Thought I'd add my experience. There are 11 months between my two, both now at school full time. Don't try to be superwoman, if you need help and can afford it, get it. You will feel exhausted sometimes, it's ok to ask for help. Don't feel you have to do everything and make sure you get some alone time every week, just for some head space. Lower your expectations, it doesn't matter if bathtime is missed or if dinners consist of a lot of baked banes. Once a week I shared kids dinner time with a neighbour in a similar position, we both appreciated having one evening of not having to cook or clear up. Ultimately, do what you can to make sure you enjoy this time with your children without feeling guilty, or that you are not doing what you think other mums are doing. Our house is still crazy, loud and not very clean, but I have learnt to go with the flow and trust my instincts. Good luck!