Hi We've had lots of au pairs over the years and our current and last one have the following deal - ?90 per week for 25 hours + 2 nights babysitting, oyster card - which we top up about ?30 per month, UK mobile PAYG phone - we pay about ?25 per month for that. Having known friends who've paid alot less it's not worth it - they don't stay long and they aren't going to be great with your kids - i think what you're offering is fair and i think offering flights home etc is always good. We've never offered that in advance but have done it for christmas along usually with christmas bonus. We also treat our au pairs as very much part of the family, i think you want them to enjoy being with you and your children, it's a really important part of why they're here. In terms of language schools, most of ours have gone to Clapham - to the old town and our current au pair tops this up with a twice weekly evening class in Brockley which she says is brilliant for spoken English. Don't know if that helps.