snowboarder

The sleeping issue is complicated - I am so happy for people whose babies sleep as I am finding it AWFUL that mine does not - but sometimes I do get the feeling that some friends/my mother(!) think that my baby doesn't sleep because I am too soft/haven't 'trained' him/feed him/cuddle him/am somehow failing as good parent. Which is all easy to say when you get 6 hrs continuous sleep a night, but not so easy to take when 2 straight hrs is a good night!

Belle - this one? http://www.buggypod.com/index.php v strange!

ha - he already wants the spoon himself! (kind of why BLW appealed) - We have a compromise - he has one and I have one, and yoghurt is catapulted around the kitchen. Happily the cat likes yoghurt (oh dear does that sound disgusting?!?)...hope he feels the same about puree!

Hmm so total wobble on BLW now. Oh dear! I have just investigated my cupboard to find I do not actually know how to work complicated never used wedding present blender and hand blender (difference? Why do I have both? Also seem to have a separate juicer...). Molly/everyone do you actually spoon feed the mush? The only thing bubs ate today was toast and laughing cow cheese. Feel like rubbish mummy! Thanks all though! x

Hi My parenting dilemmas continue... Now that my baby is 6 months old we have started tentatively giving him finger food, we have the book on baby led weaning and are more or less following the principles, with some yoghurt and a bit of a helping hand thrown in. I like the philosophy and it seems to make sense, and in any event I'm not sure I'm up to puree-ing my evenings away (they are v short anyway!). BUT - Our sleep problems continue as does daytime milk refusal (bad sleeping and feed by night not day). So all the helpful people I talk to say I NEED to get food down baby during the day, and the only way to ensure he gets food is to puree. So I'm having a bit of a wobble about baby led weaning. I just wanted a bit of reassurance really that I'm not doing it all WRONG still - the book says food is not really related to sleep anyway, and the fact that there's milk on offer but not being taken during the day is an issue but I kind of think he takes what he needs when he needs it. Thank you....everyone is so helpful! I daren't go see the HV....

Definitely pillow(s). I had a slightly extended stay - and found I really didn't want to hang out all day in a nighty - yoga pants/jersey jogging bottoms were great for feeling slightly more normal, and much better for modesty! And a couple of breastfeeding vests from jojo maman bebe. And flip flops or crocs or something for the bathrooms. Nappies. It was so bloomin' hot in there the baby was mostly in little vest/body suits! Anything you want to eat or drink - the food is not nice.

No - you're fine - just kind of different!!

candj Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I agree with Pickle in that Iain is such a breath > of fresh air on this forum. Your posts always > make me smile and I like reading them. I have kind of been thinking iaineasy ARE YOU FOR REAL but maybe that's the cynical non huggy side of me coming out;-)

If you do prambusters rather than powerpramming you run!

Hey - bugaboos are not good - the front wheels (small) do bad things. You can use any old pram but need to be aware about going too fast with very small wheels - they kind of judder and can lock (scary).

Ugh - I am under no illusions - I look terrible!! And breastfeeding is rubbish - just makes you really hungry and I have boobs like MELONS which doesn't help overall huge-ness. Baby lets me pram-bust once a week but that's about all the exercise I can manage, husband leaves early and back late (and goes to the GYM at lunchtime - huh!) so not much time. Not good! It's kind of ok when you have the pram as you can hide - but the other day I actually crossed the road to avoid seeing someone I hadn't seen in ages as I was embarrassed about how I looked! It's not just the body..it's the clothes, the sick on shoulder etc.. Maybe the only solution is to get pregnant again and avoid the issue (!!JOKE)

Oh dear...well I'm glad I'm not the only one exposing myself to the world with a screaming baby on my lap. It doesn't seem so bad in East Dulwich but lordy when you go into town or out of London altogether (country pub in Devon!) - bit embarrassing. The general pattern seems to be temperamental feeders = bad sleepers. Maybe it just comes down to personalities. No improvements to report. Apart from I have bought a doidy cup. And a carton of formula. No idea what I'm really planning on doing with either as yet...Trying to space out feeds not working due to initial rubbish morning feed of the day (prob due to having fed all night...circles..) and sleeps and daily activities planned around a previous loose schedule of 5 feeds. Sigh.

cacaolat Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > snowboarder ! I had a look at your kiddiecare > links...(!!!!) I haven't bought it yet, but good > simple design like the tripp trapp will surely > outlast those horrible zumas and other badly > designed overpriced chairs. Don't keep making the > same mistakes, as you said you made many stupid > purchases in the last 5 months. Hmm - yep I didn't buy either of them - but the tripptrapp is just as expensive - and I would really recommend trying it out before you buy it as even with the baby set my sturdy already sitting on own 6 month old did not look comfortable...plus I wanted a tray..and after thinking about it one that would fold away. The mamas and papas one will be fine when he's bigger, and for now the ikea one is great - so all good! Actually given all my purchases I now have experience of a wealth of baby equipment. Maybe my new career can be baby shopping guru...:)

HA just to resurrect this and to say I was stupid and ignored all the advice here!! I bought a cool mamas and papas highchair at great expense - thought baby snowboarder looked really comfy in it in the shop. Got it home, realised he could barely reach the tray due to the 5 point harness...and he just slumped...and there was a massive gap for food to land in lap...so we're back in the ikea antelop with the baby inflatable insert and so much happier. GRR When will I learn?!? I pretty much have 2 of most baby things now.

Again thanks all for the advice - maybe I'll try and stretch the feeds out - I've been doing 5 a day for so long now our day has naturally formed around them so it will be quite a change but worth a go! The bottle idea could actually be a total non starter after the fight we had trying to get some expressed milk down him today - he took about half and oz - most of that on his chin and top!

Oh - not had this (I know my mum had one when feeding my sister) but it sounds really horrible. Any idea why it happened/what caused it? After 18 months breastfeeding? Is feeding really painful? Hope you get better...x

Thanks for your replies ladies. I just feel like I have tried to keep calm and feed at home and work on day time sleeps over the last couple of months and it just continues to get worse. I can't keep going on the sleep I'm currently getting and I need to get back to some semblance of a normal life where I don't come home every 3 hrs or so! I do keep thinking it will pass but it's hard to see when and how - it's been like this since july/aug at least - and that's a large chunk of his life! x

Oh but the bottle was my solution to a normal life, where we can go out! I spend most of my day trying to get him to sleep and eat! We do come home for feeds now as it's useless to even try out. And last feed before bed is dark and snuggly. Last night he woke on his own for a 'dream feed' at 10.30, again at 1.30 for food, 2.30 for cuddles, 3am for a chat, and 5.30 for more food before getting up at 6.15! ARGH! I just thought he might be less distracted with a bottle - as you can feed and see what's going on. My friends who bottle feed DO NOT HAVE THIS!

Sleep = generally bad. Maybe 3 half hour naps in the day. Last night he woke 3 times and screamed for food - fed for nearly an hour each time (sleepy feeds - but when I take him off he protests). Exhausting!

The Nappy Lady Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Is he showing interest in food - for instance > trying to grab stuff off your plate etc? - No - not really > > What happens if you feed him in a dark room during > the day with no distractions? - much better > > Does he 'ask' for breast regularly then play up or > just generally not seem bothered (baby C comes up > and grizzled and bangs her head against my chest > for example!!). - again - not really no.... OH BABIES!!

But I need to do something about him feeding all night...I think he's making up for the daytime - well - you know - who would spend time feeding during the day when you know you can cosy up in the dark and sleep and eat all night?!?

I've always just fed him approx every 2-4 hrs - depending on when he seems grumpy/OR when convenient for the day ahead. Generally 5 feeds a day plus endless grazing at night. Even when I leave it 4 hrs when out he won't take anyhting. (limited success in mamas and papas feeding room/complete screaming fit in peckham rye park cafe!). No real solids as yet - we're thinking of trying baby led weaning - so he's had some bits of fruit etc to play with but no 'proper' meals. ps - I'm not worried about his weight at all - he's fine - it's more the logistics of the day and an attempt to deal with nights.

Nearly 6 months. He SCREAMS. Cranes his head in the opposite direction. Sucks his thumb. Wriggles. We get 10 mins max feed at home - 1-2 mins if we;re lucky when out, but sometimes complete refusal. Maybe distracted and not comfortable but he MUST be hungry. Bit stressful!

For the last couple of months baby snowboarder has got worse and worse at (breast)feeding during the day - it has now reached the point where he won't feed at all if we're out. Or if anyone talks. Or if the cat walks by. I'm pretty sure this is related to the 3 or so wakes during the night when he screams until I feed him. SO I'm thinking I need to get him on the bottle. Apart from the actual logistics of this, does anyone know whether this might help the distraction problems? It's getting to the stage where we can't even go out for the day. I don't mind carrying on b/feedng at bedtime/night/early morning. thanks...

It DOES so depend on the children doesn't it? My parents were pretty relaxed and in response I never rebelled - never saw any need to! But my younger sister took advantage... I can see me being like my mother - far too liberal - and I will let the little snowboarder(s) get away with murder (hang on he's only 5 months and already is!). Too soft...but I HATE rows.