I could not read all the posts - quite a lot of them - so I do not know if anybody mencioned this. I would recommend you to read couple of books before you decide what to do - I know there is a lot of methods and theories out there but in thouse couple books I wont to recommend you is a lot of sence, ones you have a look you must agree they are based on common knowladge. Attachment Parenting : Instinctive Care for Your Baby and Young Child http://www.amazon.co.uk/Attachment-Parenting-Instinctive-Young-Child/dp/067102762X/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1282258480&sr=8-2 What Every Parent Needs to Know: The incredible effects of love, nurture and play on your child's development http://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Every-Parent-Needs-Know/dp/1405320362/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1282258672&sr=8-1 The Politics of Breastfeeding: When Breasts are Bad for Business http://www.amazon.co.uk/Politics-Breastfeeding-When-Breasts-Business/dp/190517716X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1282258745&sr=8-1 and there is a book called The Baby Book: Everything you need to know about your baby from birth to age two http://www.amazon.co.uk/Baby-Book-Everything-about-birth/dp/000719823X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1282258799&sr=8-1 this one is like a bible and manual (if one can say that :)) to your baby - tells you everything about their development in details - including types of nappy rash. I do not have my family with me so I had to learn everything from books and following my instinct and I think it was actually great not to have everybody trying to tell me how to take care of my baby - just follow my heart. good luck with yours :)