to maintaining the premises and employing part time cleaning and maitenance staff.

5. The Community Centre (under the former name of Alleyn CC) has been operating since 1980.

6. Southwark Council used to provide a grant to maintain the premises, but this ceased over 10 years ago, so the centre

has to seek additional funding from other sources.

7. Last year the centre was fortunate to secure funding for a Development Worker to explore the unmet need of the community, to encourage and facilitate new ventures/groups. To seek funding from various sources to make such groups sustainable.

8.The parent support idea came from a number of parents who felt isolated and unsure with regards to their parenting skills and were seeking support from other parents who had experienced similiar worries/problems but had survived/coped etc.

9. Limited funding from the Development worker's budget has been identified to run a pilot project, and if this is successful, funding applications will be made to suitable grant giving organisations.

10. The Centre has strong links with BARA and Christ Church, and there are several projects which all three entities are involved with.

11.The Dulwich Community Council, Tessa Jowell, past and present ward councillors, the Police Safer Neighbourhood Team, and many Southwark Council Departments work with the management committee in developing initiatives to benefit the local community.

12. Many of the management committee are involved in other voluntary work i.e. school governors, healthy eating projects,

counselling and social work organisations, the Law Centre, Traid Craft and Fair Trade, Pensioners groups etc.

13. Southwark Council are seeking to make the centre a 'hub' for the local community and to expand the range of activities, advice and support groups, provide a venue for children and their families to meet.

In running a parents support group pilot, there are no hidden agendas and costs, simply trying to met the needs of local parents who have sought assistance. if after running this session, the evaluation process arrives at the decision that there is insufficient demand for a continuation of such a project then it will cease.

[Peckhamgatecrasher]

Well answered BARA, good luck with the enterprise.

[Ko]

> macroban Wrote:

> > > Is this a commericial venture presented as a

> > community initiative?

> snorky Wrote:

> Whats the cost BARA ? tell us more

Snorky - I hope you've had your question answered now. You take every opportunity to continually make digs.

You are insinuating nasty things about community projects that people have worked hard to get off the ground. Stop trying to undermine the efforts of these people. Do you get some sort of perverse pleasure out of trying to jeopardise community projects? Its not clever. You're a disgrace.

These projects only succeed with the efforts and support of the community. They don't need people like you who are intent on jeopardising things to further your own personal agenda.

Take your nasty and suspicious little mind elsewhere.