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We cant seem to get a decent picture w an indoor aerial - unfortunately - we just bought one and its not working well for some reason...

Another vote for interested parents!

I have a virgin box feeding the tv in my living room and i want to set up a second tv in a second room - i'm happy to just have a freeview box in the 2nd room - but dont really want to run an aerial lead through the house to the aerial point. What are the options? Will a Wireless av sender work and allow the 2nd tv to watch different channels at the same time as the main tv is being used? Or is it best to get someone in to put in a new aerial point? Is that expensive - do they have to get up to the roof? Very confused by all the options!

I'm just sorting this out for one of my team - basically you give someone a 6 month contract with option to extend and then give them 8 weeks notice of when it will end...i would say being as open and helpful as possible is best - managers appreciate it if you keep in touch - and having just returned to work after maternity leave i can say i found it really helped me in going back to work that i had kept up a bit of contact while off.

I've just had the experience of watching my brother have a lot of similar issues with his little boy - and it has been quite heartbreaking to see how difficult it has been. He and his wife have tried everything to solve the problems but my nephew (while a lovely kid in many ways) has had some real problems with biting and pushing. His parents couldnt be more gentle or loving - but it seemed to be his way of coping with things when he felt overwhelmed. They thought for a while that he might be on the autism spectrum - but they saw various experts who assessed him and determined that it was not autism but a developmental issue that would eventually resolve itself (like your friends little boy he's very advanced in other areas) In the end the most successful approach has been to give him a lot of attention and time with his parents. They are lucky to have flexible jobs and have been able to take it in turn to drop him off late and pick him up early from nursery - so that he doesnt have too long a day. What i have been struck by is how isolating it has been for my brother and sister in law. They have found it really hard being judged by other parents and unbearable when their son bites or hits another child. In the end they have ended up nevwr socialising with other parents. If you can bear to - do try and see your friend and her little boy and talk to her with understanding. Try really hard not to judge her parenting and just provide some support - she will probably be through this phase in a year or two and will always appreciate and remember that you supported her. If i hadnt watched my brother go through this i know i would have just thought behqviour like my nephews was down to being over indulged / badly disaplined - but i realise now it can be much more complicated.

I dont think anyone has mentioned ganapati just off bellenden rd in peckham rye - amazing south indian cuisine and v good local restaurant atmosphere. All round bellenden rd is worth checking out as has a more east london feel than lordship lane i reckon...there are some great shops and cafes and pubs round there...

My almost 10 month old has been having increasingly messy nappies over the last two days and the last two nappies have been dark in colour and a bit mucousy (apologies for the disgusting detail). He seems a little subdued but ate all 3 meals w usual gusto and is pretty chipper - did usual happy shouting all thru dinner! He has been getting a tooth through - but its his 6th tooth and i havent noticed anything unusual previously when he's been teething? What worried me a bit was the dark colour - very dark brown almost black? We were away over weekend and he had a couple of prepackaged pasta sauces he hadnt tried before. But the last 24 hours has been food he is used to. Should i be feeding him something special/ taking him to doctors. He's still breastfed evenings and mornings and has had some extra milk today and lots of water (as usual cause he loves drinking out of his sippy cup) Any ideas/tips? Should i be worried by the poo!?

My little one has just mastered sitting up from lying down and pulling himself up to standing - all good but now its a nightmare getting him to sleep! No matter how tired he is - when he sits up it wakes him up and it can take an hour of putting him back down to a lying position - probably at least 50 times! Exhausting and bad for my back - not to mention not much fun after a days work! I'd be inclined to be a bit tough and let him cry a bit but his dad caves in after 5 mins! And i prefer to try other routes - i am concerned however that we could be making a major rod for our own back and he needs to learn to go to sleep...does anyone know if this is just a phase and once the novelty of being able to sit up fades he will go back to his previously easy ways...

Just as a word of encouragement - i gave my baby some banana early on and completely freaked out when he gagged on it - i grabbed him and threw him upside down and slapped his back - not exactly the chilled eating experience i'd intended to give him! Really wasnt sure i could keep going with it! In fact i gave him purees for a number of weeks til i felt a bit more confident - but i found i began to relax the more i saw him eating and doing just fine. Took a while to feel comfortable but i found giving him things like toast and other quite solid things was good. At first he just sucked and wiped things around the tray so i didnt worry too much!! Didnt take long before he as eating the toast properly and i started to feel i could try meats and other more tricky things. I certainly think its possible to do a bit of a combination of some purees and some solid until you feel confident- some of the things i read gave the impression you had to do full blw or nothing!

Do any domestic goddesses out there have any tips for cleaning plastic baby bibs. We've got the sort that let you put their arms in made of thin plastic with a clear pocket at front (from jojo mama) - i clean them after every meal and hang to dry but no matter what i do they stink after about 2-3 weeks. Feels too wasteful to throw them out and replace as they are otherwise fine. Apparently you can't put in washing machine (or so it says on packet) but i wondered if anyone knew a way to clean them so they arent so revolting!?

I am still breastfeeding my 9 month old - and had weaned him to just have a morning and evening feed - but in the last week he has been asking for more milk during the day and eating less solids because he has been v coldy. I have been letting him feed a bit more during the day because he was so off his solid foods. Then yesterday i started feeling all fluey and ropey - went to bed shivering and think i was running a temperature during the night. This happened to me another time about 2 months ago - again just after my son had needed extra milk for a few days cause he was teething. Is this something thats happened to anyone else? Does producing extra milk make you feel rubbish? Both times the symptoms were v similar - bout 24 hours of feeling achey and slightly feverish and really tired!

My 9 month old has started crying for my attention whenever i come in the room! He is with me most of the time but when he is being taken care of by his daddy or other family members and i come back in the room he suddenly starts fussing and reaching for me. While i'm not visible he is perfectly hapoy. What is this? A type of separation anxiety? Will it stop soon or is it the beginning of a difficult mummy phase! I'm about to go back to work so i really hope not!

I'm intrigued by the 6:30 bedtime for babies - i struggle to keep mine awake until 7- but always try to wait as i assumed if he went down at 6:30 he'd wake again in the evening. But he's started waking and crying hard before finally resettling throughout the evening (usually at least once every evening this week) - maybe i should just let him go down at 6:30 as he is desperate to do? Only thing is that i'm back to work soon - if he's asleep at 6:30 i'll never see him (well unless he keeps waking in the evening i guess? At the moment i'm seeing rather a lot of him in the evening!)

Does anyone know how i could get together a list of all the different activitiea happening on various days for young children 1-2 years around east dulwich? I have a feeling someone put together a list and posted it on the forum but cant seem to find it...

With ww does anyone know how many points you are allowed when not breastfeeding? I signed up using the app while breastfeeding ans it gave me a huge daily allowance - want to adjust to give me the right number of points when not breastfeeding but cant get it to recalculate???

Just wanted to add my praise - we had fantastic care at kings.

I'm confused about iron levels - i am doing a combination of baby led weaning and some purees for my 7 month old- can anyone suggest how best to get iron into them? He is also having quite a bit of breastmilk (no formula)? I have given him meat which he sort of sucks on - but i'd saying his diet is primarily vegetable and fruit at the moment - he has broccoli and greenbeans and other green veg which i think have a good level of iron - but how do you know how much is enough? He loves ellas and petit fillou both of which are more successful than anything i lovingly create (humph)? Anyone know how much to worry about iron / how to measure? He is very happy feeding himself but not that much seems to actually go down just yet?

I guess it may also reflect your own memories of school/nursery. I went to a primary school i adored that had a similar lived-in feel and for that reason i really liked uplands mothergoose when i visited. To me it just felt like a place where kids make a mess everyday - which i guess is what i am kind of looking for. The kids seemed really comfortable and happy and it felt cosy and homely. Plus i liked the fact it was in a house with a similar lay out to mine. But clearly to each his own! Sounds like its not for everyone and fortunately there are other options to go for if it isnt for you! Such a hard thing contemplating leaving your little one somewhere it definitely has to feel right!

Thank you for this! Really helpful - unfortunately she is not in london so im a little limited in how much help i can be (especially as i have a 6 month old) but will try and do some of the things you suggest- i'm going to see her and babies next week and was wondering if it was a good idea to bring presents but after your advice i will! The great thing is that amazingly she is producing lots of milk so is able to feed them which i imagine must help a lot both for their health and for her! Anyway thank you - any other thoughts do let me know!

A very close friend of mine has just given birth very prematurely to twins at 25 weeks - they are getting great care and doing as well as can be expected. I wondered if anyone who has had a baby early might have some thoughts on what are the best things friends can do to help/ say etc? I imagine people often say upsetting things to parents in this situation and i want to avoid doing that? Asking the wrong questions - making the wrong assumptions etc...any advice gratefully received!

I know its pricey but i have to say ive found the cocoon really useful - my 6 month old is still in it - the top comes off for warmer months - but it was brilliant in the cold my baby was in it all winter - a sheepskin might be just as good in this weather? The cocoon is great for putting young baby down to sleep though... And you can shove various bits down at the bottom where the feet go - i think when your baby is a bit older and its cold again you would get good use out of it but i reckon after about 7 months its probably too small so depends when you are due...

Strongly recommend a trip to john lewis 4th floor! They will spend ages w you talking through all the options and have no particular axe to grind - happy to advise what they think is the best option for your budget and lifestyle - found it incredibly useful! Gave me a really good sense of what the differences between all the different prams are. Ended up w a bugaboo bee which has been great and worth every penny i think ... It is ridiculous to spend so much on a pram, but i have used it every single day for last 6 months (and expect to keep using it for a while)so in many ways one of the most cost effective items we bought!

I have really observed this with the way my parents react to how my nephew is being brought up and am stealing myself for disapproving looks at first temper tantrums from my son who is too young yet! I wonder if our parents see it as an implicit criticism of their parenting if we choose to parent differently? Perhaps subconsciously they are also seeking our approval? I also think perhaps the grandparent relationship can be difficult to navigate from their point of view sometimes - they feel intense parental type love for the child and yet have no control? As when they were parents they may also want thr child's behaviour to reflect well on them? And they see how stressed their child (the parent) is by the childs behaviour and want to help - their solution being a good firm smack or something similar which our generation isnt so keen on!

Ah that ia brilliant news! Thank you for your help!

Anyone travelled recently within europe on ba or similar airline and know how baggage restrictions work when you have your bags, baby, buggy and car seat?? Im baffled by the website info? Seems to suggest you get only the same allowance as normal when travelling w imfant (ie no allocation for them?) - i think a suitcase plus 1 piece of hand carryon luggage - so do i pay extra for checking a car seat? And what about a buggy? I think i can take to the gate - is that definitely the case w a buggaboo type buggy? How in the world im going to fit all his clothes, my clothes, toys, and huge amounts of baby stuff in 1 bag is beyond me! Will try ringing ba to double check but i thought i might get more sense out of this forum!