Hi Siousxiesue, In my experience and the experience of people I know, it is mostly about getting involved in an activity you're interested in and/or enthusiastic about. Even for solo hobbies there'll be communities of enthusiasts. And there's plenty of things to volunteer in. I think friendships for men are basically contextual. You might get lucky and find a friend for life but mostly they'll come and go. It won't happen instantly, it takes time and a willingness to make friends. And you've got to know how to be a friend. https://m.wikihow.com/Attract-Friends Meetup.com isn't a bad place to start to find different groups to get involved with. https://www.meetup.com/cities/gb/17/london/ This is good for finding volunteering opportunities https://do-it.org/opportunities/search?location=East%20Dulwich&miles=10&lat=51.45208&lng=-0.06145&sort=distance&order=asc&page=1 I know some people who made a lot of friends playing games like Pokemon Go that make you get out and about and meet other players doing the same - and walking is very good for your mental health. If your brother is isolated, for whatever reason, just getting out there and getting involved will help - but it will take time and persistence. And it is hard to get out there if your motivation is low, but get started, keep going, be open, and it'll come together. Best wishes!