AbleM84

15 year old daughter. Didn't have her PE kit. Had to do the lesson in her bra and knickers. Mixed lesson, with boys. I obviously don't want to name the school. How should I deal with this?

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I agree. Us ladies have it easy - we can wear quite flimsy stuff and still look professional. Much more difficult for you lads!

She's learnt her lesson and won't be forgetting or losing her kit again, so no point making a fuss over it. She would rather let it lie.

Jules-and-Boo Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > You don't say how old your daughter is Sorry - she's 14 (year 9)

Jules-and-Boo Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Sorry, I thought you'd made her, not that it was > the school's doing! > > Changes things a little bit. It may be 'normal' at > the school and the kids wouldn't think anything of > it. > > With my girls, there was a certain point they > would have refused. > > Ask your daughter how she felt about it and act > accordingly. > > If she wasn't bothered maybe ask them about it so > they know you don't approve, or is she was upset, > tell them. I know its not unusual for the boys to do it in their boxers if they don't have their kit, but I don't think its common for the girls. But then doing it in boxers isn't quite the same as knickers! She was embarrassed, but just got on with it. I don't think she's head-strong enough to stand up to authority like your girls! At what point do you think your girls would have refused?

Jules-and-Boo Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- old enough to travel on bus = too old to do PE in her underwear. Have you seriously NEVER lost anything? Do you think I should say anything to the school, or just leave it?

malumbu Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Either you haven't laid down the ground rules so > she didn't know, or you are such a dictator that > she was too frightened to tell you. It's all your > fault (so get used to it) and it will continue to > be your fault through the teenage years. She may > thank you one day. > > Think back to your own childhood. I grew up in a > fairly traditional family but I was pretty dozy > and still lose things 40 years later! Lol! Yes, I think may be you are right!

brezzo Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > i think you need to talk to her school - very > inappropriate. > > I've been in education for 20+ years and never > heard of a school that did not have spare kit I don't think it's as common as it used to be. I was in school about 20 years ago and it happened there, I didn't think it would still happen these days!

Seabag Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Is this a fishing thread? > > *sniffs rancid worm* Fishing for what?

As there an age at which it is ok? I'm sort of its in the 'it's her own fault' camp, but on the other hand it seems excessive to me!

She left her PE kit on the 185 last week. Didn't tell me until Monday evening, so of course I didn't have time to go out and get her a new one before her next PE lesson yesterday. So she ended up having to do it in her knickers. Arrrghhhhh! So, tell me, its her fault for leaving it on the bus, and her fault for not telling me about it until its too late. But I didn't think these days knickers was the done thing for forgoton kit?