xanthe

Hello, I am posting on behalf of my brother Lucas (xanthe) who had a car accident last night apparently on his way to your forum drinks in Dulwich, his car was completely totalled but thankfully he escaped with only minor injurys but quite bad whiplash and has been kept in hospital overnight for observation, his car was hit by a drunk driver apparently but obviously reports are still confused as it has only just happened, he asked me to post this message for him on his behalf, hope i've done it right. Rhona

Alan am definitely not a wimp, nor did I mention anything about being over sympathetic nor patronising as you seem to suggest either, all I am saying is that I happen to be thoughtful and think of others sometimes before myself, obviously unlike you as your post seems to suggest, nothing wrong with being compasionate and thoughtful to others needs, especially in the sack! I unlike some others do not believe women should be proverbially chained to the kitchen sink, and I approach and treat my other halves as equals while still respecting their individuality, if you call that wet, then wet I am. Relationships with Work colleagues generally are not really a good idea as they do not often succeed and can be awkward and stifling for either party at times, would hate to be joined at hip.

I don't know, maybe just guessing, I can't even sort my own problems out, let alone anyone else's!

And Chav there are definitely guyz out there who are shit hot in the sack and who are decent guys!! where do you look for/find your men? Or maybe you do just scare them off with an unconscious "f*** off and leave me alone if your nice" barrier, maybe its you who thinks you are not worthy, so therefore you rule out or put barriers up for anyone who might be good for you.....

But there you go, such is life, will have to take a page out of "Losttheplot"s notebook, try the treat em mean and be a total bastard tactic, ha! but seriously not in my nature, though it wouldn't hurt to keep someone on their toes and not be as available or easy going as I am usually, don't get me wrong I am not complacent, just easy going, and the fact that I now have 3 missed calls from her on my mobile may mean she has suddenly realised her mistake, or as Losttheplot mentioned, didn't wana buy me no christmas pressies, ha! but alas a little bit too late for my liking and if she is as finicky as she appears, well maybe she did me a favour dumping me as I am now a free agent!

And a clear conscience...

Yes there are always two sides to the story, I completely understand that, I just feel if there was an ulterior motive then she should have been decent enough to be upstraight with me and at least I could learn from the mistakes I have supposedly made in this relationship, this way gives you no option than to think there was fault on my own apart as opposed to her part, or her unwillingness to be honest or take blame for anything going wrong and instead dumping her guilt on me, but whatever, over it and getting ready for the arrival of 2008 with a clean slate.

Honestly I have been as cadid as possible and open, i really, as far as I am aware, have done very little out of line, have learned from past mistakes, have adapted and have changed hopefully for the better where necessary, and where it has been pointed out, one of my friends said it could be that she's just looking for some kind of excuse, maybe she just got bored and wanted to move on to pastures new, well if she did, why dump me this way? why not just say she wants to move on, or tell me, not just say any old thing, Its not like I can't handle it, I just find the whole situation weird and upsetting.

Kind of got, well did get dumped by my girlfriend a few weeks ago, (which is probably the reason for my sudden interest in the internet, although I'm not here to pick up women just trying to broaden my social horizons!), but can you believe it, (sorry just had to get this off my chest) she complained I gave her too much attention! (though we both had our own free space and didn't crowd one another, she'd stay at my house and I'd stay at hers randomley), she said one of the reasons she dumped me was because erm....I treat her too good and I work too hard!!! though she never complained about spending my money or ever moaned about me taking her out, she says she wants a bit of rough! but in what sense? to slap her round a bit? to treat her badly? I just don't get it, and there were definitely no complaints in the bedroom department ever, though not trying to blow my own trumpet or anythng, well maybe on my part small complaint as she was a bit lazy where that was concerned, but I was ok with that, There is just no pleasing some women or did I get it wrong? What a way to start the New Year! Sorry folks, just having a moan, nice to do it when you are annonymous he he! I am not for one moment suggesting that any ladies on this forum are or behave like this, just wanted to get a woman's perspective on it as I have not got a clue!!

Sorry Mamafeelgood, am originally from Peckham and only have one sister, and Jah Lush, definitely know what you mean about being addictive, I went to my sister's house for Christmas day and found myself highly disappointed that her computer was out!

Wow feel at home already! thanx for your warm greeting and welcomes X

Hi everyone, just joined your forum, thought I'd introduce myself and say hi, merry christmas to you one and all and here's hoping for a happy new year Xanthe