Otta Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 I was out for a beer a few weeks ago with an old skool forumite, who doesn't really post very often these days, and we got to talking about people we'd met, who came over very differently online compared to "real life". As a result, I've been meaning to start this thread on online personas, but kept forgetting to do it until now.So, do you feel that you are basically yourself on here / facebook / twitter etc, or do you act differently?I'm not talking about trolls, who are just weird little people who get thrills from just trying to stir up trouble online, because they have no life. They are a separate group who are probably beyond help. I am talking about your average person who uses online forums, or social networks.Personally, I'd like to say that I am totally myself, and don't try to be different. I am honest about my opinions on things, and I try to be fair, as I would in the real world.HOWEVERBy the very nature of being online, you are operating in the written word, and everything is there in black and white to go back and double check. As a result, I admit that I probably do edit before posting at times, in order to sound more concise. Also, things that people say which I may not pick up on, or may let slide in the real world, are there in black and white, and so I may reread them, and think on them, and get angered by them. As a result, I think I allow myself to get wound up by things that really wouldn't bother me in real life. And I admit, I rise to them, and get involved in arguments.So, that is me, on me. Do people feel the same sort of way, or are most people totally themselves when online?There are some people online who I just can't imagine getting by in the real world without getting themselves beaten up, because they are so abrasive and rude. Do these people act this way because they feel brave behind the anonymity of the internet, or are they just like that?I am hoping this will be an interesting thread of discussion rather than a slagging match... Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Pibe Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 I think I'm generally nicer in real life. Not that I'm a complete arse on here, but I am a bit* of a grumpy old sod.*ok, a lot! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552172 Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Pibe Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Also you are pretty much you if that helps.Is your old skool forumite an drunken ranter in his occasional posts? In which case that's EXACTLY what he's like in real life ;) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552174 Share on other sites More sharing options...
woodrot Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Would you speak to a random on the street in the same way you post on here ?95% of the time its a negative, though the unhinged/ ripped to the tits element does skew these numbers Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552175 Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Pibe Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 "Would you speak to a random on the street in the same way you post on here ?"I guess depends what I'm doing. But on the whole I think so yes. I might be a little more diplomatic if I thought said random was behaving like a git though. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552177 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huguenot Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 http://www.v3.co.uk/IMG/282/182282/ryan-cleary-370x229.jpg?1309260149 Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552179 Share on other sites More sharing options...
woodrot Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 http://topnews.net.nz/data/yawning.jpg Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552180 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huguenot Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 A few posters who I met through the forum first rather than in the real world have commented that I'm much nicer in the real world, but that my debating style is very similar regardless of on or off line (although you can't hear the chuckle online).I just spend the majority of my time on here debating stuff, which I don't do quite as much in real life. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552181 Share on other sites More sharing options...
steveo Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 One of the forum's most reasoned commentators is also one of its most abrasive in my op. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552182 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jah Lush Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Only my name is different. I feel I'm pretty much as I am on here. At least I think I am. What do you think? On second thoughts. Don't answer that. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552183 Share on other sites More sharing options...
woodrot Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 actually, I think I stumbled into someone I was do seem to passively provoke, not so long ago. He was reasonable in real life. I dont think he was aware though. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552185 Share on other sites More sharing options...
steveo Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Jah you are much taller in real life Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552186 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Otta Posted June 14, 2012 Author Share Posted June 14, 2012 El Pibe Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> Also you are pretty much you if that helps.> > Is your old skool forumite an drunken ranter in> his occasional posts? In which case that's EXACTLY> what he's like in real life ;)Ha ha, who could you possibly mean? ;-)No, not him, a lovely lady who has become a top mate. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552188 Share on other sites More sharing options...
RosieH Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 I think posting online gives you licence, as Huguenot says, to debate more. I get irate when I debate with people who are idiots, on or offline, and worse, people I know not to be idiots but seem to be adopting idiotic positions. I never say anything on here that I wouldn't say to someone's face, but I know that I've upset people that I wouldn't in real life because the debate just wouldn't have evolved in the same way down the pub. In "real life" I'm an incorrigible flirt and take considerable delight in a good innuendo. I try to rein it in on here - not always successfully - because it's unbecoming to hint at your sexual proclivities to 20,000 people. And I'm hilarious. It's just you lot broke my funny bone.edited because I can't type for shit today. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552191 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Otta Posted June 14, 2012 Author Share Posted June 14, 2012 Whenever I think Huguenot is being a bit harsh on here, I just remember singing "Birdhouse in your soul" with him, quite loudly in The Market Porter some years ago. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552196 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marmora Man Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 woodrot Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> actually, I think I stumbled into someone I was do> seem to passively provoke, not so long ago. He was> reasonable in real life. I dont think he was aware> though.Have we met then? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552220 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeremy Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Otta - I think you're fairly similar online to real life, but a little more "verbose" on here than you are face-to-face.I'm more abrupt on here than I am in r/l. On here I'm sometimes quite quick to wade in with "you're talking rubbish", but if I were talking with them face-to-face it would be a rather more polite "not sure I necessarily agree" type of thing. But the same applies to a lot of people with online discussions... it's the nature of the beast. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552224 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Otta Posted June 14, 2012 Author Share Posted June 14, 2012 That's a good point about wording Jeremy, although you don't come across as rude, just direct and honest both on and off line. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552227 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Undisputedtruth Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 I'm quite happy to show off my football skills in real life. http://codex.wordpress.org/images/4/4b/icon_wink.gif Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552228 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Otta Posted June 14, 2012 Author Share Posted June 14, 2012 HAHA, see UDT, that's more like it. Funny. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552230 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Undisputedtruth Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 I was being serious! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552241 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Help-Ma-Boab Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 I'm probably less Scottish in real life. Still like a peeve though,ken.( Reading Skagboys at the mo - Barry likesay!) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552249 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huguenot Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 http://loopytactics.files.wordpress.com/2011/01/ali-dia.jpg Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552253 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marmora Man Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 I probably come over as right wing, libertarian Torygraph reader. In reality I'm a a pretty tolerant, slightly cynical, live and let live kind of person with a deep, very deep, suspicion of any prescriptive solution to the world's ills believing more in the cock up, rather than conspiracy, theory of life and history.And this is me - many years ago! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552262 Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Pibe Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 You were John Peel?Cool! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/23938-online-personas/#findComment-552266 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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