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We've had go get rid of the naps completely for my 2 year old as he wont go to bed in the evening if he naps in the day. If he is really tir d I let him sleep for 30 min but not longer than that. Without nap he goes to bed at about 8 pm, IF he naps he is up til 10-10.30 pm :(

Doesn't work on my 2 year old :( Think it probably would if he would be still and listen to the story!

Good idea to let your husband sleep with him! Hope you get some sleep tonight. Sleep deprivation is torture!

How your child sleeps has nothing to do with your parenting skills :) in that case I've failed both of my Children who both end up in my bed in the night, the baby 7 Months doesn't even have a cot yet... I live by the motto that as long as everyone sleeps I don't care where they sleep! Maybe try the mattress. He might just need reassurance right now and once he feel safe again he might go back to be ok to sleep on his own? Hope it gets better soon.

How about bringing Him in to your bed, or if not enough room put a mattress next to your bed in your room?

Ever since I had my second baby 6 months ago I've been worried about my toddler who is now 2. I have never been worried about him before, he has done all the things he is "supposed" to do until he became a big brother at 19 months. He doesn't talk yet, at all - he used to have a few words but haven't used them for about 6 months. He says "no" and "daddy" and "maaaa" for mummy. But that's all. I've been told that his play is too repetitive by a speech therapist and I'm not really worried that he is not ok, that he might have autism etc... He is very shy and doesn't interact much with other children. He gets excited when he sees kids running around in the park and runs after them and thinks that they are chasing him. He enjoys climbing, swinging, Running around. He used to be obsessed with cars but not so much any more. In the last few days he has started son grg this thing, he picks up books and stares at the cover... For minutes! He is very cuddly and affectionate... We've got an appointment to see another speech therapist but I'm worried sick that he is not ok. Could it be a regression because his got a baby brother? Has anyone else found that their toddler sort of stopped developing for a few months? I should add that we are a bilingual family and he hears two languages at home.

Maybe I'm setting the bar a bit low but I would thinks at completely normal. I remember my brother at ALL our chocolate treats one Christmas, we found the empty wrappers in his bedroom.

The clockhouse - kids are not allowed in the room at the front where the bar is.

I think the new part of the playground is lovely! Nice that there is now grass to sit on and proper picnic benches. I took my toddler there during the weekend and he was very happy to run around.

Thinking of taking my toddler for swimming at Dulwich leisure centre. He has only ever swam at water babies classes in a warm hydrotherapy pool before and I've heard the water is quite cold at Dulwich leisure centre? Is this true? Just a bit worried that my toddler will hate if it's the water is too cold!

Yes definitely! I have been thinking to come to one of your classes as I used to do powerprammibg when my first one was under 1. But with a toddler and a a newborn I think I'd find it tricky to keep my toddler happy in the pram. Would definitely be easier if he could run around!

I'm Swedish, got two boys - Oscar who will be 2 in June and Oliver who is three months :)

Its lovely! We have been here one year now, on Burrow Road. We were in a two bedroom flat in Nunhead before this and we are so much happier where we are now. The houses are in my opinion well built, well insulated compared to the victorian conversions I have lived in. And it is so quiet! Small house but enough for us, a family with a toddler and baby. I don't think the gardens are much smaller than a typical London-sized garden....

I had an epidural with my first. I was induced with a drip And has to wait 4-5 hours for an epidural as the doctor advised against it. Got it though and it took the pain away. Have to be honest though, i had a forcep delivery after failed ventouse and also got horrible complications all because of the epidural, an awful,'awful headache caused by a dural puncture. So for my second baby the plan was to not have an epidural. It was a back to back baby so it was very painful but I avoided forceps and ventouse and felt a lot better afterwards then with my first baby.

My husband suffered with this when our first born was a baby. PM me if you want to get in touch!

Thanks everyone for your input. Haven't got a tense machine, had one with my first and felt that it did not do much... Will look up spinal analgesia Saffron, have never heard of it!

Thank you Vez for giving me hope, it's so good to hear positive birth stories like yours.

Did not like the gas and air last time, made me nauseous and light headed but I will try it again for sure. Will also try to learn the hypnobirthng technique a bit better.... Hoping to be in the midwife led unit this time and to avoid being induced like I was with my first baby.

Hello, I'm due to give birth to my second child in a few days and am wondering if anyone have experience of being given diamorphine or other pain relief instead of an epidural? I had an epidural that went horribly wrong with my first baby, first of all it only worked on one side of my body, and it also gave me a duralpuncture which resulted in the most horrific head ache, it was the most painful thing I've ever experienced! The risk of that happening again is very slim, but I would rather avoid epidural completely to be on the safe side. I would also like my next birth to be quicker and not end in forceps, which I know is more likely to happen if you do have an epidural. But I'm not sure I can do it without any pain relief at all. My doula has suggested diamorphine if I need something during labour, but I'd like to here from people who have had it before considering it. I've also got the hypnobirthing CDs on my iPhone, and I've been trying to prepare by listening to it at home but find myself getting annoyed with the woman...not good! :) I would be most grateful for any input you guys can give me!

GlamourBug, I had a look at doula.co.uk and just did a search for doulas in south east London. They do get booked up so I would suggest not leaving it too late, we didn't decide on hiring a doula until a month before my due date and found it a bit tricky to find someone who was free!

We are in the same boat... Due to give birth any day now and with no family in this country, and we have never had a baby sitter or anyone else looking after our 18-month old son. Lots of friends offered to help but as we are not used leaving him with anyone I know inwouldnt be relaxed about it , specially as is still quite young. In the end we decided that my husband will not be there for the birth but instead look after our son, and that I will have a doula to support me instead. Not everyone would be happy with that plan but in our case I feel its for the best!

I have an Ikea Bag of baby clothes, mainly under 12 months though. WOuld it be of any use?

I am running a bit late but will wonder down to peckham and be there for about 11.20!

I will try to come as well! What time are you meeting?

Hello! I replied to this thread a few months ago but then forgot about it... I'd like to join you for your saturday mornings meet ups! Hopefully without toddler, as his dad takes him to dad's group most saturdays. Expecting second baby in January... I am also around in the week if anyone fancies meeting up then.