I would love to leave the men to do the bbq. However a few years ago when I threw a surprise bash for my ex (you'll soon realise why he is now my ex). I had the bbq all going, I'm pretty good, if I say so myself, asked him and his mate to go for more charcoal, two hours later when the bbq was dead he returned. Spent the whole time in the pub. Never again will I go to all that trouble, so men the reason why you think your so good at bbq's, is because us women let you think you are. Bit like what you do with washing up, always do crap job so you don't get asked again.