Fuschia Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 What would it be? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
hanstands Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 I would have told myself not to worry about b'feeding them to sleep....ever! and relax and enjoy...the time with them is short. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524192 Share on other sites More sharing options...
ryedalema Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 Mine would be: - not to buy so many clothes in the small sizes - as they grow out of them in seconds! - not to bother buying a cot, neither of ours spent any time in it - not to sweat potty training, when they are ready it won't take long to master - and not to buy a video baby monitor - the house just aint that big that we can't hear what's going on:) other than that pretty happy with how it's turned out xx Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524222 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pickle Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 When you've got just one small baby don't be in a hurry to get out of bed in the mornings. Once you have more than one you don't get that luxury! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524225 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pickle Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 ... and don't iron muslins, life's too short :-$ Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524236 Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonethebeaver Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 Ignore the HV about percentiles. Talk to a lactation consultant immediately. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524244 Share on other sites More sharing options...
nylonmeals Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 Everything is just a phase Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524251 Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowboarder Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 I'd try and tell myself to chill out, to relax and try to enjoy the early months. To not worry about cuddling him to sleep and to feed whenever and to watch tv together on the sofa. And to go out and about more - go on adventures rather than get cabin fever pounding lordship lane. I thought these things would get easier but getting out with 2 who need to eat and nap at certain times is much harder!Then at around 6/7m I'd tell myself to try and sort out his sleep as that would have improved my life immensely :-) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524274 Share on other sites More sharing options...
anyjoy Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 Don't bother trying to clean a newborn bottom with cotton wool and water...the wipes that say they are kind to little bottoms really are! Don't worry about snuggling up with your baby on your chest as it's so lovely and they grow so fast.Don't freak out if they won't take a bottle, enjoy the breastfeeding as they will one day take a bottle/cup or beaker and you will miss the feeding then. After 9 months of battling our little one decided it would be okay to take a bottle after all.Let your partner have some things they are better at than you with the baby and witness some firsts for themselves. They need their precious memories too. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524303 Share on other sites More sharing options...
ryedalema Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 Don't let anyone make you feel bad/useless/unworthy if you do something differently from how they did it.As long as your child is warm, fed, pain free and safe - most other things are open to interpretation. xx Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524304 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Otta Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 Leave in the dead of night, and don't look back! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524306 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruth_Baldock Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 Otta; snigger.Ask the forum before buying a pram. Seriously. East Dulwich/Snowboarder knows best. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524310 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saila Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 big vote for g.i.n.a.f.o.r.d and knowing when to draw the line with breastfeeding attemptsplus ignore pressure from other mums in whatever department (bf, sleep, weaning) happy mum = happy babyoh - and ask for an epidural at the very beginning - you may not 'want' it but if you change your mind halfway through it'll be much tougher to get it later on....from the school of 'mum-made-easy'*hides* Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524311 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fuschia Posted February 19, 2012 Author Share Posted February 19, 2012 To me: babies do need naps even if they don't show signs easilyDon't bother trying to spoon feedWhen letting the baby self feed, go for variety, not lack of mess potential Don't book up lots of classesMake at least one good solid 'mummy friend'Wine is fine If it all gets too much, have a bath Realise everyone else is as clueless as you even if they have very organised nappy bags Never lock the baby in the carOr the house Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524315 Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Nappy Lady Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 Relax and enjoy every moment when they are tiny, it goes so fast & I think with our first most of us don't realise how easy they are when newborn & also we worry far too much.Book Brierley Midwives for my first home birth (didn't find out about them til later), still got my home birth but not the same amazing continuity of care I enjoyed with them when having my second. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524316 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smiler Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 Ignore a few close friends without children who tell you how important it is to "have time for you" (meaning late nights out with them), not "focus too much on the baby and lose yourself" (meaning don't change in ways they don't like) or that "everyone gets tired, don't be so boring" (when leaving early 18 months int sleep-deprivation).:( Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524317 Share on other sites More sharing options...
sillywoman Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 Ask the really nice community midwife at your GP practice if she'll attend your labour.Ignore everything your Mum says - she hasn't got a clue and will turn out to be completely hopeless.Your baby is really good (if only I'd realised that at the time) - enjoy her and stop being so anxious. She'll survive & thrive. Don't wish it away.Trust your instincts - they are sounder than you think. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524318 Share on other sites More sharing options...
jollybaby Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 Smiler - your post is so true! Recently went on a hen do. On the first night I lasted til 4.30am. On the second night one of the other mums and I had had enough by 2am and got thoroughly told off by some of our child free friends. Given a late night for me is now 10pm I thought I had done quite well! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524328 Share on other sites More sharing options...
KateW Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 This too will pass... Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524350 Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsAk Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 never say "I will never..." Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524440 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sanne Panne Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Pickle Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> ... and don't iron muslins, life's too short :-$Yes it is! But then we're a household in which only work shirts get ironed (and not by me). Lol! Thanks for coming out ;) Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524483 Share on other sites More sharing options...
MGolden Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 A lot of what your Mum and MIL say will be spot on, a lot won't. Smile at all the unsolicited advice and then go with your instincts.The sleep you didn't get last night will never be 'caught up on' so start each day anew. Sleep when your baby sleeps. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524497 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sanne Panne Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Try to suppress your inner control freak and allow your partner to do things his way. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524506 Share on other sites More sharing options...
KateW Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Hahaha Sanne Panne, I'm still trying to get to grips with that one! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524519 Share on other sites More sharing options...
emza78 Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Never plan a day's activities in advance, it will only go wrong and that's REALLY irritating! Much better to just go with the flow! Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/22056-if-you-could-g-back-and-give-yourself-as-a-new-parent-any-advice/#findComment-524534 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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