Oh wow thank you all will give the man recommended a call any affordable help would be grateful. GinaG3 thank you for sharing your story I hope you feel a little better although I can't imagine my stress is anything like your. Get a social worker contact your local MP they can help that how I finally got to the top of the list otherwise I'd still be in the middle losing the will to live with two teenager's in one room one with SEN, the other with Crohn's. I'm sure once I'm there all will be great I have update work should be done end of next week then hopefully view the following week get keys and then 9 days to clean floor upstairs and down pack up the rest of it all and do the big move. Doctors dentist schools so much to do...i have started lists which is helpful so much to think about. I work 16 hours a week with chronic fatigue syndrome and am robbed of any overtime I try and scrap sometimes I wonder if I worked it out if I am actually better off working it's crazy I would work for nothing as hard it is it gives me purpose. We have to keep trying and deal with these challenges as no one else will take care of out kids as we do. My daughter was abused last year at a boarding school I didn't want to send her to but offered the best chance for her special needs then our worst nightmare became real it's only been a year and we have all been damaged this house is going to be what we need there own rooms my own garden....just sometimes it seems so hard but we got to learn to play the system not battle against the serious injustices...i seek change in education which has started by the hopeful introduction of mandatory reporting could have prevented my child's abuse and others it's just crazy. I can't wait to move to West Dulwich I have already met such lovely people and shows what amazing people there is amongst the craziness. Thank you all ill keep you posted. GinaG3 please stay in touch and let us know how you get on. You keep at them you will get there. Xxxx