Meet New People In East Dulwich

[paco]

Hi Natty

You didn't see my post saying I need to leave now at 9.30pm!

[natty01295]

OK Paco -

I will see you next week Fri 19th

- But does anyone else have any plans to meet up ? Soon

[natty01295]

Hi,cristytom

Hi to AlexandHelenC

Hi Vito

When Can you meet up ??

[charliebubs]

I'm up for coming to another meet up....but also not keen on arranging (again!)

Natty - try being more decisive! Suggest a date & time in the future with reasonable notice....and give people the chance to reply!!!!

[Michael Palaeologus]

I helped organise Forum drinks years ago, still organise the monthly curry club and know a number of other social event organisers. Lessons are:

Don't expect or seek consensus about the date, just pick one

Give a months notice

Try and avoid personal chat on the thread, makes it seem cliquey

Go for a weekend, avoid obviously busy weekends though - bank holidays, beginnings of school hols

Some people will complain, ignore them, if they were that concerned they would have organised it themselves

Expect some thanks, some complaints and a lot of seeming apathy

Ask friends to post on the thread positively, that encourages more people to be positive and turn up

Expect a limited turn out first time round, turning up to meet complete strangers can be a bit scary

Don't be discouraged if few people turn up first time round, these things gain momentum over time

Social events often have a natural life cycle. A group of people meet, become friends and regulars, organise their own social meet ups, start to move away from ED and the social event fades away. That's life

Like Charliebubs, I will come along and know other long term Forumites that will turn out.

Just pick a date and a pub ........

[natty01295]

Its just meet up Not to talk about personal matters

- Just to make new friends, meet new people friendly chat

[indiepanda]

natty01295 Wrote:

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> Its just meet up Not to talk about personal

> matters

> - Just to make new friends, meet new people

> friendly chat

And that's exactly what Michael P and Georgia are talking about - for many years they organised successful monthly drinks sessions where at times we'd get 30+ people turning up - really suggest you take their advice about how to organise as they are speaking from experience.

You can't expect people to be free at short notice but give enough notice and promote enough and you should be fine - just be aware the summer isn't the greatest time to start as lots of people are away and more so than over the autumn / winter.

[Michael Palaeologus]

People chat when they meet.

On the Thread organising the meet it can make the group sound cliquey and exclusive.

[natty01295]

I am Asking if people are available to meet up,

That's all and to say a day they want to meet

* There's no hurry ! When ever you are free to meet

and talk about what ever they want etc;

* Music

* Politics

* The news

* Your / There hobbies

* Even talk about the forum

* Whatever you people want to discuss about

Just NOT your personal information

[natty01295]

?

[charliebubs]

Hilarious!!

[natty01295]

What do you think about what I have put ?

[indiepanda]

natty01295 Wrote:

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> What do you think about what I have put ?

Natty, we've been having such events on and off for many years and everyone has managed just fine without suggested topics of conversation.

As for not sharing your personal information, I am not sure quite what you mean by this, but people tend to come to these events hoping to meet people they are ultimately going to become friends with (I have made a number of friends at these events), and whilst I wouldn't exactly suggest sharing your deepest darkest secrets (if you have any) with people you've just met, you can't make friends with people without sharing anything personal about yourself.

Just follow Georgia and Mike's advice - they've managed to arrange many successful meet ups over the years (Mike still does via the curry club - which is a great way to meet people).

[natty01295]

But I just want to meet new people in the local area,

If anyone is interested please send messages

On where and how you want meet

[natty01295]

If anyone interested ?

[natty01295]

Hello is anyone interested ?

[natty01295]

People can meet

* pubs/bars

* clubs

* supermarkets

* on public transport

* on dating sites

* volunteer places / work

* while in the car or on your bike/motorcycle/scooter

* on holiday

**** Anywhere ****

[AlexandHelenC]

So, taking the advice into account, how about drinks at 8pm on Saturday 11th July in the Clockhouse?

[natty01295]

What do you want to talk about ?

when I get there for 8pm at the clock house

[AlexandHelenC]

Life, the universe and everything?

Somewhat embarrassingly I got ahead of myself with this suggestion and overlooked the fact that we're not actually around on that date. Can I therefore suggest the following Saturday (18th) instead, same time, same place?

[natty01295]

OK that's fine with me, on 18th and same time,

Thank you, for letting me know

[natty01295]

Why july though ?

[Help-Ma-Boab]

I'm IN.

[Help-Ma-Boab]

September works better

Help-Ma-Boab Wrote:

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> I'm IN.

[paco]

I can do sat 18th July. Still happy to meet you Natty on Fri 19th June, 7.30pm at Herne Tavern and anyone else who fancies coming along..