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I?ve just read this story about peoples that the Lonely Planet considers friendly:


http://blogs.guardian.co.uk/travelog/2007/10/is_ireland_the_worlds_most_fri.html


There is quite an interesting summary at the bottom.


Where is the friendliest place you have visited?


I am inclined to agree with them to a certain extent about the Irish and the Turks. I don?t agree about Malawi as when I went there I got robbed which I consider to be very unfriendly indeed.


Anyway in my experience ED is by far the friendliest suburb in London and I have lived in a few.

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lozzyloz Wrote:

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> I've always found Kenya a friendly welcoming place


So did I. Then I got robbed (yes in Kenya too. perhaps it is me.) and had a near death experience with a taxi driver from hell. He was friendly though but psycho.

Sorry to hear that Brendan. Reminds me of a mate from Jo'burg who had never been robbed, kidnapped etc. Came to London and was mugged at gunpoint in Soho within days!


Generally I think country's are friendly as long as you're out of the metropolis and you're not at war with them. Some friends of mine just got back from Syria and said that it was the most unbelievably friendly and welcoming place they'd ever visited. Perhaps it could be said because they had different expectations.


Most unfriendly place? Lagos without a doubt, although the music and bars kind've made up for it. I half agree with Sean's comments on France, Robbed twice in Paris (not violently) but have always found the rest of the country, even Le Penn territory most welcoming except possibly in the Basque region near the Spanish border.

I agree about USA - they hear the accent and come over to me in the shops or restaurants and just want to hear you - assume we're all highly intelligent educated people. And many times specially in the west people come up and beg me to believe that they hate Bush and did not vote him in and disagree with the war. Complete strangers being so friendly and wanting to tell you this.

New Zealand is incredibly friendly too. Such a laid back culture. Interesting to read your thoughts on our European cousins though too.

lozzyloz Wrote:

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> Sorry to hear that Brendan. Reminds me of a mate

> from Jo'burg who had never been robbed, kidnapped

> etc. Came to London and was mugged at gunpoint in

> Soho within days!


I?ve been robbed in Jo?burg too.


And in London for that matter.


I?m starting to think it is just me. :-S


Nero Wrote:

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> South Africa was friendly and scary at the same

> time. Nero


Really? That?s nice to know. (well except for the scary bit but I fully understand you on that) As a South African I have never thought we are particularly friendly. Very hospitable but not necessarily friendly I think there is a difference.


I have also found the French quite friendly but I have only visited rural areas of France.

Since we had kids, I've found Italy particularly friendly - they just love the little ones.


Same in France really - we had a week in the Basque country this summer, everyone was very friendly, from the hotel owner to the deckchair attendant. Definitely helps if you speak the language though.

I'd have to go with Portugal as the friendliest place I've been to.

France outside of Paris is great. I've found Ireland a mixed bag, very like the UK in that respect I guess.

Spain is strange, they (we?) can be quite antipathetic on the surface, but make the effort to speak the lingo and be gregarious yourself and you'll soon win them over, at which point they're as good as it gets.

Thailand - friendly except the pushy tuck-tuk drivers and the pain in the arse bell-boys who kept phoning me in the middle of the night wanting to know if I "wanted a lady"


France - friendly except the shop-keeper who accused me of shoplifting and wouldnt apologise when I shoved the receipt under his nose


Ghana - friendly


Ethiopia - scary with big guns


Bangladesh - friendly


Pakistan - friendly from what I could tell, I wasnt allowed out of the hotel


Nepal - friendly to foreigners, not too each other


Netherlands - ever so friendly


Estonia - friendly, except the tosser who nicked my wallet


Greece - ever so friendly


Barbados - friendly with nice beaches


Italy - friendly except on the auto-strada where they turn into homicidal maniacs


Germany - surprisingly friendly


Belgium - ever so friendly and with added beer and chocolate


Spain - friendly


Canada - ever so friendly with big hugs, especially in Quebec if you make the effort to speak French


USA - friendly with big portions

been a few times - both overland from Kosovo, macedonia and Montenegro, also bari => durres ferry


great place - it really is


Property - the infrastructure is iffy - power cuts/ drainage non existant ion some areas / filth and dumped stuff everywhere - there are some interesting places on the coast but its still a bit of a basket case and hard to change 50+ yeard of mismanagement


go across and have a sniff about to make up yer own mind - dont take any preconceptions about the Albs all being gangsters and drug runners etc


I know albs in Londion who are buying beach properties back home, so thats a good sign I suppose

I looked into buying property in Bosnia back in 2000 when it was still unspoilt (by tourists anyway), but was warned against it by a mate who's (expat bosnian) uncle had tried to do the same and found the whole thing a kafkaesque nightmare paved with corruption.

Should it ever become better regulated I'd still love to.


Ooh yes, Bosnians are a pretty nice bunch too, in fact all the exFRYs in my experience.

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