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Hi Polly, M does the same. I've never been worried about it - well, not till I saw your post! He is 3 and one month now and his nappies are FULL in the morning but has been potty trained since he was 18 months. I don't make a big fuss about it apart from joking when he wakes up with a bum twice the size he went to bed with. He knows he should go more often during the day and he does go at nursery. I think with M it is because he is so busy during the day he doesn't want to stop whatever it is he is doing. Good luck with it.

Littlemoo, I agree - afternoon with older ones are better for me too. Shamefully, unlike what i did with my first, I am avoiding all baby related activities when I am with her only, and prefer to stay home to catch up with chores, do yoga, read, etc. Although I am going to the cinema again on Thur! Laura - huge congratulations! B

Strawbs - she is now 6 weeks.. i have started using colief but really expensive... will try gripe water. Thanks.

Esme - I donated milk to King's for two and half year with my first son, but i didn't mind as there was no other worry. This time I just don't have the energy to express with a baby who is so sick and with an active 3 year old. Btw no improvement yet and the doctor had not even sent the referral to the hospital, so I m still waiting. I think the situation is now aggravated by terrible wind - sometime her farts and burps are louder than a man who's had 5 pints and curries! I feel so sorry for her. The sleeping is not better as it's constantly interrupted by pain and the nights are still brutal - normally sleep between 10.30 and 1.30...

unless the baby doesn't sleep! Life with my new one is just too unpredictable now to make plans. Enjoy meeting tomorrow. X

thank you. I hear what you're saying. I took Jaya to A&E already and it took 4 hours to see a junior doc who wasn't too sure about what to do and was waiting for a senior pead, so eventually i had to discharge myself to go to nursery and pick up my oldest. I felt it was a total waste of time. I am in contact with my peadiatrician in Italy whom i skipe with whenever i am concerned, so I am hoping she will be able to advice on dosage (i have scales). I am not ruling out King's at all. I just feel i don't want to wait the 18 weeks I've been told i will! I am also duing the laying back when feeding to stop oversupply and that's really working, too well in fact that i don't seem to have enough to express. What formula have you found best? Thank you

lupav5 thank you. I do try to 'connect' with other sleep deprived mothers out there who are trying to console a wailing baby in the middle of the night. i know that this is just a phase - that's my mantra- and it will pass soon. the good news it this: my mother has bought both renitidine and domperidone in italy and has sent them to me. they will be here on monday. so i don't have to wait god knows how many weeks to see a pead at kings! i hope one of them works. to all of you: which one was best for your child?

Congratulations Nicki! 5 days wow! You need a medal. Sorry to miss the meet up. I was back at Kings for the breastfeeding consultant who thinks that as well as reflux (baby), I have oversupply (I knew). So tomorrow my partner is working from home so he can take the older one to nursery while I stay in for 4 days and lay back at every feed and try to space out the feeds... wish me luck that this might improve things and I can have a happier baby and some sleep! Hopefully up to meet next week. X

Belle - what special milk was he having? and how old is he now? Stawbs - happy to meet for coffee, my older is sick at home (joy all round here) so prob not for a couple of days, but maybe fri? GP called me this eve (!) and said that if i have a word with the hv tomorrow morning he will refer me to pead either at kings or sunshine house... he probably felt guilty all day. if it takes too long to get referred tho, i will certainly go to a&e. i m getting so exhausted and sadly my compassion goes at times...

thank you fuschia and belle just a question for everyone - were your little ones putting on weight while having reflux? the midwives just came to discharge me and told me she is putting on enough. thank you

just went to doc for the second time as i thought she was choking to death during the night and things have not improved at all, on the contrary. very disappointing. he only prescibed calpol and insisted that i do regular thu visits to the health visitor before pressing on with a peadiatrician... in the meanwhile i had this thought: how would he like to spend 3 months in such pain that he screams in agony for 6/8 hours a day making him unable to eat, sleep or go to work? i think he would take some strong medication! and i not an advocate for drugs (i had 2 home birth with no painkillers and the last time i took something was a paracetamol about 6 months ago for a cracking headache), but spending the first few weeks (months?) of your life in pain is not a good welcome to the world! sorry for the rant.

Well done Ruth! Also sent you pv. Thank you for the book! I have missed a few posts, but I guess that the meeting was today. Or is it tomorrow?

My baby's reflux is just getting worst and worst but I don't want to go to A&E again and the only app with doc is Tue 3.40... do you have some ranitidine I could have till then? Thank you

hello yes, she is swaddled at night, which helps slightly. strawbs, if i get so desperate to think of meds again, i will certainly be up for a meeting to hear all about them! thank you last night we tried white noise and it helped a bit, but it gave me a cracking headache! oh dear. still hanging in here tho.

WOW! more babies coming. I am def going to Ritzy to see Haywire (American action thriller in the style of Bourne) at 11 on Friday, there is also Shame on at the same time, but it seems a bit depressing and intellectual and I m not sure my brain / emotional state can take it at the moment. I am meeting a friend there about 10.30/10.45. I have short black (going white) hair and a screaming baby - for those who don't know me. B

well done pickle and pippa, i am so please for everyone! we are growing in number... even if i still haven't met any of the new babies. sorry to miss mon, i was registering the birth. also had a trip to doc, who confirmed reflux for j. i hope it solves soon as i would like to sleep at some stage! i wonder if anyone is planning another meet up this week? i m going to try the cinema again on fri at the ritzy, but also up for a civilised sit down with a hot choc n cake somewhere! b

sunlover, yes, you are right, so i have started expressing at the beginning of each feed so that she does get more nutricious milk went to the doc yesterday who did diagnose reflux. good to know that it is that, but doc was also quite in favour of letting nature just take its course. he explained that it is her stomach and digestive system getting used to milk/food and the outside world and if i put anything into the equations (probiotic, dentinox, fennel tea, gaviscon...) i am only upsetting the natural system which is trying to find its way and its balance. the best i can do for her, he said is to be patient and calm...so i have accepted this explanation as the cosmos trying to teach me a lesson! i need to be more calm and patient - despite being a psychotherapist and a yoga teacher i often struggle with both, so i am now seeing my new daughter as my ultimate zen master! fingers crossed!

littlemoo: i tried that last night and there was almost no crying, but then she fell asleep on me and every time i tried to put her down, she would first complain then cry so i put her back on me (upright), and it becomes a vicious circle!

Saffron, I breastfeed her in bed both on the side, while holding her head up or not and laying back so that the quick let down doesn't overwhelm her. I've tried everything... Bad night again... But at least the sun is shining now! Simone, I guessed you didn't but I also wanted to make sure that people didn't think I was advising them to breastfeed only on one side!

Handstands, I have been doing that a lot since it is part of postnatal and baby yoga, which I teach. In fact, thank you for mentioning it as i would recommend it for all babies regardless of whether they are windy or not.

I have an Amby but I have not started using it because the baby needs so much feeding at night, I find it's too much effort event to just lean over and take her from the side of the bed, I prefer her in bed with me. But I will try if - when!- she starts less at night. However i will def keep up with the upright feeding and settling. And will ask the breastfeeding clinic about (silent) reflux.

Simone, I wasn't adviced to feed from only one, it was a decision i took after my first born because I have a scar on one breast which means the skin is too thin to bear the sucking so keeps tearing open - bleeding and pussing. I am not advising anyone to do the same, in fact i woudl love to breastfeed from both as I feel like Dolly Parton on one side and Kate Moss on the other! The advice of keeping her upright (not sure who suggested it) was helpful as last night at 3 am after an hour of crying, i suddenly remember and kept her up instead of trying to put her back to bed. She fell asleep after half hour and then 20 minutes later i put her on the bed. And she had a good nap. I was in A&E yesterday because she fell off a child desk (!) and the pediatrician checked her tounge but only at the front, so i might ask Claire about posterior t tie. Thanks Thank you for keeping the advice coming. And the sympathy does wonder as I don't feel like I am doing something wrong, that's just how she is and it will get better! Thanks

Hi everyone I have a sling, 3 in facts and she sleeps quite well in the stretchy one. My partner is holding her as I type as I've tried to get her to fall asleep since 6.30 pm with no luck. She just cries. Thanks Nicola, that helps. I am terrified that she will get used to certain 'rituals' to go to sleep (my partner singing a silly song and jiggling her..., althought that's not working either). She must be exuausted since she has been awake since 3.30 and I know that's far too long for a 3 week old. I will look into the silent reflux, ta. The crying which was only during the night is now also during the day and I am losing the will to live. I find a baby's crying so unnerving and exhausting, especially when I am trying to attend to the needs of a three year old. I keep telling myself this is just temporary, but it is still hard. I will consider the bottle for the first 'night feed' excep there isn't a break between feeds, so even if my partner had a bottle, it would be difficult for me to sleep because the little one keeps nursing at night, which, together with the crying also at night, is what makes life so hard. I could live with it during the day. Thank you

thank you everyone. I had a homebirth and midwives saw her latching and feeding and said there is no problem with it. No tongue tie either (not painful anyway). She does manage one long nap a day (2 1/2 hours) normally, it is the nights that are a killer - every 50 min last night! I think she is very difficult to wind as littlemoo says. And I probably do wrong when I use feeding as a way to settle. Trinity, I have tried Dr Karp in terms of swaddling (which helps a little bit), shshing (which doesn't help), rocking (which doesn't help much)... I am reluctant to introduce dummy, but it's next to me as we speak and very tempted to give it to her as she is wailing... Buggie, I m only feeding from one boob due to med problems, but I have a lot of milk and donated to Kings for 2 years. Let down is fast so I lay down or back. I have appoint with Breastfeeding Clinic at Kings next week. Sunbob, I'll try to take her off when she dozes of as I also think prob is she doesn't eat enough and so constantly hungry... Thank you

I have a 3 week old baby and I can't remember this misery/hell with my first, so please either offer advice or remind me that all babies including my first are like this! So here it goes. She is a grazer: feeds for 2-10 minutes at the time, then rest for 5-15 minutes then wants to feed again. This means I always have my boobs half out and I stuggle to manage my older (3 years) because I have to start and stop constantly. The newborn seems to be putting on weight, so this feeding pattern might be working for her on one level. But on the other, she also seems very windy and during the breaks within feeds, she cries in pain or discomfort. I think she might be getting windier because of the air she sucks in while crying. I have reduced dairy and tried Dentinox, now I am trying a herbal teas for windy babies. Recently she also seems to cry because she only wants to be held. Last but not least, she takes forever to get settled: 2-3 hours so that I am awake almost all night with her crying. Inevitably i resort to feeding more and then between boob and exhaustion she eventually falls asleep... I think this is it. Thank you.