I vividly remember telling a close friend of mine that having 2 under 2 was a special kind of hell. We have 19 mo between ours. Now mostly it's much much easier (22 mo and 3.5) I happily take them most places in my own, the youngest has a consistent good lunchtime nap whilst the older one gets some time with me. Things that didn't work well for me in the early days were playparks or soft play (oldest couldn't manage anything really on his own), playgroups (oldest was a biter and everything escalated really quickly so I couldn't be more than a couple of yards away. What worked really well was feeding ducks, going for a coffee, horniman museum for the aquarium, cooking at home... It does get better, it is hard, take whatever help you can if going somewhere you know will be challenging go with reinforcements of a friend, another parent etc. different things will work for different people too, good luck.