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Did you put any other single sex schools on your, application? May seem like an obvious question, but would make a difference to your appeal. It is also worth noting that it is the school that makes the decision not the council. I did go through an appeal with my son and most of the concerns and arguments are based on safety, health and well being. You must explain why you feel single sex education will not work for your daughter with evidence if possible. But do not focus on just this element as you have to be clear why only your choice of schools offer what other co Ed schools can't. For example if your primary choice is not the closest, there is nothing to say that you couldn't approach another co Ed school closer with spaces.
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Help with filling in an appeals form
alethea replied to staniulyte's topic in The Family Room Discussion
Did you put any other single sex schools on your, application? May seem like an obvious question, but would make a difference to your appeal. It is also worth noting that it is the school that makes the decision not the council. I did go through an appeal with my son and most of the concerns and arguments are based on safety, health and well being. You must explain why you feel single sex education will not work for your daughter with evidence if possible. But do not focus on just this element as you have to be clear why only your choice of schools offer what other co Ed schools can't. For example if your primary choice is not the closest, there is nothing to say that you couldn't approach another co Ed school closer with spaces. -
Not sure if anyone on here can help, I was wondering how rigid is the 'accompanied by an adult' policy is with regards to teenagers. My son went with some friends today and was basically asked to leave after being told they had to stay with an adult and not wander off. He said it looked like there were other groups of teenagers there. It was during the afternoon. I had told him that these were the rules but wanted to know if anyone had similar experiences. It's not like 14/15yr olds are desparate to go to fairs with their mum's or hang around with them.
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Not sure if anyone on here can help, I was wondering how rigid is the 'accompanied by an adult' policy is with regards to teenagers. My son went with some friends today and was basically asked to leave after being told they had to stay with an adult and not wander off. He said it looked like there were other groups of teenagers there. It was during the afternoon. I had told him that these were the rules but wanted to know if anyone had similar experiences. It's not like 14/15yr olds are desparate to go to fairs with their mum's or hang around with them.
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Thank you, that's good to know.
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Can anyone let me know if I will be receiving a fine, I have just driven down Burbage Road coming from half moon lane, however when I exited the road toward Dulwich village to then go onto Gallery Road, I saw that there were signs on the entrance to Burbage Road at this end, but I did not see any signs on the entry on my entry to Burbage Road. I've been trying so hard to avoid these, but it's really confusing and if you don't do this route often you feel a bit caught out. I'm not sure if these routes are one way at all or if it's just an all out ban on going up or down these roads. Thanks
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Whilst I haven't read all the information in full, I think it's important that there is a healthy dialogue and discussion around all aspects of sexual health and relationships, the exposure to unhealthy content is very easy and available to access. Being able to discuss this openly and informatively surely is not a bad thing. And yes maybe 13yr olds discussing anal sex may not feel palatable at that age, but it's something that should have an informed dialogue due to the amount of accessible content online. There was an interesting trial several years ago which involved a professional from the Netherlands educating a class on the uk in a more open way. This helped to give a more balanced and respectful viewpoint, with realistic and healthier expectations. To the original point regarding the dice game, I imagine this is a way to bring up the subjects informally to open up the conversation, as opposed to some dark alterior motive. Personally, probably far less embarrassing than having to watch a family playing badminton in the nude which was what I had. Sex Ed is always going to be devisive, but times change and the education has to change with it.
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There are often mixed thoughts around harris peckham. Often unfairly, but if you live locally and did not want single sex or a religious school, options do start to reduce. Factor in tiny catchment re the charter schools and the kingsdale lottery it becomes even trickier. Your best bet is to go and look at it, speak to the teachers and see what you think. In terms of outside space/ facilities it is one of the better served schools in the area.
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Hi there, I'm looking for some advice on what activities over the summer might be good for a 12yr old and working parents. Everything is very geared towards younger children and a lot of the courses available often site 12 as the older age implying that it will be more for younger ages. I feel that this is an age that feels really under represented in terms of providing things to do, a bit to young for some things but too old for others. I've tried the residential which although went well he would rather go with a friends which hasn't been workable. The sports side of things does tick some boxes but probably not for the whole summer. Any advice gratefully received. Thx
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What?s the going rate for school pick up?
alethea replied to DulwichZookeeper's topic in The Family Room Discussion
Hi there, It's usually the same as babysitting, the tricky part can often be that you may need to offer at least 3 hours as otherwise it might be worth their while if they are not local etc. -
Secondary School Admissions Form: Optional Question
alethea replied to nelenbinks's topic in The Family Room Discussion
Apologies if I get this wrong, but when you apply for your preferences NOT CHOICES on the form it is the council that eventually allocate you your place not the school. Therefore if you have religious reasons for wanting a school, you are not required to send the documents (priest letters etc) with the council form. It will be the school that will require those documents that you send separately. After you have made your preferences all of the names are then given to all the schools on the preferences, the school will then rank them to there admissions criteria, faith, lottery, distance etc. They then hand back all the names in the rank back to the council and then the council are responsible for the allocation. I am not quite sure how that part works, but assuming that it's some kind of complex algorithm. If in a situation where you may not get your preference I imagine that this box is used to avoid (for arguments sake) an athiest being sent to faith school, assuming that the faith school was undersubscribed and that the parents had not put down realistic choices. Having gone through this, I used the opportunity to validate my reasons for wanting my son to go his school as we were unable to put any other evidence together to either the school or the council. Saying that i dont know if it made any difference and it was a very stressful time. So take all the boxes you can and fill them in, it can only help. -
Hi there, It was a while ago 11yrs I had a vbac at Kings, it was something that I really wanted and they really encouraged. I had C section in my first pregnancy due to him being breech and in hindsight, a big head!!! In the run up to the birth they monitored the size of my baby, if it had of indicated that she was getting too big they would not have proceeded. The initial sticky point for me was that they do not like you to go overdue with a Vbac and as nothing was moving that quickly I had various sweeps and even talks of a balloon to try and get things moving. Eventually that did happen, the second slightly sticky point was that they advise you to go to hospital as soon as the contractions start, I did this and did get sent home to wait for the contractions to get a bit closer together. It was more of an inconvenience, who wants to be going to and from the hospital whilst in labour. The baby does have something to attached to them whilst you are in labour and you are always monitored so its not quite as holistic as perhaps some people would like. Despite being a long labour which did end up being assisted in the end with a vontose, it was absolutely fine, I had constant care with a midwife and the consultant was present for the birth and also checked in with me. I think a lot is dependant on why you had the C section in the first place, but the team really encouraged and supported me as I really wanted to go for the V bac. I think there can be assumptions and negativity around c sections but I don't think it's an easy option and I personally didn't want to have another one if I didn't have to and Im pleased that the hospital really supported me in this.
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Hi there, I sent an email to the Southwark Schools admissions, as I didn't get any of my choices, they advised me where I was on the waiting lists. I am having to email the schools with regards to how the waiting lists move. They can only advise you on the southwark school on your lists. Hope that helps.
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Late 20's male looking for football related fun!
alethea replied to Chiswmercer's topic in The Lounge
Think there is something at charter on tues nights 8.30 for adults, it may be to do with football magic coaching so you could email them. -
Thanks for the info, I think the issue is the item was a bit Naf anyway and possibly expectations were too high, my brother bought this and I'm trying to help him out, the seller basically has called him a thief and that he has committed fraud by wearing the garment several times and returning it which was not the case he just tried it on as any normal person would. Apparently he is keeping the garment as proof and evidence if he has to prosecute with the DNA testing, it's ridiculous, it was a ?50 fancy dress costume. I've told him to go ahead and call the police. My suspicions are that it's either been resold, binned or was damaged on purpose either way he's not in a position to send it back. I'm sure there is something in the law that a transaction had been done so if a refund is refused whether rightly or wrongly you still have a right to the goods.
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Am hoping there may be someone out there that can answer this, What is the rights of a consumer if You bought something online via amazon It was too big and poor quality You miss the deadline for returning You ask for a refund They refuse Amazon come down on the side of the seller You now have NO refund NO item Are you entitled to your item back? I have just had the most comedy of conversations with A horrible customer service who apparently did a DNA test on a fancy dress costume worth ?50 to prove it had been worn more than once, apparently it's different DNA to that if you just try it on!!! I don't know if anyone can help. Thx
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Hi there, I have really struggled here and didn't realise the complexities of my 8 yr old son being able to play for a team. He would really like to play for a team and I think it would be good for him, however I missed all the trial deadlines and the ones that he did to he was too young for. Can anyone enlighten me to how I might be able to get him into a team or what options are available. He does currently do drop in sessions which are good but I wondered if there was anything else. Obviously I'm not just assuming that he will get in and would have to be good enough but I think we might have just missed the boat on it all. Thanks
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School places offers day tomorrow
alethea replied to Mariamadeit's topic in The Family Room Discussion
My son currently goes to Mary Magdalene and is in year 2 and my daughter has a place there this coming September, it's a great SMALL school, there is a lot of support and good passionate caring teachers. The reason why no one hears much about it is that it is hidden away off the radar but that doesn't mean it's not good. It only has 30 places each year a lot of which are c of e faith places. I wouldn't rule it out straightaway. -
I'm from Haywards Heath and it's fine, close enough to London and Brighton. It has good schools, great playing fields in hindsight and a nice buzz. The surrounding villages are great but having had a boyfriend who lived in various ones it was pain as you are totally reliant on a car which can be tricky when you have older children or commuting. I'd say it's more diverse culturally if that's what you are looking for but not like brighton. There are supposedly good and bad areas (I probably came from the bad one), but its very different to London. Good luck, sussex is lovely, I just went this weekend, discovered Petworth, beautiful.
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Best way to help a friend some may find upsetting
alethea replied to alethea's topic in The Family Room Discussion
Thank you for all the posts, thank you dildals for your experience. I am seeing her tomorrow, so it's been really useful. I'm going to give her the poem as she is keeping a keepsake box and I think it sounds like its important to talk to her about her daughter. I think it sounds like she is coping, publicly anyway. I've no idea what it must be like but hopefully she will get to a place with it. -
Best way to help a friend some may find upsetting
alethea replied to alethea's topic in The Family Room Discussion
Thank you that was really useful reading the thread, her husband said she doesn't want any cards or flowers, but a letter sounds like a good idea. As it's so fresh, I didn't even ask her husband what the baby was or anything, I thought if he's having to explain to everyone it's probably difficult so I didn't press anything. -
I have received some terrible news today apologies to anyone reading this who finds this upsetting, a good friend has lost her baby full term, I really want to be there for her, I wondered if anyone had any experience of this wouldn't mind sharing any advice on how best to help her, I've only spoken to her husband and didn't feel appropriate to ask any details I've obviously offered to be there, but not quite sure what to do next and when. I can't begin to imagine how this must feel but want to help.
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Thanks for the replies, it seems there is no quick fix, I did try the childminder and it was a nightmare. Because I needed the school pick up she hadn't anticipated or thought to try to see whether it was viable with her own children with them being different schools. Because she hadn't researched this, she then went to the wrong school, was late picking my son up and after that 1 day then said that she wouldn't be able to do it anymore. It left us seriously let down and my son got very distressed by the whole instability of the situation. Obviously this is not reflective of all childminders but it's made me wary. My best situation was when we had a student who was training to be a teacher, that way the shorter hours suited her and she was studying for a period of time so it meant we had some continuity. But those people don't seem to come along very often now.
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Do you mean the stern hall lane branch, my son does some before school care and I'm very impressed with how professional they seem. It doesn't have outside space but they did say that they take them out.
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