GSJ57 - what an inspirational tale! Makes me feel ok about being a soppy old romantic. That said, I am currently opting out of a possible transatlantic relationship. I think I just need that daily face to face contact for it to thrive and grow. I need to know first hand what the emotional weather is like for my partner. Katie 1997 - I guess there is no rule that fits all people. By the way, I am really hoping 1997 isnt your d.o.b. If it is, you should be doing homework rather than contemplating long distance relationships! But assuming it ISNT your d.o.b, how long distance is your potential relationship? Is it something that could be handled by a discount rail card - or does it require a frequent fliers' programme?