The Nappy Lady

Suggest we set up a new thread for EDM Drinks, rather than hijack this thread....

Suggest we set up a new thread for EDM Drinks, rather than hijack this thread....

Hi Annette, I did consider this aspect before posting. I don't feel I am the same as I don't charge people to come to my demos, nor do I receive commission on my sales. I receive a small monthly retainer for what I do which, to be honest doesn't cover my time and effort but that isn't why I do it. I give this information purely in response to your query on the matter. I have a part time admin job to help pay the bills. I just felt the price should have been included in the original post, and that there needs to be more detail of what the price gets you. I am sure others were thinking the same, I just happened to be the one to voice it. You seem very offended by my post which I apologise for, but this is an open forum so all views should be free to be expressed. Hope you have a good (and no doubt well deserved) night out and look forward to hearing all the feedback from those that go along. Molly Molly AnnetteTwitcher Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I'm a naughty mummy. > So naughty that I'm going to spend ?15 on myself > for a bloomin' change and come out for some > goodies and a cocktail or two. > > Sounds like a good night and i'm all for > supporting local mums who use their > entreprenuerial nouse to make a bit of money...btw > isn't that what you do as 'the nappy lady' > Molly??! > > AnnetteTwitcher

Hi Annette, I did consider this aspect before posting. I don't feel I am the same as I don't charge people to come to my demos, nor do I receive commission on my sales. I receive a small monthly retainer for what I do which, to be honest doesn't cover my time and effort but that isn't why I do it. I give this information purely in response to your query on the matter. I have a part time admin job to help pay the bills. I just felt the price should have been included in the original post, and that there needs to be more detail of what the price gets you. I am sure others were thinking the same, I just happened to be the one to voice it. You seem very offended by my post which I apologise for, but this is an open forum so all views should be free to be expressed. Hope you have a good (and no doubt well deserved) night out and look forward to hearing all the feedback from those that go along. Molly Molly AnnetteTwitcher Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I'm a naughty mummy. > So naughty that I'm going to spend ?15 on myself > for a bloomin' change and come out for some > goodies and a cocktail or two. > > Sounds like a good night and i'm all for > supporting local mums who use their > entreprenuerial nouse to make a bit of money...btw > isn't that what you do as 'the nappy lady' > Molly??! > > AnnetteTwitcher

Um....ok, this is going to make me sound grumpy and negative, which I rarely am, but I don't really understand why people need to pay ?15 or ?20 for this. The East Dulwich Dads seem to be managing to meet up by simply getting organised on the forum - can't us Mums do the same if we need a night out? It is bad enough trying to make ends meet, pay for baby sitters, etc. etc. - fair play to those that can afford it, but to me it feels a little like another way of cashing in on the ED Baby Boom. Whatever the 'goodies' may be, someone must be making a profit from this, so unless you are going to tell us exactly what's in the bag, what the entertainment is etc. I'm going to be cynical about this! If anyone goes along and would like to post afterwards to correct me please feel free...... Off to shout at children from dropping litter in my front garden in Victor Meldrew Style....... Molly

Um....ok, this is going to make me sound grumpy and negative, which I rarely am, but I don't really understand why people need to pay ?15 or ?20 for this. The East Dulwich Dads seem to be managing to meet up by simply getting organised on the forum - can't us Mums do the same if we need a night out? It is bad enough trying to make ends meet, pay for baby sitters, etc. etc. - fair play to those that can afford it, but to me it feels a little like another way of cashing in on the ED Baby Boom. Whatever the 'goodies' may be, someone must be making a profit from this, so unless you are going to tell us exactly what's in the bag, what the entertainment is etc. I'm going to be cynical about this! If anyone goes along and would like to post afterwards to correct me please feel free...... Off to shout at children from dropping litter in my front garden in Victor Meldrew Style....... Molly

Not really that technical, just like anything else, a certain amount to discover when you first start, then it is plain sailing.......

Not really that technical, just like anything else, a certain amount to discover when you first start, then it is plain sailing.......

Hi fairylamb, My eldest daughter had quite a flat head on one side, I saw doctor and HV and was told it would self correct, and it did. Not even sure quite when, but certainly in the first 12 to 18 months I would say. She has a perfect head now. However, I would say on a scale of 1 to 10, her head/problem was probably around 4 or 5 - not that bad IYKWIM. I know someone else who went down the helmet route as the problem was worse - pushing ear and jaw out of alignment on one side....baby didn't seem in the least bit bothered by the helmet, and amazing how within a matter of weeks the head shape had corrected itself, though baby still needed to wear it for the full time, can't recall if it was 6 or 12 months, but quite a long time. I would say investigate further, get referred to see specialist at hospital who can advise further and give you an idea of how 'bad' your little ones head really is (sorry, that sounds awful, I don't mean it how it sounds, but I know personally I always feel things are worse than they are when my own children are involved, so he may be able to give you a better idea of whether you really need to be concerned). I don't think there is anything ethically wrong with going down the helmet route if hospital etc. are supportive, I don't think it is anything like cosmetic surgery etc. My 1 year old is currently wearing shoes to correct a curve in her foot - I would say both that and a helmet to correct a flat head are medical issues that should be addressed and corrected if the option is there to do so. Molly x

Laundering services tend to only do their own nappies, doubt you'd get them back safely (they also wash too hot for shaped nappies - heat wrecks elastic and velcro etc)....would suggest you hand swill so they are fairly clean, bundle them up in a towel and go to the local launderette with them and just bung them in towel and all......or bring them around to my place if you like........or smile sweetly at a neighbour.........I had a week without a machine last year when baby was a few months old and managed to alternate between 2 of my neighbours who were both cloth nappy friendly thank goodness! Drying not a problem if you have radiators and/or an airer. Hope you get sorted soon. Molly

Hi ThatGuy, For advice on cloth nappies you can also come to me for advice and demos, the best place to start is to visit www.thenappylady.co.uk where you will find a lot of useful reading. I see Eco Nappies do both cloth and eco disposables. If you are looking at disposables one thing I will say is that you need to look at the whole footprint from production onwards because from a disposal point of view whether you use mainstream or eco nappies doesn't make much difference if you are going to put them in your dustbin. This is because when disposables get rolled into a ball, tied up in a nappy sack and put into a dustbin, to ultimately go into landfill they are not going to degrade because landfill is managed to avoid precisely that (because of the risk of methane explosion). Liquid waste can drain away, but solid waste sits there, pretty much for ever, and just gets covered over as each cell fills up. When a pack of eco disposables say they are "80% degradable" they may well be if you live on a farm with a few hundred acres available to manage them and compost them in the right way, but for most of this this isn't an option, and the claim is only possible because 80% of a soiled nappy is urine and faeces. It makes depressing reading I know. But, from a production point of view Moltex are very good - their factory in Germany has won many awards for their environmental standards, use of recycled products, and recycling etc. Of course, if you are planning to use cloth that is better from an environmental, financial and leak proof (if you get good advice and the right nappy) point of view.....but it really is important, please don't just go and buy a whole set of nappies 'off the peg' before baby is born, it is like trying to buy a car without test driving it first! Best wishes, Molly www.thenappylady.co.uk [email protected]

Though given current postal situation they may not arrive for another 12 months....

ClareC, I gather that we are at the start of a number of 'bulge' years, with increased numbers of children needing school places, but that this will drop off again at some point in the next few years...(sorry can't remember how many years it is predicted for....or where I read it, but probably on here, and sure someone else will know). If this is the case things will probably be resolved by the time you need a school place, and you do sound very close to Heber so am sure you will be fine. Use common sense and apply for the schools closest to you if you possibly can, and also, make sure you put 4 choices down on your admission form when the time comes, you are more likely to end up with a school that is 'the other side of Peckham' if you only put down 2 choices and leave the other 2 options blank...if you do that then if the council can't fit you into either of your choices they can then put you wherever they like! Hope this helps, try not to worry, plenty of time for things to resolve themselves in your case..... Molly

Ah Fuschia, welcome back, I was wondering where you had got to!

I can quite believe that Mellors given how much better my little one eats when at the childminders....but I find it impossible to refuse her when she comes up and starts banging her head against my chest....guess I am too soft! Having said that, I do try hard not to let her have a breastfeed in the run up to tea time so at least she eats more at 5.30 ish (easier as I'm usually quite busy and not so likely to be sitting and holding her at that time of day). Molly

Crompo123 has just reminded me to say that giving snacks throughout the day is supposed to be very good for little ones too as it is hard for them to eat much in one meal, so they don't really do the '3 meals per day' thing that we adults (try) to stick to (thinking of biscuits and cake as I say this!!). I have this fab thing called a snack trap; http://www.bumpto3.com/product.aspx?DISPLAYCAT=feed&CAT=Products&CATGRY=feeding_on_the_go&PID=DA220 Actually, just edited to say this website is the better; http://www.snacktrap.co.uk/ Which I bought long ago at a Baby Show, and I have to say it does make it easier and less messy to give them stuff in between meals and when out and about - my little one loves pulling stuff out and eating it now, seems to find it quite exciting (did take her a while to master it). Your little one isn't going to starve herself - remember her tummy is only as big as her fist, so it will not take a lot to fill her up. Also, try to think about what she has eaten over 7 days, rather than obsession about how much she eats in a day - this really helps when they are teething and off food for a couple of days in a row. Hugs, Molly

Hi Monica Sounds wonderful. It would be good to know the route the parade will take, so that if the start is very hectic we could maybe wait somewhere along the route? Molly

Well I would say, trust your instincts and don't worry about it. My little one, now 13 months is just the same - she is my 2nd, and I don't bother with HV's or getting her weighed. She is with a childminder 2 or 3 days per week, and eats more when there, and less on days when with me because she has more breast feeds. Also, she has days when she eats more than others, and goes off most food other than yoghurts and fruit when teething. Just keep offering lots of different stuff, try to eat with her whenever you can - I often find they eat better when copying you, and if she wants to steal stuff off your plate even better. If you can get into situations where she is also sitting and eating with other children, especially ones that are a little older that may well help - my little one LOVES to sit at the table with her big (5 year old) sister, and seems to really watch and copy her when it comes to eating. I hope this helps - all babies are different, and I don't personally agree with the HV 'go by the book' approach - as long as your little one seems healthy and happy and is not noticeably a lot smaller than her peers, and has nice chubby thighs and bottom etc. - they are the signs she is well. Oh also, are you giving her vitamin drops? You should be and this will help - I use Abidec and mix them into my little ones yoghurt every day. Molly x

Tee hee Ian, sadly not in the same league - but as a parent probably much more relevant to day to day life, for a brief period anyway! iaineasy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Tha famous leg over trick?? Is that something I > should teach to Anna should she be teaching it to > me, is it in the karma sutra? I need to join the > local library!

Belle - do the 'famous leg over trick'!!! To change nappy; Sit on floor on your bottom with legs out in front of you, in a V shape. Place baby at right angles to you, with your thigh over his chest to pin him down, and his feet in the direction of your other leg. You can then change him quickly and easily, with both hands free, without him moving, and even if he protests it will all be a lot quicker and less frustrating/traumatic than the general baby rolling and crawling away, poo everywhere, stressed out red sweaty Mummy thing.... Usually you only have to do it for a week or two and they stop playing up about nappy changes anyway because they realise you've got them beaten! One of the best tips I've ever been given, handed down through generations of Nappy Ladies! Molly

Wow, what a brilliant result. Nice to know it wasn't subject to 'scooter theft' which I gather is common - I've heard of a few instances of shiny new scooters being taken in exchange for a very 'tired' equivalent. Molly

Hello FRM, good to know you exist, and thank you for the introduction. As you say, hopefully it will not be too labour intensive a task, but good to know you will be around for the odd time when all us hormonal/sleep deprived/stressed out parents need a little shepherding! Molly

Hi Pickle, Lots of good advice already....a thought from me - if the cot isn't too high from the ground, try (as a prev. poster suggested) taking one side off it, and see whether he is happy/whether things improve. If not, easy to put the side back on, and not as much hassle as setting up a bed etc. You can get gro-bags for them until they are about 13, so can keep him in one in a bed if you want, though I do understand the concern about him trying to walk in it and falling over etc. O went into a 'big girl's bed' at 2.5 and was fine, though we do go through a few weeks of having to tell her to go back to bed - she would get up and go onto the landing etc. This is certainly a downside that you have to consider, and I think most have to deal with. A stairgate in his doorway would certainly stop you worrying about sleepwalking though. There are two schools of thought on 'lifting' a child to do a wee when you go to bed. One is that it helps them to get dry at night, the other is that it can actually do the opposite as they wee on the potty whilst not really awake, so it doesn't help them to learn to feel the need, wake up and get up to go. However, I know plenty who have followed both methods and sooner or later all children end up dry at night. O was such a heavy sleeper it didn't make any difference whether we lifted her or not, she was so fast asleep it took a long time for her to start to wake up when she needed the loo - she was 3.5, despite being dry by day bang on 2 years old! I don't honestly know whether moving him into a bed is going to solve the night waking, but I guess it is worth a try - nothing to lose and plenty to gain, and if not you just put the side back on the cot. Was last night any better than the previous night? Molly

jollyrogers - is it possible to have some of those painted warnings sprayed onto the pavements reminding people about the fine etc? How can I make it happen? jollyrogers Wrote: > What does Southwark Council do about dog fouling? > > Cleaning and removal > We receive approximately 50 complaints about dog > fouling each month. We aim to clean and remove dog > fouling within 4 hours of it being reported to us. > A dedicated clinical waste vehicle is used for > this service.

halicon you have my sympathy - we have the same problem on Ivydale Road, right outside Ivydale School - it is almost as if someone is deliberately bringing their dog to foul the pavement there each night (or early morning). As fast as it gets cleaned up there is another lot there, and almost every day I see some poor child and parent having to deal with the consequences. If only we could have more Community Officers out to catch these people (I know it is impossible, but they so deserve to have a hefty fine for being so irresponsible). As a dog owner myself I really hate these people that give all of us a bad name. Molly