Hi Everyone, I work as a nanny whilst also finishing up my BA degree. My boss has become increasingly demanding and extremely self-consumed. I have attempted to do my best for this family. I get along very well with little girl I look after and always go above and beyond what they ask of me. However, recently she has put me in situations which I feel very uncomfortable with. I was wondering if I could receive some opinions on if I am over - reacting to things or if I am validated in feeling this way. 1). my boss has mondays and tuesday off, although I still work full days on those days. Recently their dog has been ill but my boss refused to take him to vet and demands that I do so instead. I was fine with taking the dog to the vet the first two times because I couldn't stand for the poor thing to be in pain. However, it became clear to me that she was purposely leaving the dog to be ill on the weekends and mondays and tuesdays and then forcing me to take the dog to the vet on Wednesday. For instance, I would arrive for work on Wednesday morning for her to inform me that the dog had been vomiting all weekend and during the early week and not eating food and insist that I take him to the vet. This meant that I was having to run all over town with a sick dog in order to take it to the vet and then have to make medical choices for her pet at the vet which I felt uncomfortable with. I expressed that I felt uncomfortable with this as it was their pet and my responsibility was to care for their child. I was told that I needed to 'suck it up' and that I didnt have a choice in what I was made to do at work. What annoyed me the most was that it was clear she could't be bothered to care for the dog and was just leaving it to me to do. She would also tell the little girl that the dog could die if I refused to take it to the vet which was very manipulative and made the little girl very distraught. 2) I was recently very ill with lower respiratory infection and was hospitalised for one night and then told to be on bed rest for at least one week. On the 2nd day of bed rest, my boss called to say there was an emergency with her child and that she didnt have anyone to watch her for four hours and asked if I could please watch her. I should have said no, but I ended up going into work only to find out that the two of my bosses friends had volunteered to watch the little girl so I didnt have to go in but my boss felt it would be less on an inconvenience to HER if I came to work instead. 3) I found a diary that my boss keeps on me which details everything I do that annoys her. This was left sitting on the kitchen table and I glanced at it because I saw my name and I saw that she had marked down the dates and times that I had done things to annoy her. 4) my boss lost her job for four months and during this time she would randomly give me days off (without notice) that she wanted to be home with her child without me being there - I was still paid for these days and was really appreciative of them. However, now she constantly tells me that I 'owe' her 'big time' for those days off and need to make them up with babysitting. I don't mind babysitting once a week or so but do not appreciate to be made to work for days that I did not request off. It makes me very uncomfortable with being told that I owe her for things I did not have control over. anyways, there are loads of other things that have happened but these are the main things that are on my mind now. What do you all think? Am I overreacting to things? I am going to be looking for a 'grown up job' now that I have completed my BA but in the meantime I need to keep this job as I can't afford to be without it. sorry for the long post! Any thoughts would be appreciated!
