okay, im new to this too, my son is 3 and has type 4a hair. I think it is important to tell what type of hair she has first, i had no idea what this was but if you google 'types of hair type 4' you will be able to tell. From this you will be able to google and find forums and blogs of other womens (or men!) advice for this type of hair. for my sons hair i was using a detangling spray but it really dried out and i felt like it damaged his hair. I find because their hair is so delicate i spray it with water each morning so it is quite damp, i then brush it through with a detangler (i bought lots from the ?1 shop in camberwell butterfly walk and they have been life savers) so it doesnt hurt him, i was using moroccan oil but it is soo expensive so i got coconut oil and jojoba oil 100% pure from a shop in peckham and they have been a godsend. If i want to hold the curls for longer i use a coconut cream on top of it. I also got shea moisture kids shampoo and conditioner which is quite pricey but worth it. His hair has improved so much I really recommend making sure products are natural, i found my sons hair was damaged when i tried lots or paraben full creams on it and i had to cut alot off. This jojoba oil has been amazing and has been keeping his hair moist all day. Hope this helps ! Im no expert but its what has worked for my son ! http://blacknaps.org/know-your-hair-type/