Adelle007

Hello everyone, I decided a while ago I wasnt going to bother arranging a party for my baby he's almost 1 (sobs) where has that year gone? Anyway with only 2 weeks left to organise anything I have changed my mind and decided that I do want to do something for him. I need help with ideas........... (I have a back up contingency idea if necessary which is to host a small Tea party for him at home) Ideally I would like to hire somewhere with a soft play area and range of toys as most of the children will be around the same age. However their will be a couple of older siblings attending so need them to be entertained too. HELP me please. Adelle :))

I love this thread soooo much. Its so true, most of it. Some of the posts have had me actually laughing and giggling to myself. I remember people warning me that a man will only do what you ask him to, no more, and sometimes less. Unless of course you ask again and run the risk of becoming a 'nag'. I thought my OH was an exception to this rule until I found myself saying 'can you do me a favour and give Baby O his lunch, or change his bum etc'. Why was this a favour to me if OUR baby needed feeding, or changing? SMILER - I agree with you completely on the Post Natal comment. Someone I know recently got diagnosed and to be honest there was a small part of me thinking - are you sure you are not just Peed off with your husband for doing so little and its not PND?!? Not that I am denying the illness exists just I'm sure sometimes the lines might get blurred between feeling 'let down' by your partner and being medically ill. Also, I remember being told in antenatal not to 'do' any chores or anything too strenuous in the 6 weeks Post Partum. Well if I had followed that advice I would have been like living in what would have looked like a teenagers bedroom spread across the whole of my house. Because he took that advice as being to both of us and I gave up within a few days and cracked on. To be fair when it comes to child number 2,3, or 4 you dont get the luxury of having this time to rest anyway! On the flipside my boyfriend and baby have a great relationship. And I am sure that my boyfriend will come into his own when our baby is older and wants to go and play football in the park with his Dad.... (watch this space). And in his defence he was up with me until gone 1am this morning with a poorly/ teething baby. I took over and and insisted he sleep as he needed to be up at 5am to drive to manchester. (I was up every 1/2hr throughout the night) And this doesnt always happen (though I am sure Men think we do) but I did take a sneaky nap when the little man took his this morning I NEEDED to catch up! Anyway Ladies I'm off to the library to pick up that book Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars. Despite his annoying features I wouldnt change mine from the world and he probably has these conversations with his friends about what us women do. Haha. Very amusing post. Adelle :)

How long ago did you give birth? If its recent dont be too worried you are definately not alone mine were terrible for a while. I embaressingly leaked a few times. I started off by simply trying to stop myself from weeing when I was sat on the toilet. To begin with I could hardly even slow down the flow, but gradually it did improve and now I can stop it. Its a SLOW process though and it all depends on how badly your pelvic floor has been damaged. If you are really worried you should go to your GP my friends baby is 5 months older and her pelvic floor is much worse than mine she still leaks she went to her GP and has now been referred to a pyhsio so there is extra help if needed. Hope it improves its not nice wetting yourself but dont worry it happens to most if not all of us after having a baby. Good Luck :o)