wow - can't believe everyone's stories. I returned to work a month ago and my word it's been the hardest decision of my life but I have to admit - don't worry it's not been as bad as i imagined and little ones do really adapt well. I decided to go back to my job (which i dislike) because as a teacher I get the holidays (although have to work some of it). I do have to leave at 7,15 am with little one in tow to the nursery which I feel bad about but aim to pick her up by 5 (despite it making me unpopular with colleagues) I work 3 days a week and am just very strict about saying no so I don't work 5 days in 3 and make sure I'm out of house on days off doing lovely things with little one so I don't check email!!! For me, I went for what offered me the most money. I don't want to work am jealous of those that don't need to but if I'm going to I want to make it worthwhile. Worked out that if I work now in a reasonably paid job then maybe I won't have to work as much if/ when we have our next child!