trinity

hellosailor Wrote: > > Trinity - she cries if I put her in her bjorn > bouncer (you know, the one all babies are supposed > to adore!) and I have thought about getting a > swing but am confused about the difference between > swings/rockers/vibrating chairs. is a swing > different from a vibrating chair - is it basically > a battery operated chair that swings backwards and > forwards? > > I've tried swaddling several times, the first time > was when she was 3 weeks old and she slept > peacefully in her basket, swaddled, for a couple > of hours, I really thought it was a miracle! But > since then, she hates being swaddled and cries > until you take it off, so have given up after > several attempts.. > When I go out with her I do wear a sling rather > than take the buggy and she sleeps happily in that > for a couple of hours while I take a walk and do > errands, so I was just thinking today that I'd > start wearing it round the house more. > > Cuppa tea it's reassuring that eventually your > little one was okay with being put down! > > I'm happy to find more ways - slings, swing chairs > etc - to free up my hands as an answer, but just > really hoping that if I 'go with' her need to be > held constantly for the next few weeks and find > ways to accommodate it like wearing a sling all > day rather than somehow trying to actually change > the habit, then eventually she will be > increasingly okay with being put down... My lo didn't like the bouncer either. We got the fisherprice swing which was an cosy padded chair that dangled from an overhead arm and swung (quite a long way)from side to side. She just couldn't stay awake in it. I guess it provided just the right type of motion she needed to tip her into sleep. She was a much happier baby when she was able to get long good quality sleeps. You and cuppa tea are absolutely right that if slinging works for you both at the moment keep doing that. As she develops she will cope better and be happier at being put down. Mine hated the sling when tiny (that's why I tried the swing) but loved it when she was older. Good luck. They don't stay this tiny for long.

It's really tiring having to hold your baby all day. I had one of these and it is exhausting so I really feel for you. Have you tried tight swaddling or a sling. Both of these may help with the sensations that your little one needs in order to feel calm. I am with Fuschia on the fourth trimester idea that some babies just need the sensations of the womb for a bit longer than others so the nice enclosed feeling that comes from being in a sling near mummy, swaddled or just held needs to be continued. Some babies don't need it but it sounds like your little one does. The other thing that worked for me with a baby I could not put down was a baby swing. I set it up the day it arrived (she was 8 weeks old) and I wept tears of joy because she slept for 3 hours and I could make myself a meal and have a bath without the stress of a crying baby. It doesn't work for everyone but it solved my baby's problem.

You will manage and it will be tough for a while but you will find the 'right' corners to cut for your little family group. My limit was reached when one night I was cooking dinner, breastfeeding baby, supervising bath time, helping with homework and overseeing music practice - all at the same time.

James Barber Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Hi trinity, > I'll report it for you today. > > Regards james Thank you

Hi again James, apologies for the third message in one day. I'm not sure you're the man to sort this but you might be able to help. One of the pedestrian buttons at the pelican crossing on Lordship Lane/Townley Road junction is not working. Not only is the 'wait' light not functioning but it also doesn't 'call' the green man. It is the button on the Townley Road side. I think that it has been broken for a while as my daughter claimed it wasn't working last week but I didn't believe her. I believe her now.

James Barber Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Hi trinity, > Yes, that junction from my experienc can be tricky > to cross. > Monies for changes to roads - such as kerb > buuild-outs - usually get spent retrospectively > based on crash data. > I've asked council officers for a meeting to talk > me through the end to end process and specifically > crash maps for Southwark and East Dulwich. I'd > imagine no reported crashes at this site but it > must make you hesitate about allowing your child > to go to school by themselves. > > Normally in such circumstances we get a pot of > capital money under the Cleaner, Greener, Safer > banner every year and we'd often use a few > thousands to fix such problems that don;t directly > warrant collission reduction money but do need > fixing when they become apparent. This coming > financial year we're unclear on whether we'll have > CGS funding - it appears to have been diverted for > an Olympics fund centrally administered from the > new Town Hall. Fingers crossed the CGS money will > be reinstated. If it is I'd encourage you to apply > for kerb buildouts at this junction. > > Seperately we're using some of last years CGS > allocation to create 20mph speed limits on all the > roads bounded by Lordship Lane, Whateley Road and > Barry Road. This wont be a 20mph zone with humps > everywhere as the vast majority of vehicles are > travelling very close to 20mph already but such > 20mph speed limits do have the effect of bringing > speeds down several mph and should result in vast > majority travelling at or below 20mph. > We'll then see which roads are seeing greater than > 20mph speeds and would then expect to have humps > installed on an as needs basis. 20mph speed limits > should happen in 8-12 weeks time. > A speed review after about 12 months which should > be timed nicely for the next CGS round. Thank you for this. If CGS money is to be available for the forthcoming year I would be keen to apply for it. The other junction that would cause my children problems is that of Rydedale and Underhill Road which is very close to the junction of Underhill and Dunstans. Sightlines are also very poor due to cars parked very close to the junction, vehicles seem to come fast down the hill and buses also travel along the road. Presumably your comments re CGS above also apply to this junction. I am not sure whether Underhill Road is already a 20mph road.

Hi James. I hope you will be able to help me with this. Today I was walking my children to school and noticed that the crossroad of Goodrich Road and Landcroft Road is very difficult for a child to cross due to very poor sightlines. Cars were parked very close to the junction plus the hill and a slight bend in the road meant that my daughter had to venture quite a way into the road before she could see both ways. On the junctions of Goodrich with Friern and Goodrich with Upland the pavement has been built out so that cars can't park at the corners and also allows pedestrians to safely see past the parked cars. As a result my daughter had no difficulty with these junctions. Is this treatment possible for the Goodrich/Landcroft junction? Many thanks

Wonderful - you're up to ?1033 now. Fantastic effort.

It's absolutely fine. Some little babies need dummies to help them sleep or just soothe them. You are doing the right thing by giving her one. Many babies just grow out of them and if she doesn't then deal with that later.

Thank you Renata. It is the morning service between 7 and 8 that has been causing us problems. A bus that runs only every 20 and is unreliable can't really be used to get to a destination by a certain time.

Just tried the sax in its hard case in my pannier. It does fit - just. But it does make the bike a good 10 inches wider and very side heavy. Would need to carry schoolbag in other pannier to even up the weight and even then it still might be a little unstable. The sax case does have D-rings to attach rucksack straps to, so might do try that also. I did see someone cycling through Herne Hill with a cello on their back but it did look hard work.

Fantastic picture - how wonderful that all was well.

littleEDfamily Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- I'd rather a kind, > happy swearer for a parent than a grumpy, > repressed and holier-than-thou one. Is that really the choice you are faced with? I'm pretty sure that kind, happy non-swearing parents exist.

The posts that made me uneasy were not so much the exasperated exclamations of swear words by children - I can see how parents can swear within earshot in those sort of situations. It was the posts in which little kids were telling people to f**k off or calling people g*ts, that worried me. That can only be because they regularly hear adults or other children speak to each other like that and that seems quite nasty. I agree with many of the posters in that in the grand scheme of parenting it's not the worst thing you can do but fundamentally it's not very nice and most of us would prefer not to do it in front of the kids.

I am a bit surprised by this thread. I grew up in a non-swearing household and as a result rarely swear and never in front of children (not even the mildest cr*p). For children to be repeating swearing, they must have heard it a lot in the home which makes me feel uneasy. Adults have a responsility to set an example to children and this includes their language. Is your swearing so ingrained that you can't moderate your language when necessary? I find that very puzzling.

Unfortunately we are too far away from Lordship Lane for the 185 or 176 to work. We tried the 363 then P4 once to go along Dulwich Common but the P4 was also very late and we only just squeezed on! I think biking will be the way to go but how do you carry a saxophone on a bike?

My son wants to travel to school on his own and the P13 bus (going towards Streatham) would do the trick. However he has tried it 3 times now and only once did it get him to school on time. Once the bus didn't turn up and when the next one did (20 mins later) it was too full to get on. The third time we tried, the bus arrived on time but was too full to get on. (We are trying to catch it on Underill Road). The bus is too infrequent (every 20 mins or so between 7 and 8 in the morning) to wait for the next one. Does anyone use the bus at that time of the morning with any success?

cactus Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I'm tempted to have my 6 year old vaccinated, he's > been exposed to > chickenpox on at least three occasions but has > never caught it, unless he had such a mild dose > that none of us noticed! My understanding of chicken pox is that a significant proportion of the population has natural immunity to it. Therefore if your son has had 3 exposures to it already with no reaction then he may be naturally immune. Also it is very easy to miss very mild cases eg my son came down with 2 spots only.

I flew at 34 weeks with BA. It was just a short flight to Belfast. They insisted on seeing the doctors note at the London end but not at the Belfast end. The flight itself was fine.

Or a train driver

Buggie is right about how colour blindness is inherited. I am the daughter of a colour blind man and so am definitly a carrier as I received his defective x chromosome. However I have produced 2 non-colour blind boys as they must have inherited the 'good' x chromosome from me. I can't tell whether my daughters are carriers or not as they may have inherited the defective or good chromosome. None of my children were tested in school - perhaps that is a state/private difference. They were all tested by the optician at their first eye test at the age of 5. It is worth checking in a few years time as it can cause problems at school.

We are also very sad about the loss of Saturday drop off but at least we still have Holiday drop off to look forward to.

I would second Emmanuel also. We are using him for maths and science tutoring and he has built up a great relationship with my son.

yet another recommendation for Simon. He did my daughter's 4th birthday party and the kids had a brilliant time.

My lo was 8 months when I went back to work. She wouldn't take a bottle but survived very happily with ebm in an open cup (obviously closely supervised). Fed from me in morning and evening(and through the night)so wasn't at all confused. Even though I was only a contractor, my city firm was very helpful - i was able to express in a sick room, lock the ebm in the fridge there and no-one batted an eyelid. Good luck with your return to work.