The individual sexuality of a person is indeed a private things should they want it to be (with obvious exceptions involving public life hypocrisy etc) but the sexuality of a entire gender is up for debate. One of the things I have noted about when women get together and discuss sex, is the level of confirmation and questioning involved, if layered with humour and sometime vulgarity. Women have to continously ask themselves am I normal because of the stereotypes that we are spoonfed on a daily basis and which is getting worse. Porn is much more mainstream now and hell that is a lot to live up to. Female nudity of a very specific type is everywhere - again its a lot to live up to. Women talk to normal women to reconfirm that their desires, their needs, their bodies are normal because film, magazines and some, not all men have a really skewed view.