Hi , This really has started a long discussion and I am no longer feeling alone.Thank you everyone for all your comments. My worry at the moment really is that my first child came 3 weeks early ( still 8lb 5) and as I said before he came VERY quickly. I am thinking a planned c/s maybe the best option in many ways as I tore so badly but worry that I could labor early again. And I also have a Very active 2 year old and wont to be with him asap after baby and not in hospital Think maybe I just need to stop worrying and chill out. Maybe planned c/s and if I labor early I do the best I can . Will still try all the various tips mentioned above. What will be will be!x