It's funny, Steve T, that most of my girlfriends (who are happily married or partnered up) were the ones with property, capital etc when they met their blokes and with few exceptions it was the men who moved into the women's properties, had their debts paid off etc....me included. Yet my ex husband seemed to think he was entitled to my house, my money etc,etc even though I was left with a young baby and had given him nearly ?30k already paying off his debts due his general uselessness...so I think your scenario of horrible, money grabbing women taking men for all they've got in a divorce is rather old fashioned as it's not what I have experienced at all. Of course there are women out there like that I'm sure, and am sorry if that's how you see things. Anyway, didn't want this to turn into a debate on divorce as actually that's not the issue for me - am not in any way bitter or put off marriage/relationships. I just chose very badly but that's my mistake to deal with and move on from.