I would drop her naps at home. She probably naps in nursery as everyone else does! If you drop the nap at home get her to bath , put her pjs on have dinner. Read a book you have mentioned she does not like quiet time maybe try animating your voice?? Put the lights down low and slowly turn the lights off! Warm milk should help to before bed :) It's jus a routine she needs to get into so start at 6pm with bath, pj, dinner, read and tuck into bed! By 8pm she will be in bed. It will take time but she will fall asleep after a few attempts x