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I have intervened in the past and its not gone well. A man told his dog to sit at the kerb, it didn't sit so he kicked it hard on its hips and it yelped and screeched. I was standing next to them waiting to cross. I told the man he was wicked and shouldn't do that to the dog. He said "KEEP YOUR EFFING NOSE OUT, IT AINT YOUR EFFING DOG"... I said he was a complete BARTHING and shouldn't have a dog. I tried to take the dog lead, he punched me in the face. I punched him and we started fighting, he threw me in the road. Someone called the police. The police weren't very interested that he had kicked the dog, punched me in the face, or threw me in the road. As little me, had fought the man quite badly, they treated us like "knock for knock", in that if they arrested him for assault, they would arrest me too for assault .... Best keep out of it or call the fuzz!

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If everyone considered everyone else, there wouldn't be any problems. I try to actually "think" for everyone else on the road and anticipate all eventualities and silly things they will do? I have driven everything from a bicycle, large yahama scooter, sports cars and large vans .... so I get other peoples perspectives and needs and try consider them. You do seem to get some cyclists that seem to want to own the road and are pious yet they pay nothing towards the routes that are being made for them, the motorists do. One went past and punched my boot, just because they could ... they just had a problem with cars, doing it to other vehicles too! What could we do sat there in the q of traffic. They are not trained, insured or licensed. You get scooter pizza bikes constantly darting in and out, if they are not just hovering at your rear where you can't see them properly waiting to overtake somewhere silly like crossings or islands. I have left a large gap infront of my car so that an emergency vehicle can get through, or a large lorry turn right only for the necessary gap be filled by an idiot behind me, thinking I can get in the gap, totally messing everyone up? This happens a lot. You try to let the traffic flow, and some wally stops it ... I try use all the road, you can go past parked cars and someone will open the door suddenly ... or WORSE they are piddling around with kids and shopping, decanting them all in the road INSTEAD OF OPENING THE DOOR ON THE PAVEMENT SIDE???? When I sold my scooter to a young man, I gave him an extra "CBT" lesson before I let him set off home, as it was larger than he was used to. I told him to use the middle of the road, not get stuck in the kerb with the potholes and opening car doors. I told him to not speed and realise that as he went along, other people might not see him, be prepared. Never brake to sharply or the back could skid, or he could end up over the front. I told him to stick to the middle of his chosen lane, and don't be harassed by other drivers. I told him to ring me if he got stuck anywhere and I would come along and help. I got a phone call from his very grateful parents to say thank-you for all my help and getting their son back home safely. Common sense, consideration and a bit of respect would be nice, we are all mums, dads, sisters, sons and daughters, I think if you treat others like you would expect your family to be treated .....

Well, "someone" put in shortest route, instead of fastest route to Cardigan Bay. Was told by "Sally sat-nav" to take daventry turn off, did so, ended up in Coventry during the rush hour, then Birmingham pile ups(went past city football ground) then West Brom, went past the football ground, walsall? Every a*se end of everywhere, Telford, past the monument of Thomas the canal builder, Shrewbury, through the town centre PAST all the lovely tudor shops ... on to welshpool. Eventually we got to Dogellau after about 6 hours ... but we wasn't where we were supposed to be, insisting it was an adventure the "someone" carried on with shortest route, through narrow single vehicle farm tracks past miles of stone walls and upwards into the mountains .... I had to get out and open big sheep gates every so many yards, there were sheep everywhere, the mountains and scenery were BREATHTAKING, absolutely beautiful BUT INTIMIDATING AND SCARY. We had got so high that we were level with mists and it was very cold and eerily quiet. The track had large frozen puddles to negotiate, I thought we would fall off. "Someone" thought my beginning to panic was funny, which made me worse, I thought we could break down, fall off the edge, be attacked by sheep, freeze to death, get no phone signal .... A farmer drove up behind us, and assured us we were going the right way to where we wanted to go. We got there ... then came back the FAST WAY.

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Alan Medic. Your father in law will need to be assessed. The trouble is, he needs to request it himself, or comply with you that he needs it ... if you go to the doctors and say he is forgetful and HE AGREES, send a mental health nurse from south london and maudsley to do a cognitive assessment. Its just questions like what day is it, who is the queen, what did you have for lunch and some word remembering in the middle. To properly assess his condition, if "not just old age" he will need a brain scan. This can tell if vascular dementia by looking for small bleeds in the vessels, or if its Alzheimers; blockages and brain shrinkage can be seen. Alzheimers is sticky proteins. My dads scored poorly 3 out of 30! They put him on memantine for AD, his score went up to 28 for a little while! IMPORTANT INFORMATION FOR CARERS: Look after yourself too. I didn't. I couldn't. My dad got worse AD. My mum had vascular dementia (can't abbreviate that can I?) I looked after them both 7 days a week going home at night. They had a maximum social care package of 4 visits per day. BUT ... what were they both up to between visits- ALL SORTS (losing things, hiding meds, hiding soiled things, letting people in, getting lost, falling over ???. Were the carers any good? NO! Mums dinner in a used cat bowl, sitting in her own mess, no meds given - put in file that they were there 45 mins, but really only 10!. They were intruded upon, mum would give anyone that knocked money to go to the shops for her. Dad trying to find his old house and getting lost, looking for his mother ... leaving the gas on and not knowing wife of 40 years. They both got infections & sent to kings. Dad not allowed back, put in care. Mum "borderline capacity" sent home with pendant alarm. I was getting 24/7 calls, as mum pressing alarm for help, just wanted someone to make tea ... 10 ambulances a day. Calls at 3 am, 4 am. from Telecare asking me to go and check on my mum (what they are supposed to do). Carers can't get in 8am, so phoning me to unlock door, else will have to break in, several times a day??? She was locking them out, didn't want them. Neighbours were finding her, phoning me 2am. NIGHTMARE, Toilet blocked, social services wouldn't provide respite, they sent chemical commode in lounge for EVERYONE to use????? Mum wouldn't move from chair got dripping sepsis in legs and Social services had to section her and the police had to man handle her to remove her to the ambulance. She died. (So now all about pressured into selling house to pay care bills ...) DAD GROOMED: Alzhiemers got worse. Whilst at home with mum. Friendly neighbour said would take paper in mornings and make sure they were ok. I thought this was very nice and give me a bit more time to shop or get to the doctors. Got OVER-FRIENDLY and WEIRD. Was there all the time, spying to be there when I wasn't. Being dads new best friend and telling him he hadn't got AD, didn't need carers and that he would dispense him painkillers and put cream on his bottom instead of the nurses. The neighbour started putting his name down as "go to person/next of kin" with social services ,care agency, district nurses behind my back etc. I got a call from a nurse looking for the neighbour so she could discuss my mothers incontinence with him. My dad started treating me with suspicion because the neighbour was grooming him and telling him people were lying about his forgetfulness etc. I thought it was very odd and got in touch with social services. I asked the man not to be there so much but he told ME to F off and prove to him my parents illness????? I GOT THE POLICE ON HIM 3 TIMES to remove him, they told him to stay away. I lost nearly 3 stone, exhausted, mentally fried, rashes - VERY ILL at this point, the grooming thing nearly finished me off. Dad recently died of AD. He got to end stages when they stop eating or functioning. Very cruel. The hospital would hydrate him every other day, to try to discharge him to end of life care (they got all that wrong, phoning me to say they sending him to a home I hadn't agreed to or seen), they said they were discharging him on the day he died? MORE STRESS .... Social Services: well meaning most of the time, but clueless in reality and make a lot of things worse.They think they always know best, and act in the "best interests of their client" when doing so leads to all the above .... mostly interested in how you are paying for it, and keeping people at home cheaply and poorly. If you have two parents with mental illness, they will each get a community mental health nurse, a social worker each, district nurse so you have six people to deal with regularly, then theres their doctors, solicitors, carers, ambulances, neighbours, police. They will tell you to take your dad to a centre miles away, pay ?47 per day - who is looking after mum? They will tell YOU to go for counselling to help you deal with your stress and join a carers group, whilst no-one is looking after your parents? If either have hospital appointments, you get to them for 7am to get them both ready, cos you can't leave either alone .... then get back at 4pm? Then do it again the next day. THINGS YOU DO FOR ALZHEIMERS/DEMENTIA - cook, clean, bath, correspondence, shop, pay bills, gardening, laundry, see to pets, protect, write their xmas cards, take to hospital, call doctors in, be at meetings with social services, fix boilers, supervise tradesmen, get prescriptions, decorate .... supervise delivery of aids, commodes, grab rails ... As they age they get more ill, falls, hearts, chest clinic, cataract ops, pacemaker checks, bone clinics, fracture clinics, glaucoma clinics, elderly persons clinics. Carers: Had one or two good one in two years. The rest were total rubbish. Some found arguing over their shifts instead of doing things and one rooting round the china cupboard. VERY IMPORTANT INFORMATION::::::: CARE FUNDING A BIG SECRET: They WILL NOT tell you what you need to know. DO NOT GO ALONG WITH WHAT THEY SAY AND MAKE YOU SELL YOUR PARENTS HOUSE, like I was made to. There is social care paid for by the council (for people with no money or property, or can be cared for at home with home-helps etc), there is nursing care paid for by the NHS.There is also residential care and EMI residential care (elderly mentally impaired). If your relative needs residential care they may be eligible for Continuing Care Funding, their needs to be an assessment by the Commissiong care Group (CCG),ASK FOR IT, THEY WILL NOT VOLUNTEER IT the assessment takes into account, cognitive, behaviour, nutrition, safety, risks (falls, infections) , welfare, medication. If your relative has to go into care because they are incapable of living alone, them you COULD be eligible for funding. You may not have to pay ANYTHING. I am seeing a solicitor, having sold the house and paid ?90K, for dads care. ITS A MINEFIELD. If you are told you are not eligible and need to defer payments: this means the council pay the bill for you until you deal with the estate. THE COUNCIL are charged LESS than PRIVATE FEE PAYERS.. for instance woman sitting next to dad, costing council ?2400 per month. Dad paying his own ?4040 per month for same care. Then if you are private funded you will have to pay for carer to accompany "dad' to appointments ?20 per hour/?100 per visit. If you are council funded YOU GO FREE? Being an only child, it was all down to me. No-one to share the load. I hope this information is of help, I cannot be a good example of how to do anything, I am more of a terrible warning of the reality I am afraid. If you have any questions, please ask. I might know. Best of luck.

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I am looking to move. I found a rural place its in a lane, the garden backs onto a corn field and opposite their are more fields. Driving out of the lane, five mins up the road. I noticed the local hunt and group of hounds. The hounds kept running in the road and stopping the traffic. I have looked up the local hunt. They are quite well supported in the area. The estate they come from covers over 5000 square acres. Currently I live in a cup-de-sac. My cat turned up as an un neutered stray, skin and bone, limping and ears hanging off from infection, he is a lovely devoted cat. He likes to go out and go "round the block" there are no main roads to worry about. I don't want him ending up attacked by hounds or injured by a combine, should I keep him in all the time. Or build him a small "patio" or :-( Thanks.

ARE THEY MOWING etc? it does seem a bit anti-social, or weird. Perhaps they are having rush visitors, like the folks coming round or someone important and they didn't want it looking tatty? ... there is a time and place though. I went out ranting like an old fish wife ... an antisocial neighbour of nine years .... I was going to sleep at midnight, when there was tapping banging, doors slamming, whirring noises, metal clanking sounds to the room adjoining our bedroom. I tapped several times on the wall, to indicate there was a problem. As this had been happening and escalating for about a month. The ladies latest illegal lodger/apparently I am disturbing him with tapping on the wall? I am disrespecting him innit!! They said its their neighbour upstairs making all the noise. I called the neighbour upstairs who was sitting with his headphones on trying to avoid THEIR noise. He was very upset at being accused. The neighbour then said, IT WAS HER NOISE, she was doing some hoovering and housework while her children slept. I told her that as she doesn't go to work and that 1 young baby sleeps a lot whilst the other child is at school, she should have plenty of time for housework during the day!! I wonder why they are gardening at night? Perhaps they are vampires?

Is the kitchen space large and square? Large and rectangular? My kitchen has a narrow rectangular utility on the back of it, its the width of the kitchen. There are two windows on the longest wall, back door into the garden on the shortest wall to the right. There is a separate WC on the shortest wall to the left, then is the sink and drainer with cupboards above. wall .... window....wall ....window ..... double sink washer dryer freezer ...... floor cupboards ------ WC ........ floor space ........ back door ------ long kitchen wall: half glazed door, then brick wall with window panel in it allowing light from utility windows into kitchen. KITCHEN .... GOOD LUCK Does that help? I may re-jig this utility room: Remove sink and drainer so that american fridge freezer stands in current sink space on left ... put sink under window for garden view ....

Yes, there are many exceptionally stupid women around, like the ones who decant shopping and kids in the middle of the road instead of on the pavement, I nearly got one the other day!!! It would have been MY FAULT wouldn't it?

Mick Mac Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Clever rat or a Fwit poster. Definitely a clever rat, waiting at the kerb until the traffic stopped and the beeps went. To call someone a Fwit isn't nice. Perhaps if I had claimed to have seen a duck in the library using the internet to sort out his banking .....

Me neither, sorry.

Thats awful !!! They have probably gone off to a boot sale with some metal collecting type men. I made a small plant arrangement for my grandmothers grave and that got nicked.

PS on leaving sainsbury's, turning right towards goose green, had to stop at the lights. There were some people waiting at the kerb to cross as the lights changed. There was also a big rat on the kerb, waiting to cross. The traffic stopped and the beeping started, at which point the people crossed on the crossing together with the rat. Clever rat?

I do understand the need for Parent Parking and would not usually use it. One day in Sainsbury's I was told off for using the parent parking by two extremely pious ladies. I had collected a very elderly couple from kings and they really needed some shopping having no bread or milk at home, (80s deaf with alzheimers, 80's partially sighted post operatively frail). I couldn't use the disabled bay as the person hadn't brought their badge. I tried to park in a normal space, but the Alzheimers one cannot be left unattended for wandering off whilst trying to park and then assisting the other one. And the frail one has mobility problems so I needed to be near the entrance and the car doors open wide to assist the person out and get to get the wheeled frame from the boot. I was going to leave the frail one with a coffee, whilst I whizzed round with the other, as it would be a treat for them both really. "You shouldn't park there, you haven't got children" "You should move that and let a parent park there!" "These two are more trouble than kids" I joked "I won't be long" ... "Thats not the point" they replied. "These spaces are for parents" ... "You could say these are both parents and toddlers" I tried to joke again. Both the old people are now anxious and want to know whats wrong, questioning me "whats the matter, what are they saying?" "Im not having a good day as you can see, please leave me alone" I said ... they continued muttering their disgust at my heinous use of a toddler space, when there were many more available. I think I was supposed to let one wander off and get brought home by the police again later, let the other one damage someones car trying to get in and out .... or get a cab for them both from the entrance of the car park to the entrance of the shop .... Why can't people be a bit more empathetic or understanding ...???

Things I thought I could do age 4-8: 1) Make my own perfume with rose petals in a jar with water, the contents would turn into a jar a mould slime. 2) Swim the channel, got as far as end of pier and returned by life guards. 3) Cross the channel on a lilo " " " (Several attempts made to get to France under my own steam, by myself, whilst holidaying on the south coast) 4) Keep a random flea-like garden insects as pets. 5) Roller skate down the brockley jack. 6) Make a house from twigs on an island in a pond and live there undiscovered for ever. 7) SING, dance and play instruments and be tuneful !!$%^& 8) Get rich returning empty bottles or selling bunches of weeds to old people. 9) One day own my own milk float. 10) Abandon the Brownie camping group and find my way home from Beaconsfield at night.

My family were fruiterers and greengrocers. My grandad was a costermonger with a horse and a cart load of peas or cabbages. We used to go to the market and try before we bought a pallet of tomatoes etc .. if we didn't like eating it we didn't buy it. The fruit and veg seemed better years ago. You would get things in season grown in earth, not all these hydroponically grown stuff. We used to have to wash all the soot off the celery, it would turn up two foot long with lovely leaves on. I used to enjoy boiling a bag of beetroots. POTATOES: We would sell whites - maris pipers mainly, could be replaced with a maris peer equally as fluffy, chippy, potatoey! NOW they sell inferior waxy varieties, melody, harmony etc ... We would sell desiree as a waxy one, and a king edward for a roaster! We would try boiling, chipping and roasting before we bought 100 sacks. APPLES: I can't find lovely english ones anymore, they used to be tasty the Discoverys and Worcesters! PLUMS: we would sell English Victorias and greengages .... The really big tasty ITALIA grapes, had a pip in, but were almost as big a plum so it didn't matter much. I rely on lots of imported goods for my own consumption, but I try to buy seasonal.

Thank you Rendel for your reply. I appreciate it and have gained knowledge from it.

I had someone called "Micheal Jackson" ... yes, Micheal Jackson! with an outstanding balance on a Marisota catalogue. I had to explain that Micheal Jackson didn't live at my house, if he did, I would have no objection to his collection frocks, but that I wasn't liable for his debt.

thanks to the others who explained about the expiry of the franchises etc ...

Thats wonderful !! He's lovely. So glad he's been saved, (as I couldn't save the one being attacked by dogs near benchley gardens, they attacked me too). Hope he gets a nicer place to live.

Interesting to watch SWIFTS darting about in Marmora Rd. They look like they are nesting in several gabled houses. I don't know much about them and thought they nested in craggy rock places? They nip up under the gables and are there for a split second before darting away again. I know they spend all their time "on the wing" .... Perhaps new builds and refurbs should include nesting sites and gables to make up for some of the different losses of habitat? Thanks.

Hello. Im not angry at all. I am not very pleased at being called a liar though. I am happily corrected, or will admit to being wrong, unlike some people. Here is another article .... saying it was delayed ... perhaps its "fake news" ??? How sentencing of Rigby's killers WAS DELAYED until British judges defied European court to declare 'life means life' ECHR had said whole-life tariffs with no right of review were unlawful But senior British judges defied this last week, opening decision to judge Michael Adebolajo, 29, was given whole-life term for Lee Rigby's murder But Michael Adebowale, 22, was jailed for life with minimum of 45 years By MARK DUELL PUBLISHED: 19:47, 26 February 2014 | UPDATED: 19:34, 27 February 2014 The sentencing of Lee Rigby?s murderers WAS DELAYED until today after Strasbourg judges had said that whole-life tariffs with no right of review were unlawful. THANKS AGAIN. PEACE TO ALL !