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If you read the forum, I would like to tell you that my anger this afternoon was not because your very small children were kicking my car; my anger was that I was trying to pull out of a junction at the time and so the car was moving. Your children, aged I would guess at no more than 4 years of age were too far ahead of you for you to notice what was happening until they had been aiming kicks at my car 3 or 4 times. They had stopped so close to the edge of the road that I was really fearful that one of them would be killed under my back wheels and so I could not make the turn until you copped on. I am absolutely all for children being able to have some freedom from their parents and do not believe in cotton wool parenting, however, these boys were clearly not old enough to be that far away from you. Even when I glared at one of them and shouted to them from inside the car, they laughed and carried on kicking, two of them in a complete blind spot.

I sincerely hope that you will be more careful in future. I am a mother and I drive within the speed limits unlike a lot of people who could have met your children at that corner this afternoon, I dread to think what would have happened if I had been driving a 4x4 (except I'd rather poke my eyes out with a stick than be behind the wheels of a 4x4)

Personally I would say that you would be fully entitled to be extremely angry about the children kicking your car as well!


If I had gone around kicking cars at the age of four or whatever I would have been left in no doubt by my mother that it was completely unacceptable.

My reading of the OP was that frump did speak with the parents - and was trying to clarify that she wasn't just angry about damage to her car, but more about the complete lack of observation the parents had of their children at a junction.

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