I had both my kids in Spain and lived there until eldest was 5 and it was so much easier. I never once got a stare or bad word or was made to feel bad if my little ones were being "challenging" i.e. hideous. but then we only went to family places. maybe the difference was that the family places were just normal places that everyone accepted would be full of kids at the weekend, and served really good food anyway - rather than cafes and bars selling themselves as "family friendly" when that just means they have a high chair. I think it the owners genuinely want to run a family venue that will be noted in the whole atmosphere. tho i sometimes think it's maybe just that kids don't get noticed so much in Spain because all the adults are shouting and making lots of noise too! used to give my poor Mum a headache when she came to visit but it was fun...