Bellenden_Mum

I am glad this thread is re-open as putting aside the post from NewMummy (very weird??) I wanted to respond to YummyMummy by saying that we were parents who were unhappy and DID remove our child from the nursery. I don't particularly want to give the full story (which is why I pm'd the initial poster) but it is was not an easy decision to make as we were worried about the implications for resettling, etc. I can only speak from our experiences and yes, in the future I would move my child more swiftly when I was unhappy, but I dispute that it is a straightforward decision. Who knows, maybe we were just unlucky, but conversely perhaps you have just been lucky? It is much easier to pass judgement if you have not had to deal with the situation we did.

I have sent you a PM.

I don't have a direct recommendation I am afraid, but I know that you can search for chartered Psychologists on the British Psychological Society website under 'Find a psychologist'. Also, if someone is recommended to you as a registered psychologist in a certain field, such as child psychology, you can check their credentials on the HCPC register.

BeccaL, I have a 20-month old, and when I went to visit the GP I was told I was old for a first time Mum. At the time I was also 31, so this still happens now! When I saw the midwife for my booking in appointment she was not amused :-)

Thanks for the very helpful messages and PM's I have received. I have some good tips to follow-up on now :-) For our situation a childminder (or nursery) are the best options - space and my work arrangements mean a nanny / au pair support would not be a good fit. Maybe in the future though! Thanks again for all the advice received!

Hi everyone, I'm hoping someone will be able to help us make the best of a bad situation.... We have decided to withdraw our 20-month old son from his nursery after an incident last week which resulted in him being admitted overnight to hospital and having to have an operation on his lip. My husband and I are very upset by what has happened, and are concerned about finding alternative child care for our son which will be nurturing for him, and build up his confidence again. We have family who are helping for the next few weeks, but they live a long distance, so this is not a long term solution unfortunately. Given the difficulties of accessing nurseries at short notice in this area, a childminder is probably the best way forward, and will perhaps be better for him after what has happened. So, sorry for the long winded post, but if anyone uses a childminder who has a part-time vacancy, and that they would recommend, I would love to hear from you. We've never looked into childminders before, and so that is why a personal recommendation would be really appreciated. We live on the East Dulwich end of Bellenden Road, so in a perfect world somewhere within walking distance would be wonderful. Anyway, I look forward to hearing from anyone who has any suggestions.

Just a quick thought - I would avoid Neurofen to control temp, as it contains Ibuprofen and there is a risk of spots becoming infected if Ibuprofen is given. Goggle the technical explaination if you're interested!

we used Virasoothe gel. That might be the gel people as referring too? It is quite expensive (about ?8), but is more effective as it doesn't try out on the skin. Oatmeal baths help to relieve the itching as well. Just put half a cup of porridge oats into an old muslin, or an old pair of tights and then run the bath leaving the oats to soak. There are guides on you-tube you can look at. It makes a bit of a mess, but as a side effect it made my son's skin very smooth! Good luck - my baby had chicken pox over Christmas, so I know how nasty it can be.