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Thank you all for your comments; really appreciated. We'll need to think about it a bit more before we take the leap. Our children are still quite young (little girl is just over a year) so I guess it would be a fairly full on adventure!

My partner and I have recently started talking about having another baby. We have two children and are financially stable. We have a good lifestyle by all standards and bearing in mind how tough things are; we are very lucky. My gut says YES but my head says, let's think about it. Maybe a list with pros and cons? Like many of the mums (and dads) on the EDF, I think two kids is a good balance, plenty of work and sometimes more than I can chew (I am the main carer for the kids). If we have another baby, I would imagine I'd need someone to help me with them (minder/au pair/nanny but to look after them with me not instead of me) and does that mean that the kids get less attention because obviously we have to spread it around? Is it selfish to have another child? How does it become a bit too much? If any mums/dads of 3 are reading, I would really like to hear your thoughts. I think we both want a large family but I don't want it to become too much and be more than we can cope with.

Katsu, you are a whole lot braver than me! I completely believe the 'habit' theory. The more you do it, the more you want it, because yes, it is nice; damn, better than nice and once you get into it, you wonder why on earth you don't do it more often and make a mental note to 'jump him' tomorrow like you read about on the InStyle type mags (who are those women and where do they find the energy!!!!). Until tomorrow comes and I am so knackered that I couldn't care less about dinner, what we watch on telly or the state of the house. I just want to collapse on the sofa in silence. I have even thought about going to see a doctor about the low libido but figure the answer will be, "you are tired, you have young kids, it's normal". Comforting, yes, helpful, not so much. Maybe I should take a trip to Ann Summers and the likes for inspiration. (those shops terrify the living lights out of me TBH) Note to self - swap cotton jammies for something a little less ... Well, just less! Thanks ladies!

I?m not going to beat around the bush. Does anyone find that their XX life has gone down the sink since having kids? My partner and I have a boy and a girl (3 yrs/9 mths) and I honestly have the libido of a sloth. By the time I?m done with nursery drop offs, nappies, weaning, washing, etc etc, the last thing on my mind is IT. I love my partner, still fancy him and he still fancies me (even if my breasts have taken the toll of 2 kids) and I would be sad if this came between us but I can?t find the energy or the mind space. We were never the 5-a-week types but at this rate, I won?t remember how to do it! So, if anyone has (honest) suggestions, please throw them in the hat. Before someone comes out with it, yes, I did try to read Fifty Shades but unlike many it didn?t ?revolutionize? my bedroom life ? I mean, whose breath really ?hitches? at the sight of their other half! So, here I am still searching. Thanks in advance PS. I?m weak so had to create a new account for this.