When I was 14 years old...

[Mick Mac]

Otta Wrote:

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> 2 or 3 years after I left Haberdasher's Aske's,

> the old head of 6th form and another male teacher

> were both fired for sexual relations with the then

> head girl.

Well, if you give a girl a job title like that one.....

[Annette Curtain]

My Drama teacher Clive Scrimshaw, ran a pig over with his escort van. The pig belonged to "Churchill" who was a nasty old school bent copper.

Mr Scrimshaw was later questioned over allegations of a fling with an under aged boy at school, he was then sacked.

Years later I found a photo of the boy (all grown up now) and a wooden dildo inside a Gladstone bag, belonging to an old guy who's stuff we were moving for the council.

"Yer, he liked a bit of that" said the old fella.

Really, I didn't know what to say.

[Otta]

Mick Mac Wrote:

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> Otta Wrote:

> --------------------------------------------------

> -----

> > 2 or 3 years after I left Haberdasher's Aske's,

> > the old head of 6th form and another male

> teacher

> > were both fired for sexual relations with the

> then

> > head girl.

>

> Well, if you give a girl a job title like that

> one.....

Ha Ha!

[Twirly]

I have, mostly, had a bit of a thing for older men.

At 15, a 17 year old seems a lot older and more sophisticated, but that wasn't enough for me. At 16 there was the 30+ year old (I had left school, and our meeting had nothing to do with school - and who held off as he thought I might be under age!), the next one at 16/17 was 21, then at 17/18 there were a couple of 40+ year olds (but then I had a year or two as a bit of a wild-child, before that term had been coined). This is all early-mid 80s. But I am pretty sure that I was the exception. At school there was some kudos if you had a slightly older boyfriend, but mostly it was only a year or two. And yes, there was the general opinion that girls were more mature than boys, which seemed to account for it.

I am now married to a man 5 years my junior... and still friends with the guy whom I met at 16.

[steveo]

I'm ashamed to say I want to hear more of this story

Annette Curtain Wrote:

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> My Drama teacher Clive Scrimshaw, ran a pig over

> with his escort van. The pig belonged to

> "Churchill" who was a nasty old school bent

> copper.

>

> Mr Scrimshaw was later questioned over allegations

> of a fling with an under aged boy at school, he

> was then sacked.

>

> Years later I found a photo of the boy (all grown

> up now) and a wooden dildo inside a Gladstone bag,

> belonging to an old guy who's stuff we were moving

> for the council.

>

> "Yer, he liked a bit of that" said the old fella.

>

> Really, I didn't know what to say.

[computedshorty]

Age for married couples.

Time of those thinking of getting married will depend on who is still available.

My father born in 1884 was a prisoner of war, on his repatriation back home the time 1918 just after the first world war, to a place where some 880.000 British men had been killed, and 953,886 wounded, women had little choice of the age of a prospective husband, or indeed a husband who had served in the forces that did not have wounds that would never heal.

So my father having no home to come back to as his parents both had died by 1913 and his siblings were now wide spread, found a place to stay in Kentish Town north London, made contact with other family, one of these was young woman a second cousin who lived in Hammersmith, a secretary to Mr Sandeman the Port in Importer.

In 1920 they married she aged 20 and him being 36, the age gap was him being 16 years older.

To have a family of four sons and three daughters, my father died aged 80, my mother lived to 87 a further 22 years as a widow, alone just the family calling at times.

My mother had no regrets as they had been happy and her husband had provided everything that was needed a house the children, all grown up to adulthood.

My mother used to say she felt so lonely, as all the children all married and gradually left home, she had nothing to occupy her time, and had become very ill and could not get out.

Two weeks after she died one of her sons ( my brother aged 61 also died ).

His wife four years younger lived on for another 21 years as a widow.

My advice would be to marry a younger wife of a few years as women do tend to live about seven years longer, as you could stay together for your life span.

I should not really give advice as my wife and myself and are both over 81.

[BrandNewGuy]

computedshorty Wrote:

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> I should not really give advice as my wife and

> myself and are both over 81.

I think that's an excellent qualification for giving advice :-)

[Worker]

Shame on you, steveo.

So, was it a photo of the guy and the wooden dildo, or was it a photo of the guy, and a wooden dildo, in the bag?

steveo Wrote:

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> I'm ashamed to say I want to hear more of this

> story

>

> Annette Curtain Wrote:

> --------------------------------------------------

> -----

> > My Drama teacher Clive Scrimshaw, ran a pig

> over

> > with his escort van. The pig belonged to

> > "Churchill" who was a nasty old school bent

> > copper.

> >

> > Mr Scrimshaw was later questioned over

> allegations

> > of a fling with an under aged boy at school, he

> > was then sacked.

> >

> > Years later I found a photo of the boy (all

> grown

> > up now) and a wooden dildo inside a Gladstone

> bag,

> > belonging to an old guy who's stuff we were

> moving

> > for the council.

> >

> > "Yer, he liked a bit of that" said the old

> fella.

> >

> > Really, I didn't know what to say.

[maxxi]

Annette Curtain Wrote:

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>

> Years later I found a photo of the boy (all grown

> up now) and a wooden dildo inside a Gladstone bag,

> belonging to an old guy who's stuff we were moving

> for the council.

>

> "Yer, he liked a bit of that" said the old fella.

>

> Really, I didn't know what to say.

It's a shame really.

No one uses Gladstone bags any more.

[Chick]

At 52 I am still a virgin.

[Annasfield]

When I was I got on the train as half fare and then got served in the pub. Always went out with older boys as they weren't the mature nobheads of me age group. Seemed normal at the time, but I would probably frown upon the younger lot doing the same.

I would love to be 16 again

[Huguenot]

RosieH will have a field day on this one, but in the spirit of Germaine Greer... wasn't the teenage 'girls are more mature than boys' just the manifestation of a gender discrimination death wish?

I've met (surprising as this may seem) both boys and girls of teenage years, and they both seem equally stupid, but girls do parade menstruation as some sort of badge of adult responsibility.

The only thing that adult men did to teenage girls was enslave, belittle and subordinate them, yet the girls were drawn to this like flies to shit.

Similar aged boys offer these flappers equality in every corner, but this is considered by girls to be an unattractive quality.

Yet 10 years later the girls will righteously complain that everything they wished for as a little girl, what they demanded from their fantasies, is unacceptable when played out in the real world.

So who really is 'immature' here, transparent and meddlesome boys, or the girls who instill in their peers the lifelong perception that all they crave for a fulfilling existence is to play the simpering fool to a brighter wit?

[indiepanda]

computedshorty Wrote:

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> My advice would be to marry a younger wife of a

> few years as women do tend to live about seven

> years longer, as you could stay together for your

> life span.

Great for the men maybe, but the typical age gap of a woman marrying a man 3 years older and living 7 years longer leaves her with her 10 years of widowhood and probably quite a few years acting as a carer for her husband before he dies.

I'm sticking to younger men... well hopefully just the one man! My fiance is eight years younger than me.

[Jessie]

My mother is 15 years older than my father!

[katie1997]

Chick Wrote:

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> At 52 I am still a virgin.

You're 52?!!!!!!!!!

[katie1997]

Huguenot Wrote:

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> I've met (surprising as this may seem) both boys

> and girls of teenage years, and they both seem

> equally stupid,

but girls do parade menstruation

> as some sort of badge of adult responsibility.

Do they? Really?

[Huguenot]

Ha ha, you've never come across teenage girls airly declaring that they are 'more mature' than boys of their age and wondered why this is?

It's entirely down to menstruation.

Boys don't have a 'coming of age' moment when they realise they can now procreate, and so don't reassess their existence in that context.

You can dissemble on the subject as you wish, but the realisation that there may be a purpose to your body beyond immediate self gratification is a life changing moment.

[Voyageur]

Huguenot Wrote:

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> Ha ha, you've never come across teenage girls

> airly declaring that they are 'more mature' than

> boys of their age and wondered why this is?

>

> It's entirely down to menstruation.

>

> Boys don't have a 'coming of age' moment when they

> realise they can now procreate, and so don't

> reassess their existence in that context.

>

> You can dissemble on the subject as you wish, but

> the realisation that there may be a purpose to

> your body beyond immediate self gratification is a

> life changing moment.

Crikey..... I am female and approaching my half century and can attest to not yet experiencing such a life changing moment, probably because I have never identified myself as a vessel for procreation! Hey ho.

I do recall always finding older boys far more interesting than my peer group in my early teens, though to be honest that preference for the older man has stayed with me throughout my life. Who knows.... I may suddenly have a life changing moment and crave a toyboy in my 70s.

[Huguenot]

*sighs*

As I pointed out, it's Germaine Greer stylee.

The fact that you don't recognise it is entirely down to the fact that you are lost within its consequences.

;-)

[maxxi]

Huguenot Wrote:

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>

> Boys don't have a 'coming of age' moment when they

> realise they can now procreate, and so don't

> reassess their existence in that context.

Not even during one of those "it's mine and I'll wash it as fast as I like" moments when a once clear and insipid fluid begins to take on an altogether more robust consistency?

Or, to be a little less gross, when one was thrown out of the choir and could parade through the showers after PE without strategically held soap?

No, I know - these might signify the onset of puberty but boys don't reassess their existence - except in terms of believing they might now be able to score and that they hope to find out what they're supposed to do before that happens.

[*Bob*]

It's hard to identify any definitive turning point with regards to boys; but the arrival of the Kays catalogue would be a good starting point.

[Voyageur]

Huguenot Wrote:

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> *sighs*

>

> As I pointed out, it's Germaine Greer stylee.

>

> The fact that you don't recognise it is entirely

> down to the fact that you are lost within its

> consequences.

>

> ;-)

or rather, happily untouched by them :D

[RosieH]

Dear god Huguenot, your peculiar interest in tweenage menses makes you sound like a friend of Saville. And hiding behind Germaine Greer's skirts does you no credit at all.

[Jah Lush]

What RosieH said.

[Huguenot]

Dear God RosieH, your peculiar conviction that you can't discuss menses without being dirty and criminal makes you sound like someone who needs therapy.

Do you seriously think it's okay to call me a paedophile? You've lost the plot.