OK clever clogs, if you must know, I had a child at a very young age and I have been saving up for my travels for several months now - I know I made mistakes but this should not stop me from enjoying the rest of my life! As for the 16 year old, he is in fact my brother but I did not want to expose him on the world wide web... which I have now had to so thank you very much. Overall, I did not expect so much vitriol and spite from a community forum, and have received some highly rude and unhelpful responses to some very real problems. So, Pickle and peristalsis, would you like to wear a robe as you judge others less fortunate than yourselves?